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ORIGINAL: BoundSlave4Life

I'm really interested to see what OP named her new profile. I'm rather curious.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: BoundSlave4Life

The Poly isn't what would be an issue for me. It's the lying.

What she described is not poly!

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I live alone and he said he lived with roommates that would not understand our lifestyle, so I was trained at my place.

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I definitely did not want to advertise my new lifestyle to the world, either. Not long after, my mom began dying of cancer. My sisters tended to her during the day and I tended to her during the evenings after work and on weekends. This ordeal lasted for about 4 1/2 months before she died. During this time we only saw each other a few times and I remember most of it being spent leaning/crying on his shoulder. Immediately after the funeral, I had to pack up to move to my new house.

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After such a long lapse, it felt like we had to start over, but we did and it was a happy, happy reunion. We progressed in our training/lifestyle. I suggested spending time at his place. He skirted the topic (first red flag). After that, I said I felt like he was hiding me so it’s time we met each other’s family. He said it’s been a very long time since he’s brought anyone home (second red flag). That’s when I started searching the internet and found the wedding registry. I confronted him with it, but he said it was before we met and they were just “playing house”. There was no time stamp on the wedding registry so I could not verify this. Later, I again asked to meet his family and he again said no. I continued to search and eventually found the site with the photos. These time stamps were the website’s time stamps, not on the photo from the camera. Two long phone calls and the next day, I said I needed to get away from “us” to get perspective. After thinking for a very long time about all the inconsistencies in his story, I texted him and said it was over. He continues to claim they are old sites and says he can’t keep defending himself, but can he still be my friend.

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Yes I was naïve and stupid for thinking people are generally good and don’t mean me harm. For those of you that are thinking “how can he be that convincing”, you should know he’s a police office and in my opinion they’re taught how to defuse dangerous situations by just talking people out of it. Besides, I doubt I was the first so he probably had all these excuses lined up.

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It’s pointless to tell his fiancé, because he’ll just say I’m some obsessed ex trying to cause trouble. Besides, after being with him for 5+ years and she still hasn’t seen the signs, then she’s really deeper under than I was and will believe him.

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ORIGINAL: PlayWithMe911
he’s a police officer

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ORIGINAL: PlayWithMe911
It’s pointless to tell his fiancé, because he’ll just say I’m some obsessed ex trying to cause trouble. Besides, after being with him for 5+ years and she still hasn’t seen the signs, then she’s really deeper under than I was and will believe him.

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ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

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ORIGINAL: PlayWithMe911
he’s a police officer

*throws up all over the place rather noisily*
OMG, I'm so sorry, it was a gut reaction, I couldn't prevent it. I'll have my slave clean it up immediately.
*wiping off my mouth*
Whoa, that was nasty. That happens to me sometimes when I hear about somebody wanting to submit to the police.
*throws up again*

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
This is true. If he was not living with his fiancee, it would actually be fairly to appear not involved to an outsider.

She said he has slept over and always answered her calls/texts. It would be hard to tell in her case since it seems that he is not living with the fiancee. My brother once had 2 steady gf's when he was young, maybe more. When the two found out about each other they both commented that they never suspected, that he always seemed to be with them- how would he have had the time to pull off another woman? Who knows how, but he did, and without the obvious tell tale signs of not being available at times.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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GENERALLY SPEAKING: women communicate in one way while the males communicate it another.

hell, IME, this generality transcends d/s;m/s;BDSM.

Oh Hell yes!

Nail. Hammer. Head..

(It's JMHO and all, but I think, very very broadly speaking, using wild ass generalizations that would make my Logic teacher die of shame, but I think women think with their heart, men think with their head. Or women react first emotionally, whereas men approach things logically. Men go ABCDEFG, women go ABQ9~7?>&6D something Cyrillic, then something Greek ...And just to avoid the feminine blast I feel coming my way, lemme add that I think this thinking with their heart, it makes women better people, more compassionate, more considerate, more bonding, and, oh yeah, better emotional communicators too. So no, it's not meant as an insult or anything derogatory or women hating, just a general observation.)

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ORIGINAL: PlayWithMe911
As a slave/sub, do I have a right to demand exclusivity?

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If he had roommates, I'd expect to be introduced to them. That we would have a full relationship, go to dinner, the movies, meet each others friends and families. Barbecuing with the roommates on occasion.

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Expect? Yes

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ORIGINAL: PlayWithMe911
As a slave/sub, do I have a right to demand exclusivity?