RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ?

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crazyml -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:49:25 PM)
Errm.... well to start with, this is a kinky site. People go to a lot of trouble to describe the things that they get off to. The trick... and it's a fucker.... is finding someone who, in addition to being a kinky match, you can bear to spend vanilla time with as well. [Ed for typo]

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:50:13 PM)
You are so annoying with these clinical questions. Your questions have no passion or feeling to them and that is because, I assume, you have no first hand passion or feeling about a real BDSM relationship. As everyone keeps telling you, it is individuals whose needs and desires mesh, not one size fits all. Why did my Dominant partners get what they wanted? Because, their submissive partner, ME, knew what she wanted and together we made it happen. They inspired me to want what they wanted and it became what I wanted. Duh.

Karnikula -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:50:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder His actions always match his words. Which is why your head got cleanly shaven? (I hope I'm not mistaking you for someone else here) Edit: quote: Your questions have no passion or feeling to them. On purpose. I'm not trying to convince you of anything I'm asking objective questions. Edit #2: quote: you have no first hand passion or feeling about a real BDSM relationship. Couldn't really let this stand in the room, out of everything already posted - that's just too far off the truth.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:52:26 PM)
Communication, chemistry, compatibility and commitment to the relationship/dynamic.

crazyml -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:53:03 PM)
Out of interest... and I ask this sincerely, in the hope of better being able to respond to your enquiries.... have you ever been assessed for aspergers?

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:55:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Karnikula quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder His actions always match his words. Which is why your head got cleanly shaven? (I hope I'm not mistaking you for someone else here) Edit: quote: Your questions have no passion or feeling to them. On purpose. I'm not trying to convince you of anything I'm asking objective questions. Ah...that is the problem then. This all involves passion, feeling and being subjective. There is NO objective question that can be determined as this is about people and relationships.

LadyPact -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:57:27 PM)
Who said ask? Let Me get out My "Jeopardy" voice and make sure all of My answers are phrased in the form of a question. I may choose to be polite. There may be times that it even sounds like asking. I might (not always) say please and thank you. The truth of the matter is that I'm not asking. I'm telling. That's kind of how an obedience based dynamic works. We haven't always been obedience based. We actually started out as service based. Yes, there is a difference. How did I acquire trust? Time. Saying what I meant and meaning what I say. Going the distance. You can't insta Dom your way into that. Look at the long term dynamics that you see on these boards. They all have it. Don't expect it over night. It happens over time.

crazyml -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:57:53 PM)
Boom!

littlewonder -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:58:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Karnikula quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder His actions always match his words. Which is why your head got cleanly shaven? (I hope I'm not mistaking you for someone else here) Edit: quote: Your questions have no passion or feeling to them. On purpose. I'm not trying to convince you of anything I'm asking objective questions. He didn't shave my head. It was a mind fuck. That's not to say in the future he won't. I never put anything past him. As for my responses lacking passion or feeling, how do I answer questions in such a way when the questions asked have no passion or feeling? And as someone else asked, have you ever been assessed for Aspergers? I was going to ask the same thing earlier but I figured I didn't want to be nosey but what the hell.....

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 3:59:15 PM)
lw, the question about no passion or feelings was asked by me to him, not you.

Karnikula -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:00:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml Boom! ? And no, no aspergers. Edit: quote: He didn't shave my head. It was a mind fuck. I thought it's all about doing exactly what he says, always. So how does "mind fucking" fit into your trusting relationship ?

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:01:08 PM)
The boom was to me, for my post was so accurate. I think. Right crazyml?

littlewonder -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:01:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 lw, the question about no passion or feelings was asked by me to him, not you. Ooops sorry. I lost track. lol but yeah you're right. [:)]

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:02:23 PM)
I know, he is making us all confused!!

crazyml -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:03:37 PM)
Right as rain sexyred

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:09:09 PM)
Yay, you never gave me a BOOM before, I l like it. [;)]

Karnikula -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:11:44 PM)
quote: There is NO objective question that can be determined as this is about people and relationships. A good newspaper will tell you about people, politics and so much more, objectively. Objective questions will bring out the truth in things: "Is this ball black?" "yes" case solved (what does this tell us, assuming the person who answers is honest he perceives the mentioned ball as black!). "What is your style of dominance?" "I usually use a good amount of mental manipulation with clear objectives in our consensual trusting framework. Is a way more complicated question, as well as answer, but thanks to this amazing thing called "brain" I can seize all these words and wring out information out of them. I don't want objective answers, actually I'm looking for very subjective answers (what is YOUR), answers that have passion and all that stuff, lots of it.

crazyml -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:14:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Karnikula quote: There is NO objective question that can be determined as this is about people and relationships. A good newspaper will tell you about people, politics and so much more, objectively. Oh bless your wickle cotton socks! You really believe that don'cha? Oh oh huggles!

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:14:39 PM)
But see, that's b/c you have NO frigging idea what a mind fuck is. So it seems all wrong to you. Since you appear so clinical in your approach, why don't you read some non fiction, Resident Sadist has a great book list and most of those titles can be found at Amazon for not too much money. I get you want to learn, but really you are trying everyone's patience here. You seem to be asking the same basic question over and over in a slightly different way. So let me sell you some clues cheap, since I highly suspect you are getting some of your info in online chatrooms. There is no insta-D/s. (It takes time to develop relationships.) There are no perfect subs. (Subs, being people, are human.) No limits slaves do not exist. (Slaves take on the limits of their masters.) Not all doms are sadists, not all subs are masochists, and just b/c you got the mean nasty sadist gene doesn't make you dominant in the least. And now I better stop before I confuzzle the poor kid.

sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:15:19 PM)
I hate people who try to intellectualize things that should be felt. To me, that is an epic failure on a personal level and shows some level of defensiveness and coldness. You want others to share their emotional issues, but you coldly want to remain behind a wall. Not buying it.

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