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RE: Being needy... - 8/10/2012 7:57:02 PM

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Hrrrm... slightly not on the same page. Look. If I did add that highly paid attorney of a slave I'd absolutely use whatever income stream she generated to whatever benefit I deemed best. It's not like I'd be stupid enough to simply ignore it. It's an asset and assets are made to be used... just as she herself is. What I'd be worrying about is some scenario like, "6 months into it she loses her job." Now... can I still make it all work or did I just default on pretty much all my promises? I don't need to support her in a lexus lifestyle. But I DO need to be able to ensure the basics... for life.. if that's how the dice roll.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/10/2012 8:13:32 PM

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<--- is needy..nuff said.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/10/2012 9:51:49 PM

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Throw out the word needy and substitute compatible. Do you folks want the same amount of contact? If so, then you're compatible. If not, then you aren't.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/11/2012 6:31:18 PM

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For us, I think we see things differently because in this day and age of the economy, it takes two usually to be able to even live comfortably and for both to be able to pay their bills.

Maybe because I was brought up in the old days that I have a simple life. No fantastic 50 inch tv, no 5 sub woofer stereo, no 2 terabyte blu ray recorder, no 2 holidays a year, no 460 thou house. I live within my means, pay bills, have a bit of money left over, eat what I want. The bottom line, simple.

So when I see a moment that I see a female for the future, she will understand that the life is simple. So no need to work. I am also in the thought that is you have the female slave then YOU provide for her. If you allow her to work then you still life off YOUR wage and hers goes into the bank and stays there, if you cant do this then do not own a female.

There is a difference to how people live, this is just how I will live. Others do their own life differently and it works for them.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/11/2012 6:41:46 PM

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For us, I think we see things differently because in this day and age of the economy, it takes two usually to be able to even live comfortably and for both to be able to pay their bills.

Maybe because I was brought up in the old days that I have a simple life. No fantastic 50 inch tv, no 5 sub woofer stereo, no 2 terabyte blu ray recorder, no 2 holidays a year, no 460 thou house. I live within my means, pay bills, have a bit of money left over, eat what I want. The bottom line, simple.

So when I see a moment that I see a female for the future, she will understand that the life is simple. So no need to work. I am also in the thought that is you have the female slave then YOU provide for her. If you allow her to work then you still life off YOUR wage and hers goes into the bank and stays there, if you cant do this then do not own a female.

There is a difference to how people live, this is just how I will live. Others do their own life differently and it works for them.

Well, I was brought up in the even older days. We had nothing. That's why I love my European vacations and 55 inch TV. :P

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RE: Being needy... - 8/11/2012 6:51:18 PM

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I would disagree on a statement blank across the board that all ..............* insert any orientation here* is inheriently needy. I think it's up to the individuals and what not.

Personally, I am needy, but I'm not a sub, I am a baby girl and a switch. And I have always been needy.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/11/2012 7:15:01 PM

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Please allow me to cuss, lol. If You or I were not in some sort of rational need of anything in relation to other of our beloved lifestyle humans such as love-sex -companionship -Dominance - surrender - ego support- control-validation- help-mentoring- or blow job's with enthusiastic swallowing lol etc..... then we would be FUCKING ascended enlightened beings, not the kinky flawed earth monkeys We are lol .

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RE: Being needy... - 8/12/2012 3:24:00 PM

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Well, I was brought up in the even older days. We had nothing.

This is just tongue in cheek........it must have been bad being bought up during the dinosour days, having the T REX running around and making fire through flint.......grins and chuckles....

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RE: Being needy... - 8/12/2012 5:23:46 PM

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I feel needy when I write an email and have to wait for a response but that is the fun part! I love the wait, the tease, the ignoring me part. Getting the answer or a msg back is so exciting, even if it is 24 hours or more later! So just look at it differently, being needy is not such a bad thing!
I do think there is craziness though. Where you are expecting and demanding a message back or pestering someone.
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RE: Being needy... - 8/12/2012 7:47:21 PM

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call me needy then. I like my big screen tv and the ability to take vacations and go somewhere at a moment's notice and going out to eat and nice clothes, haircuts and highlights, pedicures, massages, etc...
Then again, we both realize we have a two income household and money is not something that seems to make or break our relationship thankfully. It's pretty much a non-issue with us.

That's not to say he doesn't have any power over my income. He does. If he says I cannot do something or spend money on something then I don't but for the most part he trusts me and knows I pay my bills and I"m not crazy.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/12/2012 8:38:24 PM

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Then again, we both realize we have a two income household and money is not something that seems to make or break our relationship thankfully. It's pretty much a non-issue with us.

This is kinda off topic, so I don't mind if you don't want to address it here, or at all. But I'm kind of curious at how you guys make the financial side of things work, of him being in control of both incomes while you are not living together.

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RE: Being needy... - 8/12/2012 8:51:27 PM

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He has no interest in micromanaging and he doesn't concern himself with mine but if he ever saw that I wasn't paying my bills or that I was excessively spending or buying things he thought were not a good idea he would simply lay down the law. But he has no interest in looking at my bills or my bank account or anything like that. He just trusts me to take care of everything.

I mean I've been a single mom for over 16 years now and have owned two homes. If I don't know how to take care of finances by now I never will lol. Plus anytime I wanna buy a big purchase I run it past him first to make sure he's ok with it.

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