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ORIGINAL: poise

I only play with one man, and it is in the comfort of our own home.
Our interactions aren't always intended to connect on some deeper level,
but simply a raw and primal need to satiate a physical hunger.
This in no way takes away from the deep connection that already exists for us,
both in and outside of any bedroom activities.
It's always a dance, as you say, but it's not always the same tune.

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ORIGINAL: dananddawn

Short version - when you play with someone, do you really connect to them deeply, or is it just ... play that last until it ends and then you go on your merry way? Do you see play as a physical handshake, good and firm and real, but ends when it ends? Or is it a hug that kind of blocks out the rest of the room?

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It isn’t enough to flog you for the sake of flogging you. I am skilled at it, I can do it well, and you will enjoy it. But for me, if you are able to hold a conversation with someone else during our scene, or when we are done you are clear eyed, or you don’t think about it the next day, it isn’t a scene that will feed me.

I have likened it to dancing. We can meet at a club, both go out on the dance floor, do the moves, and have a good time. But I don’t do that.

I want to grab you from the wall, take your hand and lead you into the middle of the floor, and sweep you off of your feet. To take you in my arms and lead you in a dance, where you no longer have to think or react, but to just allow the dance to happen. And that puts me in the same space, leading our joint dance, creating a joint connection. To allow things to be esoteric, our energies mingle, vulnerabilities open, we bleed desire into each other. Thought becomes mute and the scene transcends toys. We merge in the dance. The idea of conversation or who is watching or what is on TV tonight become things that are not part of us.

Scening, like other aspects of intimacy, are sacred to me. And, in writing this, I’ve found that key that I need in a scene – the intimacy. Not sex, not physical penetration, but intimate penetration perhaps is the way to describe it.

This kind of energy – be it sex, scene, or in a conversation where the world goes on hold while we merge mind and thought and words – is what I want in our dance. The trance, the energy, the connection that lingers….

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ORIGINAL: dananddawn

Short version - when you play with someone, do you really connect to them deeply, or is it just ... play that last until it ends and then you go on your merry way? Do you see play as a physical handshake, good and firm and real, but ends when it ends? Or is it a hug that kind of blocks out the rest of the room?