Teroh
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ORIGINAL: Teroh
It's a matter of opinion more than anything. As far as I know there's no supreme BDSM council to assert legitimacy to it. My opinion though, legitimate or not, it's a practice or concept riddled with feasibility and legal issues too numerous and boring for me to list. On top of that, I can't help thinking how pathetic it is... On the part of both parties. In an ideal world I'd try to be understanding and say 'to each his or her own', but realistically I believe most people are on the same page as me, it is pathetic, and cheapens the legitimacy of the lifestyle as a whole in the eyes of the world.
Financial Domination isn't pathetic. It's exciting. I feel a rush when I'm getting in someones head, figuring them out and learning what buttons to push for desired reactions and results. I micro-manage their lives, I give instructions, I meet in real time and I show them that I am every bit as genuine as they are. I get to know them, form a bond, gain their trust, all the while consuming their thoughts. My subs want nothing more than to see me smile. They come to me, begging to work extra shifts or overtime so that they can lay cash at my feet and give me things. They want to give. It excites them to do this. It is not forced or coerced, it's consensual and mutually satisfying.
There's often more to these relationships than meets the eye, but outsiders don't know that and they don't care to ask, either. They only see bratty newbies looking for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and these fakers shouldn't define those of us who don't abuse the kink or those of us that truly have this fetish.
I, for one, am tired of being lumped together with prostitutes, bratty princesses and pro-Dommes. I have no issue with any of these things, except for the ones that are never heard from again after payment has been sent. They all serve a real purpose, but none of them are financial Dommes.
FD couldn't possibly cheapen the legitimacy of the lifestyle as a whole in the eyes of the world because aside from the lovers of 50 Shades of Grey, the eyes of the world are pretty closed to BDSM. I'd guess that the majority of the world, the ones that are not open to BDSM, aren't going to be opposed to just finDommes, they're likely going to be opposed to the lifestyle as a whole.
Every concept past present or future will bring with it people so obstinately opposed that they can never be expected to consider its merits or recognize its legitimacy. That's simply not most people though. Most people are naturally more likely to see things more objectively initially, with a method pretty similar to a cost benefit analysis. That being said, as a proponent of BDSM, what would you prefer it's first impression to an outsider would be? I'm just saying it's a damn good thing I read stories before I found this place, otherwise I can say pretty safely that the scammers, pro-Dommes, princesses, etc. would've scared me off. I get that most girls want to feel special, be spoiled, and treated like princesses (it's like sorority relations 101), however; those are non-ideal representatives for two critical reasons:
1) it's an ends-justify-means mentality. They in all likelihood have little to no legitimate interest in BDSM and are more concerned with the aforementioned rewards. You also have to admit, if you're looking to run a sexually based ploy, this is the number one place to find the target audience with the right lack of self-confidence and abundance of desire
2) from a legal and practical perspective, it is bordering on prostitution, namely the sale of sexual services, which by being a form of fetish, a sexual desire, it becomes self-damning as a practice ( something I find hilariously ironic )
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