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Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:01:00 PM

Babywilly

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Hey everyone! Im new to the site! And kind-of new to the whole mistress thing.

I grew up with some family problems.. moved out when i was 15. (being abused and shit, not really wanting to start a sob story) but for a long time in my life ive been wishing, and wanting someone special. Someone who can baby me, and give me the love i never really had, (accepting my AB/DL side) but also treat me as a slave, aswell as a baby. Someone I can cook/clean for, and devote my life to, and in turn, have a loving, and caring mother figure to look up to, and love.

Now for the reason im writing this, you all are masters in these fields, and im sure (me) being an ABDL doesn't phase much of you, but i wanna learn more!

Am I normal? Are there alot of guys/girls (maybe not my age(18) ) that want to devote their life to a woman, (or man) and in turn only want love, and harsh discipline? I feel like i am alone on this, and thus im hard on myself :( thinking im a freak....

help me someone?

Im looking for a mistress/mommy to give my all to, here in Minnesota by the way :)

-love

baby willy

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:06:33 PM

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Not My turn to suffer fools. Somebody else step up.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:09:42 PM

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You don't need BDSM. You need a therapist. No offense intended. You're not going to resolve deep-seated issues from childhood by getting involved with a Mistress.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:11:57 PM

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I cannot. I got in trouble for being mean on introductions.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:19:44 PM

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Willy, you really need to talk to a therapist and work thru some things before you get involved in this.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:25:21 PM

Babywilly

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i know what i want... and a therapist is not gunna help. try convincing the millions of ABDL's in the world they need a therapist.... lol

i have a good head on my shoulders... and i was thinking id have some positive feedback, and maybe get a friend or 2 out of this. but maybe i was wrong...

sorry, maybe i should do some more research on my own.

didnt mean to ruffle all of ur feathers... just looking for some feedback and kindness.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:28:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Babywilly

i know what i want... and a therapist is not gunna help. try convincing the millions of ABDL's in the world they need a therapist.... lol

i have a good head on my shoulders... and i was thinking id have some positive feedback, and maybe get a friend or 2 out of this. but maybe i was wrong...

sorry, maybe i should do some more research on my own.

didnt mean to ruffle all of ur feathers... just looking for some feedback and kindness.

I'm not trying to convince them. I'm saying that someone who has been thru as much rough stuff as you have in such a short time needs someone who knows what they are doing to help you out. An amateur can hurt you badly. You have a really long life ahead of you and the first part of it has been rough. Lets work on making the rest of it more fun.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:32:42 PM

Babywilly

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fun is exactly what i want!

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:32:47 PM

LadyPact

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Any supporting research of the "millions" of AB/DLs?

Odd. If you can verify there are millions, why do you create a post asking about if you are alone?

There are a number of AB/DL groups out there. Not so popular on these boards, from My observation. One of the reasons that pro mommies make bank.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:38:30 PM

Babywilly

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are u kidding me?

if you payed 2 cents of attention to what i was initially saying, youd know that the fact i feel "alone" has NOTHING to do with my abdl side.. but everything to do with my side of wanting to devote my time and love to someone.

with all ur knowledge of ABDL's YOU of all people ladypact would know, that it is very uncommon for a mommy and a mistress to be mixed.

they 2 have COMPLETELY different roles, but i seek them both in one person.... that is where i feel "alone" and wanting help with...

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:40:14 PM

Babywilly

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and what you JUST said makes me refrain my original statement...

"There are a number of AB/DL groups out there. Not so popular on these boards, from My observation"

this is exactly what im asking.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:40:15 PM

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The other posters are not suggesting a therapist to 'cure' you of your AB/DL fetish, they are directly addressing your statements that you are trying to compensate for a relatively recent episode of familial abuse.

You are getting the help, feedback and kindness you are looking for. Many of us have been doing this kind of stuff for many, many years. Being a slave is not easy. It's not a way to rewrite the trauma you had in childhood and make you feel better. In fact, unless done very carefully it could even make things worse.

Female dominants can pretty much pick and choose who they want a relationship with - the number of male subs/slaves available far outweighs the number of available female doms. Your particular fetish narrows down the available pool of female doms considerably, making competition even tougher.

If you want to succeed in an adult relationship which successfully includes a fetish like AB/DL, then presenting yourself as 'damaged goods' (for want of a better phrase) is going to do you no good at all. A much better approach would be to seek help to cope with the abuse you endured so that you are the kind of adult male that a grown woman wants to be with, who just happens to enjoy AB/DL too.

Having said all that, I welcome you to the discussion side of the site and would suggest that judicious use of the 'search' feature is your friend when learning about the realities of being a slave. Good luck!

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:40:21 PM

Shininglight23

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Hi there Willy,

If you scoot on over to FetL... I know they have some AB/DL groups. I'm not familiar with the particulars, nor am I familiar with the groups in Minnesota, but as LadyPact mentioned... it isn't common on these boards.

I really wish you well in what you seek. I'm not going to say you need therapy because I don't know what you've gone through, but I will say this.... You felt the need to express.. in some way that you were abused here and on your profile.

In my opinion that is screaming for help. Sometimes it takes a professional to help, and sometimes it doesn't. Where you seek your comfort is up to you... I hope you find it.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:46:01 PM

MistressDarkArt

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Welcome Will,
Have a look on Fet for AB/DL groups. As LP said, it's just not a very popular theme here. I can think of one regular poster who calls herself a 'mommy domme' but she's the only one I've seen since I joined almost 4 years ago.

The reason it's not so popular is most women have either raised their children and don't want a repeat 'for fun', or like me, have chosen not to have kids (of any age, especially diapers!)

It's possible but you will need to be patient and offer a hell of a lot in return (either in $$ or other services, probably NOT sexual.) Best of luck to you.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 10:51:56 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Not My turn to suffer fools. Somebody else step up.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

There are a number of AB/DL groups out there. Not so popular on these boards, from My observation.

However, if you check out Fetlife, they have oodles of ABDL groups on there. And Fet is free just like CM is. They offer you the option of being a supporting member, but you don't have to be.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/22/2012 11:22:42 PM

LadyPact

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Babywilly

are u kidding me?

if you payed 2 cents of attention to what i was initially saying, youd know that the fact i feel "alone" has NOTHING to do with my abdl side.. but everything to do with my side of wanting to devote my time and love to someone.

with all ur knowledge of ABDL's YOU of all people ladypact would know, that it is very uncommon for a mommy and a mistress to be mixed.

they 2 have COMPLETELY different roles, but i seek them both in one person.... that is where i feel "alone" and wanting help with...

Am I kidding? No. I'm honestly trying to help you.

Ok, I'm trying to be patient, so let's go over the things that I know. I know that, in My experience, an AB/DL can be one of the hardest matches to find. I know it isn't often found in general BDSM. I know that a few of the kindest people that you would ever want to meet have been searching anywhere from six to ten years because it is so hard to find.

This doesn't mean that they feel alone in being a little, or an AB, or a lover of DL. Sigs are out there. Books are out there. Certain presenters even focus on the subject. (See a gentleman called RuleOfThree for further information.) This part should tell you that you are not alone and if you had done research, you would know these things as well.

But, the fact that other AB/DLs are out there (meaning you are not alone in your desires) doesn't mean there are many mommies/caregivers out there. That's why pros who specialize in this area can charge fantastically high rates. As soon as women hear DL, they think scat and soiled diapers and there's just not a lot out there that are willing to accept that.

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Vanilla
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Status: online and what you JUST said makes me refrain my original statement...

"There are a number of AB/DL groups out there. Not so popular on these boards, from My observation"

this is exactly what im asking.

Here's an example. The largest city in this state has an littles munch. (Remember that not all littles are ABs and not all ABs are DLs.) Their highest attendance has been twelve, from the entire state. Not one care giver in the mix. Just the "littles" coloring and such. In the slower months, they get three or four littles. None of them have a current partner.

Check out the littles group in Atlanta. They can't even hit two dozen people and ARM no longer allows them to hold the regional because the numbers were so low. Most of the BDSMers won't go when there is a AB theme.

Now, if you want Me to lie to you about what I know, you might as well say so from the beginning so I can take My preference, stick to the truth as I know it, and keep My integrity by not answering you with what is the truth as it has been My experience. Don't like what I'm saying here? Get out to your local community and see how many ABs are there and just how many can find a mommy.

What you are trying to find is tough and while I'll be the first to welcome you here, this is not your best path to success. I don't know about you but I prefer to play the odds.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/23/2012 12:36:55 AM

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OP - Listen to LadyPact. This is one seriously knowledgeable woman.

Also I second the recommendation that you at least CONSIDER therapy. NOT because there's anything wrong with being AB/DL, but because you owe it to yourself and any potential future partners to be as healthy and together as possible before entering a relationship, vanilla or kinky.

The fact that you bring it up and it is so recent means you are probably still affected by it. Mommy-dommes are rare, and you have lots of competition, so you don't want to put someone off if they are worried you haven't worked to deal with your past.

Good luck!

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/23/2012 2:19:57 AM

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Hi there, willy. Welcome to the forums.

Some thoughts.

1. You have a misconception about us. You think we all have years of experience and are thus experienced in EVERYTHING. Even those of us with years of experience only know a subset of this world. AB/DL is one of the less traveled paths, and none of the people in this thread are experienced with it AFAIK.

2. As LadyPact says, AB/DL has unfavorable odds, with more ABs looking than daddies and especially mommies.

3. AB/DL is kind of a fringe fetish. Not too many into age play, and of those who are, diaper play is not common.

4. It's natural to think of relationships as a give-and-take. You give me what I need, and I'll give you what you need. But in an M/s relationship, the slave gives themself to a Master/Mistress for the sake of being owned, not for fetish fulfillment. Your approach of "I have an AB/DL fetish, and will give myself over as a slave in return" doesn't jibe with the M/s dynamic.

5. I'd recommend that you get involved with your local kink community, especially the TNG (ages 18-35) groups if they're available close to you. Get to know local kinksters, and what makes them tick. If you're known in the community as an accomplished bootblack or a dedicated needle play bottom, it will make your search MUCH easier than if you make open promises of being slave material.

Welcome again.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/23/2012 7:35:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

The other posters are not suggesting a therapist to 'cure' you of your AB/DL fetish, they are directly addressing your statements that you are trying to compensate for a relatively recent episode of familial abuse.

quote:

If you want to succeed in an adult relationship which successfully includes a fetish like AB/DL, then presenting yourself as 'damaged goods' (for want of a better phrase) is going to do you no good at all. A much better approach would be to seek help to cope with the abuse you endured so that you are the kind of adult male that a grown woman wants to be with, who just happens to enjoy AB/DL too.

This exactly. You're using it as a crutch. Which, is not fair to anyone you get involved with.

Part 2: You're getting answers, even if they're not the answers you're looking for. The snark aimed at LP is unappreciated.

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RE: Hi! Into being a baby/diapered?- MN - 8/23/2012 7:50:03 AM

Babywilly

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im very appreciative and thankful. im taking notes.

i dont think im using my past as a crutch... at least i dont think of myself doing so...
i grew from it and im a better person from it... i have alot to offer. but i dont crave a sexual outlet from it..

thanks LP DS and AS <3... alot

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