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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 4:35:57 AM   
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I'm sorry folks but a 57 year old man fucking a 17 year old is pedophilia.

I'm not going to argue this with you,it does make my skin crawl,but let us suppose your statement is gospel truth.....is a 56 year -old man fucking an 18 year old pedophilia ?
If so,just where do you place the line(it is apparent where the state of Minn. places it),if not,again where do you place the line ?


I'll answer your question with another question.

Can you lose your liquor license over selling to someone who is 20 years, 11 months and 29 days old?

Damn right you can.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 4:46:16 AM   
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Legality and morality aren't the same thing.


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I'm sorry folks but a 57 year old man fucking a 17 year old is pedophilia.


Here you're claiming this is an issue of morality. Because legally speaking the guy did nothing wrong.

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I'll answer your question with another question.

Can you lose your liquor license over selling to someone who is 20 years, 11 months and 29 days old?

Damn right you can.


Here you're claiming it's an issue of legality, because you imply that it doesn't matter if a minor morally is ready to engage in sex with an adult 1 day before the age of consent, because all that matters is that it's legally not allowed.

So which one is it?

Does the law matter? Because if it does, the guy did nothing wrong.
Is the law irrelevant, because you morally consider the guy a pedophile regardless of the law? In that case, your liquor store example is absolutely irrelevant.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 5:01:25 AM   
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The age gap is a bit quease inducing
and one wonders if he made sure the
guy was legal before intimacy occurred.


I did read somewhere the kid admitted to lying about his age, telling Gauthier that he was 18, so at least the question of age came into play a little bit.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 8:16:56 AM   
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Is the law irrelevant, because you morally consider the guy a pedophile regardless of the law?


Or the actual definition of the word "pedophile".

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 8:24:05 AM   
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If you folks wish to support a 47 year old man who fucks 17-year-olds, go ahead.

I think it's interesting that something that is against TOS of a kink site is OK if it's one of our leaders doing it.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 8:40:28 AM   
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" is a state representative a "position of authority over" this 17 year old?"

No.

And since the age of consent is UNDER 17, there's no reason to lie about your age, and even if he didn't there's no LEGAL ISSUE. The only issue here is that some people object to legal, consensual sex.

But we already know that there are people who have issues with legal things, just look at abortion.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 9:18:41 AM   
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But we already know that there are people who have issues with legal things, just look at abortion.


I take issue with what was done, legal or not.

The difference is, like abortion, what he did was immoral but not illegal. There is nothing for him to be arrested FOR since he didn't break a law (other than, perhaps public sex, and there was no one to witness it so they can't really prosecute).

I also take issue with the use of the wrong word. Pedophilia isn't just "sex with a minor". It is sex with a minor who is PREpubescent. This wasn't pedophilia, not by a long shot. At 17, he was of the age of consent in that state. Whether or not I agree that it SHOULD be the age of consent is irrelevant unless I'm willing to petition the government and work to change it.

Would I want my 17 yr old daughter to troll Craigslist looking to give blow jobs to 57 yr old men (no strings)? Of course not. But I can't have said 57 yr old man arrested for it if the legal age of consent in the state is 16. It is the same thing as me not being able to have an abortionist charged with first degree murder just because I feel abortion is the meditated unjust killing of an innocent human being.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 11:08:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Legality and morality aren't the same thing.


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I'm sorry folks but a 57 year old man fucking a 17 year old is pedophilia.


Here you're claiming this is an issue of morality. Because legally speaking the guy did nothing wrong.

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I'll answer your question with another question.

Can you lose your liquor license over selling to someone who is 20 years, 11 months and 29 days old?

Damn right you can.


Here you're claiming it's an issue of legality, because you imply that it doesn't matter if a minor morally is ready to engage in sex with an adult 1 day before the age of consent, because all that matters is that it's legally not allowed.

So which one is it?

Does the law matter? Because if it does, the guy did nothing wrong.
Is the law irrelevant, because you morally consider the guy a pedophile regardless of the law? In that case, your liquor store example is absolutely irrelevant.


Nice, you just destroyed this guy. Apparently 17 is a terrible sin against nature, but 18 is A-ok. Because everyone knows that people miraculously "become adults" when the clock strikes midnight on the 365th day of their 17th year of existence. It's magic. You go to sleep a child, you wake up an adult. Kind of like the tooth fairy.

There's no area where Americans make their imbecility and sexual prudishness more apparent than in the hysteria that always results when some [4+ years post-pubescent, sexually mature] teenager has sex either with another teenager or god forbid, someone older. While Americans are leaping into hysterical fits about 16 and 17 year olds having sex (not that it prevents the teens from doing it), across much of the rest of the world, 14 and 15 year olds are having sex and no one raises a fuss about it. And the kids turn out just fine. Often far better than sexually repressed American prudes.


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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 11:35:43 AM   
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Nice, you just destroyed this guy. He's a fool who can't make up his mind. What an imbecile. 17 is a terrible sin, 18 is A-ok. Can't get much more retarded than that.


Nice "liberalthought". OHHHHHHHHHHHHH it wasn't his fault he was banging 17 year olds. All those mean people destroyed him. Whine whine whimper whimper.

I didn't destroy him. He destroyed himself.
He can now suffer the consequences of his actions.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 5:14:14 PM   
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I'd like to see where this has "been established", not least because I don't believe it is true.


The Rind study examines outcomes of sexual contact in the college population of the USA, positing as the hypothesis the common conclusion of the psychiatric field with regard to legally underage sex and subsequently falsifying it solidly. The outline of the data they have arrived at is that a biologically normal teenager (I said young adult in parenthesis; I'm aware that the trends are shifting in a manner that makes it more complicated than first menses (girls) or the onset of hormonal lust (either) these days), with no history of rape and engaging in sex on a consensual basis (prior to legal age), have outcomes that do not differ on any significant metric from those who have had no sex of any sort. That is, their life outcomes are not adversely affected by early consensual sex.

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I would be astonished if there was any research that had established beyond a shadow of a doubt that sex with a postpubescant 12 year old is not harmful.


As I've noted above, that's not what I'm saying, nor what the study said. Obviously, the sample cannot have contained enough people with a history of consensual sexual experiences prior to their teenage years and having been in full puberty at the time, so we can't possibly be drawing conclusions that generalize well to precocious youth. You will probably note my earlier post was of some length to begin with. Making some "reasonable" assumptions instead of walking through all the details seemed prudent.

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In debates about the age of consent, the age of puberty is obviously a key factor, but issues like emotional maturity, understanding of the consequences, and ability to take steps to preserve sexual health are important factors that extend the age of consent beyond puberty.


At the age of criminal culpability, you are considered old enough to correctly make decisions whose consequences affect your own future. At the age of voting rights, you are considered old enough to make decisions that do affect others as well. This is a reasonable way do distinguish an adult from a youth: by pinning freedom and responsibility together, and anchoring them to what applies more generally throughout the rest of the law. It also makes visible the issues associated with the limits one anchors them to, and takes one more arbitrary number out of the law.

Prior to the former limit, you can't then legally consent, and if you're prepubescent then that's a serious aggravating circumstance. Exempt age matched peers at the jury's discretion, so as to bear in mind that the law is here to protect children, not punish them. Adults of voting age that have sex with a young adult (i.e. one of culpable age, but not voting age) have a strong responsibility in keeping the concerns of both parties in mind. I might go so far as to say that if the gap between them is significant in age and the degree of maturity, then the older party has objective culpability: if the younger party chooses to press charges, the burden is only to establish the objective fact that sexual contect occured, not to prove anything about the nature of that contact. To avoid abuse, that option should be time limited, say one year after reaching voting age. Should remind people to live up to their responsibility (and discourage it more generally; if that level of trust exists, that can only be promising for their interaction).

Still seem crazy?

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This is where the debate is, the question of "competence". Fuck I've met 30 year old women who lack the maturity and common sense that the age of consent laws have in mind...


I rarely meet men or women my age that meet my standard for ability to consent.

I have, however, turned down one that met my standard but legally couldn't have consented.

What I think the law should come down to is, whether one is ready to start making the mistakes one will be making anyway, to an extent that one can no longer justify the law interfering in your life and denying you an identity and freedom as an autonomous and morally capable being. At the point when you can be held culpable for a crime, you have the burden of autonomy and moral capacity, meaning you should also have the corresponding freedom. It is a question of preventing you from being responsible for something you can't yet reason about. Once you can, it is time to start making mistakes from which society has no right to shelter you, and from which sheltering you will only make you a lesser individual in time.

And let's face it, if your parents haven't taught you to be responsible enough to make such a decision by the time you're 14 or so, they have done a shaite job.

I'm actually going to cut this short. We're coming at this from two different angles, I just realized, and I think I'll need to think a bit more carefully on it. You want to protect them. If I were to argue in that frame of reference, I'm sorry to say that literally 85% of the adult population should never in their life acquire the right to consent, if applying my standards to your reasoning. I would have to regard almost every human out there as being as despicable as a child molester. Indeed being child molesters, if I bought the basic premise. So I view this from the perspective of humans as a process, and the extent to which this process has a right to evolve according to its own nature, the balance between individual influence and communal influence in the presence and absence of consent to same.

It's about when we can nonconsensually delegitimize another human being to intervene in their development, and for me that is never about protecting, because protection alone does not legitimize legally institutionalized intervention in my view, not when it strips them of basic human dignity. There is no indignity or suffering I cannot think of a circumstance in which someone would argue it is necessary for protection, but human beings shouldn't be reduced to instruments unless they choose to make themselves so (e.g. enlisted, slaves, etc.).

Maybe get back to you on this or something...

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P.S.: As regards the TOS, I would make it clear that my topic is law and ethics, not underage sex.



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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 5:21:48 PM   
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No one else has done it so I will:

Hill has taken a stand that he feels that this is wrong. I feel like there may be the potential for a criminal prosecution and I am definitely in favor of at least an investigation.

Aside from that; Hill takes a lot of heat, here for being a "lefty". I call him my favorite [L]eft [L]eaning [L]iberal. He didn't shrink from the fact that this alleged/possible kiddy diddler had a "D" next to his name.

Kudos to Hill for taking the un-popular opinion and not backing down.



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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 5:49:42 PM   
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He resigned. I am not sure what he could be arrested for, there is no law he violated.


Oh you don't Eh?
HOW ABOUT IMPERSONATING A REPUBLICAN????????

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 5:55:53 PM   
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Kudos to Hill for taking the un-popular opinion and not backing down.


Oh Wow Hill's gonna be in ecstasy he's been inducted into the Magnificent Two

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/24/2012 6:00:25 PM   
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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/25/2012 5:30:37 AM   
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I am just going to come out and say it. Aswad, your brain, I wants it!

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/25/2012 5:49:04 AM   
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I am just going to come out and say it. Aswad, your brain, I wants it!


Yes indeed, I imagine there would be quite a line.  I'd be in it, too!  *L*

I find myself picking apart Aswad's posts just to see if some day I, too, can reason like him!   I don't always agree with him, but I always enjoy reading his posts!


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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/25/2012 10:16:18 AM   
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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/25/2012 11:31:23 AM   
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I am just going to come out and say it. Aswad, your brain, I wants it!

He is a clever one, no doubt.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/27/2012 7:59:33 AM   
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I'd like to see where this has "been established", not least because I don't believe it is true.


The Rind study examines outcomes of sexual contact in the college population of the USA, positing as the hypothesis the common conclusion of the psychiatric field with regard to legally underage sex and subsequently falsifying it solidly.


That is a pretty fucking bizarre interpretation of the Rind study Aswad. The Rind study, if read without hysteria, points out that the reported harm of people who have had under-age sex is lower than the level that most would expect. It absolutely does not "solidly falsify the common conclusion of the physchiatric field". You'll be aware, I hope, of the controversy surrounding the Rind study?

In your original posting you said....
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It's been established beyond a shadow of a doubt that sex with a postpubescent (i.e. young adult) is not harmful if consensual in nature in the interaction most of the time.


This is not true, and since you're a smart bloke, I've no doubt you'll want to retract. If you choose to maintain that it's been established "beyond a shadow of a doubt" then I call bullshit.

Note you said "postpubescant" and then put "young adult" in parenthesis.

"Young adult" is hard to define. Post pubescant is not - it has a medical definition so I hope you can understand how putting the two terms together could lead to a serious misunderstanding?

I don't think your idea that the age of criminal culpability should apply holds much water.

What about the age at which you can die for your country? Smoke? drink? vote?

Which of these is most suitable - surely if you can be held responsible for a crime you should be allowed to smoke and drink?

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What I think the law should come down to is, whether one is ready to start making the mistakes one will be making anyway, to an extent that one can no longer justify the law interfering in your life and denying you an identity and freedom as an autonomous and morally capable being.


That is exactly what the law tries to do!

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At the point when you can be held culpable for a crime, you have the burden of autonomy and moral capacity, meaning you should also have the corresponding freedom. It is a question of preventing you from being responsible for something you can't yet reason about. Once you can, it is time to start making mistakes from which society has no right to shelter you, and from which sheltering you will only make you a lesser individual in time.

And let's face it, if your parents haven't taught you to be responsible enough to make such a decision by the time you're 14 or so, they have done a shaite job.



Aswad... I'm sure that you were a pretty fucking mature and savvy 14 year-old, and that your parents did a pretty fucking awesome job.

My parents did a pretty fucking good job, and at the age of 14 there was no fucking way on god's good earth that I had the judgement, wisdom, or sense of the consequences sufficient to drive a car, vote, buy alcohol, or have sex.

Now - I did a bunch of those things at that age (come to thing of it, all of them), but looking back... fuck me!

Let's start with drinking shall we... let's demonstrate that if you're old enough to commit a crime you're old enough to buy a beer before we argue that you should also be old enough to make a baby.

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You want to protect them.


Yes, children are vulnerable, I want to protect them, I think that's the general thrust of age of consent legislation.

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RE: Resign hell, he should be arrested. - 8/27/2012 8:06:35 PM   
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It absolutely does not "solidly falsify the common conclusion of the physchiatric field".


Actually, the study specifically used the common conclusion of the day as the hypothesis to question the foundation of that field, and falsified the hypothesis in the sense of showing no empirical validation for it, meaning that there is no scientifically sound basis for the field the report was questioning. Note that I've extrapolated beyond that one study in my own conclusions, which should be treated as seperate from what I'm saying about Rind et al, lest I go misrepresenting them (they've had plenty of that without me adding to it). They posed a critical question and showed a large field to be seriously, fundamentally flawed and exposed the weak position of science in politics etc., but they haven't stated the conclusion I have. Indeed, they have been exceedingly narrow and precise in what they have stated, to the point that most have made up their own interpretations. I draw on their study, among others, but I should be clear that any conclusions are my own synthesis.

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You'll be aware, I hope, of the controversy surrounding the Rind study?


Yes. As far as I can tell, it's right up there with the controversy about evolution vs creationism.

Do you have anything to suggest a solid, non-refuted criticism on scientific grounds?

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This is not true, and since you're a smart bloke, I've no doubt you'll want to retract. If you choose to maintain that it's been established "beyond a shadow of a doubt" then I call bullshit.


I can retract the degree of certainty. Some people have doubts. I'm not familiar with any well founded doubt, but that's nothing new. Feel free to present your doubts, but I would suggest reading the rest of this reply first, at least, and maybe checking my figures if you doubt those, as well.

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Note you said "postpubescant" and then put "young adult" in parenthesis.


Yes, to clarify that I was talking about the intersection of two sets, because I didn't care to go digging deeply into the matter when nobody actually wants to know and anyone that does dig into it in an honest search for truth gets to be the next Galileo. I don't fancy being him when I don't have a horse in this race. Note that the AAAS actually did point out the Galileo thing, if memory serves.

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Post pubescant is not - it has a medical definition so I hope you can understand how putting the two terms together could lead to a serious misunderstanding?


The history of the thread includes a bit about precocious puberty, etc., and I haven't given thought to kids prior to their teens in any context related to sexuality. That's not a slot they occupy in my view of the world. So I sought to clarify that I'm talking about using puberty as an objectively defined anchor because it leads to physical maturity (i.e. the point at which any objection must be of a moral nature, unless harm from the act per se is in evidence), but without getting into every single freaky case nature comes up with. Trying to address the core question of where to draw the line, rather than waving a finger about and pulling a number out of thin air, because we can define a well posed core question (not necessarily mine), collect the data, and decide on objective grounds. That doesn't seem to have been attempted in the history of humanity.

For instance, if you want to protect, you can collect data on the distribution of outcomes and set a threshold figure for acceptable impact after factoring in the other citizens that have to be protected as well (bear in mind that, biologically, attraction peaks between 14 and 24, so it's nontrivial to avoid catching regular people with perfectly honest intentions with a limit that isn't set too loosely to effect the protection you want).

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I don't think your idea that the age of criminal culpability should apply holds much water.


It's not the age, but the linking of issues. Consent has to do with being able to be responsible, to assume responsibility. Indeed, you could say culpability rests on the capacity for consent, but the more accurate thing would be to say the both rest on the same thing, for which I don't know a good word. We could of course redefine the whole shebang ground up, but that's kind of beyond the scope of politicians and their blowjobs, isn't it?

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What about the age at which you can die for your country? Smoke? drink? vote?


I don't know about yours, but all of those are fixed at 18 here, whereas culpability and consent are fixed at 15. I'm curious as to where the objection is, though. Because I've a mind to define these in the same sets of terms, if you intend to widen the scope. I'd like to think you can see where I'm going with this, but in case it's not clear, raising these objections registers like "but, look, we make other mistakes, too, so why can't we make this one?" to me.

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That is exactly what the law tries to do!


I like to credit it with not trying very hard...

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My parents did a pretty fucking good job, and at the age of 14 there was no fucking way on god's good earth that I had the judgement, wisdom, or sense of the consequences sufficient to drive a car, vote, buy alcohol, or have sex.


You're still here. Learn any lessons along the way, or did it just irretrievably ruin you as a person to make those mistakes?

Throw out voting and driving a car, and you're left with stuff which wasn't a problem. Voting and driving a car (or using a gun) is a set of activities that inherently involve responsibility for others beyond yourself. Getting drunk can quickly result in it, but doesn't inherently do so. Having sex inherently involves responsibility for yourself, which is also the extent of what you can fuck up: you, and whoever is in bed with you (and that person happens to be responsible for themselves already). Voting, I can't say "no, crazyml, I choose not to be part of your democracy." Driving, I can't say "no, crazyml, I'm such a great driver that you literally- physically- can't run into me from behind while I'm waiting at a red light in a busy intersection; I opt out of your accident." You having sex, however, won't affect me unless we both agree that I should be a party to it.

I think you turned out just fine, by the way. I hope such is your impression of me, as well.

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Let's start with drinking shall we... let's demonstrate that if you're old enough to commit a crime you're old enough to buy a beer before we argue that you should also be old enough to make a baby.


Never said make a baby. That aside, having babies worked out for a few billion people so far, and works for every other species.

We hardly have any unwanted pregnancies where I live, and that's with 15 as the age of consent.

The median debut for women in Norway is 16.8 years, meaning half have had sex by that age. The average is 17.3 years, which represents the fact that relatively fewer debut as minors as compared to as adults. For men, these figures are in the 18-19 years range. The standard deviation for debut is 2.2 years, which means 15% of women in Norway have their sexual debut by 12.6 years of age if the distribution is a normal curve. I couldn't find a histogram, sorry to say, but that corresponds well with 10% of 14 year olds reporting regular use of condoms (i.e. a majority of teenagers in Norway use condoms when having sex).

In spite of this, we have the highest standard of living available, and very low rates of most predicted adverse outcomes of early debut.

Rind should have had a look at Norway, methinks...

Would you like me to pull up the figures for alcohol and drugs, along with outcomes of that, or can we simply agree that getting drunk out of your mind as a youth is going to be more detrimental overall in terms of outcomes than is the case with sex (given that alcoholism has a genetic component, that the brain is still nowhere near fully developed at that age, and that statistics are clear that alcohol use prior to the age of 17 is a serious predictor of an adverse outcome)?

Bear in mind that we actually educate our kids about sex, both at home and at school, rather than preach abstinence.

I once queried my mother about having let my sister have her boyfriend sleeping over when home alone. She had a pretty simple answer. My sister knew everything that she needed to know to make a decision, including how to say no. She probably did say no. But in the event she didn't, it was a higher priority that her eventual debut- whether that was the time or not- be under safe circumstances, in a familiar environment, and with a condom. Because a parent has no real control over when it happens, but can have some control over how it happens. Also, the acceptance element is part of taking away the sense that one is in a hurry, as well as creating a supportive atmosphere that serves to be empowering and to reduce the risk of any adverse outcome.

And my sister also knew that if a boy failed to treat her right, the most adverse outcome would've been his...

These days, she's happily married, has a villa, a career and a well adjusted son, by the way.

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Yes, children are vulnerable, I want to protect them, I think that's the general thrust of age of consent legislation.


Good intentions. I share those intentions. The hardest thing about doing right by someone, however, is knowing when to step back and let them make their own mistakes, have their own learning experiences and mature into adults step by step. The one thing that children are most vulnerable to, aside from rejection, is being overprotected to the point where they don't learn responsibility and freedom, obligation and privilege, discipline and confidence; where they no longer have the experiences that build character and foster learning, foremost among them mistakes that don't ruin their lives. I think Rind, the Statistics and Census Bureau of Norway, the equivalent for other Scandinavian countries, and various other sources, have established that it doesn't ruin their lives to have sex once they're physically mature enough for it.

I want kids to turn into great adults. Protecting them is about making sure they live to see adulthood, and equipping them to face life along the way. One of the parts of equipping them thus is getting out of their way as much as is reasonable, which it is the task of parents to know the when and why of. Clearly, an adult should never have sex with a prepubescent. Their bodies aren't ready for it, so it inherently carries a risk of physical and mental harm that shouldn't be taken by either party.

And I can agree- mostly as a matter of pragmatism and compromise, though also as a matter of caution- that someone that can be responsible for others must have some additional responsibilities in regard to someone that is not, foremost consent. I'm placing the definition of the ability to be responsible outside the scope of my post; it's not the voting age, but rather voting is in principle contingent on this ability, so for convenience we can treat it as the same with the mutual understanding that "voting age" is a dangling concept here. Similarly, I've anchored the ability to consent to the ability to be responsible for oneself and one's own actions, which entails the potential for culpability as well. It is thus not the age of culpability that defines the ability to consent, but rather both rest on the ability to be responsible, and again we can for convenience treat that the same way with "age of culpability" as another dangling concept. To fully address the two would mean addressing much of the fabric of society, whereas it is sufficient for treatment of this one topic to address only the principled concerns that have direct bearing on the subject.

This is not a paper. It's just a first draft of some random musings. I trust I don't have to put in a whole bibliography, and I hope I have clarified some matters and furthered the argument I am presenting, in spite of the unedited stream-of-consciousness format. And, again, I want to be exceedingly clear that I'm not interested in hunting for jailbait, nor looking to condone pedophilia of any sort (in the strict definition of the term). I'm talking about defending the right of human beings to be recognized as capable and autonomous without living up to my standard in terms of their ability to comprehend the consequences of their actions (and quite frankly, if that standard were applied, most adults could neither consent nor vote), and without discrimination based solely on the number of years they have been breathing.

IWYW,
— Aswad.



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"If God saw what any of us did that night, he didn't seem to mind.
From then on I knew: God doesn't make the world this way.
We do.
" -- Rorschack, Watchmen.


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