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LadyPact -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:17:18 PM)

Red, you are batting a thousand today.



sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:18:15 PM)

Thank you, LadyP, I appreciate that coming from you.



LadyPact -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:21:10 PM)

No problem at all, Red. That goes for here and the other thread, too.

(Yeah, I saw. <grin>)



crazyml -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:21:56 PM)

which other thread, I want to see more of this batting.



sexyred1 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:25:58 PM)

I think LadyP means the Mature Submissive thread, unless I am mistaken.



LadyPact -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:31:20 PM)


Yep.



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 4:57:52 PM)

I will state I understand being new to something and wanting to learn just as I understand learning by asking questions... still, this is not learning the duties of a job. There is no quantifiable answer here. You can attempt to frame your questions as "objective" but as you stated, an objective question implies an objective response or answer. Though I suppose you could get into the question of objectivity in the first place, I seem to remember that back in the stone ages when I was in college, they were talking about how perception and expectation fucked with "objective" results with in a scientific paradigm. I also remember reading a deconstruction of the scientific method which demonstrated the subjective manner of that form of inquiry.

So why the fucking hell is this idiot typing about this shit in the first paragraph?

Because it does not seem that you have really framed your questions in a meaningful manner. most of the questions which get well thought out, as well as meaningful responses are those which are specific to either specific situations or in the very least refer to a specific skill set. Those which are centered around a specific situation, tend to have more of a discourse/ dialogue dynamic to them with information being exchanged by all parties. Those based upon a certain activity or skill, at least garner background information which serves some sort of educational purpose that should then lead to disinterest or perhaps interest enough to actually go out and learn more.

Your question seems to those responding to attempt to exist in a vacuum and since you essentially have nothing to exchange in this dialogue, those attempting to respond are getting annoyed, bored or as I have seen questioning either your intent or credibility.

There is no fucking magic D/s wand sprinkling faerie dust, rainbows and unicorns here... some people play, some people fuck, some people have relationships and some are married. This is as varied as any other relationship or group of relationships... it is that simple.As many people as are in these forums, that is how many "styles" there are...





ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 5:30:27 PM)

This guy reminds me of someone keen to be a cordon bleu who has never been in a kitchen. He keeps asking for recipes, but he lacks the tools or the skills or the knowledge to put any of them to productive use.

He has to get up the courage to pick up a saucepan and try a simple roux.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 5:41:22 PM)

First allow me to laugh at 'simple' and 'roux' in the same sentence!

Next, I have added 'being twinkled at by our Crazy' to my bucket list.

OP, I'm using up my sympathy points on the nice boy looking for an older playmate. Good luck to you, plaqying twenty questions. You walk the path of mighty trolls!



ARIES83 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:06:25 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact


I may choose to be polite. There may be times that it even sounds like asking. I might (not always) say please and thank you.

The truth of the matter is that I'm not asking. I'm telling. That's kind of how an obedience based dynamic works.



I thought I'd just add my agreement to this.
I will sound like I'm asking for my partner to do
something, mainly because it sounds less
abrasive in social situations and also generally,
I don't want to sound like a pig.
Make no mistake though, I'm not asking.
And I will say thank you and other curtious things
a lot, because I was brought up with manners.
Nothing wrong with saying "thank you sweety"
I mean being a Dom doesn't mean that you are
by default, an asshole.

-ARIES



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:07:28 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

I mean being a Dom doesn't mean that you are
by default, an asshole.

-ARIES


Reads and re-reads... oh shit.



DaddySatyr -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:14:58 PM)

I didn't come to BDSM through kink. Because of my relationship style, I was identified by a lady I was dating as a "Daddy".

So, I've never been the leather-wearing, whip-carrying, do-it-my-way-or-else type.

I believe that if a lady has truly submitted to me, all I need do is make my wishes known and if it is in her power, my wants will be implemented in her behavior and practices.

I'm not talking about "dropping hints". That's bullshit. I'm talking about declarative statements.

"I don't like the blinds being lowered until the sun goes down" to me means that when I get home the windows will be "open" and the home will look pleasing. If the windows aren't open, there are only two possible reasons; 1) she couldn't figure out how to work a venetian blind (not possible for ladies I choose to become involved with to be that dumb) or 2) doing a small, simple task to make me happy was beyond her desire and she really hasn't submitted (or has stopped submitting) to me.



Peace and comfort,



Michael



sunshinemiss -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:18:23 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml


The trick is to find a sub who really wants to give you what you want.

I also have a "twinkle" that I unleash, albeit sparingly.



That twinkle you mention... like a blinding light for those who have eyes to see. [sm=hewah.gif]

*solo digo*




ARIES83 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:22:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI


quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

I mean being a Dom doesn't mean that you are
by default, an asshole.

-ARIES


Reads and re-reads... oh shit.



I have come to the opinion that you are,
(despite what you keep claiming)
Not an asshole.

So yer there goes your image buddy...[8|]



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:27:08 PM)

Aries, dude, they are all lies I tell you. Hell, in fact if I still spoke with either of them, I could give you references.



UllrsIshtar -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:31:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Karnikula

On purpose. I'm not trying to convince you of anything I'm asking objective questions.



Darling, I think it would be fair of me to say that I'm one of the most analytical and overanalyzing users on this board. I love to break D/s apart into little pieces and reason the fuck out of them, for no other reason than that I can. I can have a much drier, and much more clinical approach to answering questions that most users on this board... yet.

Your questions simple don't work for me, so I can't even imagine how much less they must work on some of the other people who have tried to answer them.

It's not that your quest for objective truths is bad. It's just that you consistently ask the wrong questions because you try to approach this subject as a scripted choreographed ballet performance instead of an emotional tribal style dance.

It doesn't work for you to ask "how do you script your D/s relationship? And how to you handle the choreography issues? Who does the choreography? And why did they decide on move X instead of move Y?"

People don't practice D/s that way. Instead, when the fire is lit, and the drums are going in the moonlight. Dances find each other by the edge of the fire and feed of each other's energy until they find a rhythmic harmony that makes them able to anticipate and interact with each other's moves to the point of becoming one fluid dancer, instead of two ridged styled and technical entities dancing in a pair.

Asking the "how" doesn't work. There is no "how". There is only fire, and drums, and energy that flows.
What you should be asking to get the answers you seek isn't "how", but "why"...

You should be asking how people feel... and why they feel... not how they achieve.






Lucifyre -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:35:32 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

This guy reminds me of someone keen to be a cordon bleu who has never been in a kitchen. He keeps asking for recipes, but he lacks the tools or the skills or the knowledge to put any of them to productive use.

He has to get up the courage to pick up a saucepan and try a simple roux.



do you know how easy it is to fuck up a roux?

just sayin...

Lucifyre



ARIES83 -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:40:37 PM)

Your not making it half obvious you've
read the gorean stuff...
The counterpoint of analyzation and primal
romanticisation is unmistakable.

You sound like a typical girl, and very
sweet.

-ARIES



Lucifyre -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:42:22 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact


I may choose to be polite. There may be times that it even sounds like asking. I might (not always) say please and thank you.

The truth of the matter is that I'm not asking. I'm telling. That's kind of how an obedience based dynamic works.



I thought I'd just add my agreement to this.
I will sound like I'm asking for my partner to do
something, mainly because it sounds less
abrasive in social situations and also generally,
I don't want to sound like a pig.
Make no mistake though, I'm not asking.
And I will say thank you and other curtious things
a lot, because I was brought up with manners.
Nothing wrong with saying "thank you sweety"
I mean being a Dom doesn't mean that you are
by default, an asshole.

-ARIES



This is one of the things Mr stays on top of as well. He always says please and thank you...for more reasons that just being polite though. He knows that if He says them my brain will process His order much more smoothly PLUS we have kids, so if they hear Him saying please and thank you to me when He tells me to do stuff, they will nautrally pick up on thm and hopefully learn to be polite as adults.
So far so good, the two big ones figured it out...and the little one is doing ok thus far as well.

Lucifyre



Lucifyre -> RE: What is your (your dominants) style of dominance ? (8/20/2012 7:47:14 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


People don't practice D/s that way. Instead, when the fire is lit, and the drums are going in the moonlight. Dances find each other by the edge of the fire and feed of each other's energy until they find a rhythmic harmony that makes them able to anticipate and interact with each other's moves to the point of becoming one fluid dancer, instead of two ridged styled and technical entities dancing in a pair.




I just have to say I really really LOVE this!!

Lucifyre



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