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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 5:48:07 AM

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The respect starts to get lost with me when they post things like You will pay my rent, pamper me etc.. etc.....

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 8:13:42 AM

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The respect starts to get lost with me when they post things like You will pay my rent, pamper me etc.. etc.....

Yes, same here. That just screams, "HELP! I can't survive without a man to support me!"

...and there are men who get excited holding financial power over that type of female, loving that she is DEPENDENT upon him.

YUCK.

If a finDomme is self-reliant, owns her own house, car, has a career and doesn't NEED their money/gifts, but "accepts" it...or rather "TAKES" it as part of the D/s dynamic, that's another matter. Many mature finDommes I've been talking to actually MANAGE their fin-subs' finances as a proper Dominant, taking control and correcting a sub's bad spending habits (hopefully TEACHING him how to spend wisely in the process). This is the relationship I like to see. Each relationship is different though. But back to the topic, some might disagree, but IMO each member of the D/s relationship should BENEFIT in some way for it to be a "relationship". If there is mutual benefit derived, then yes I'd call it "legitimate" form of D/s.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 2:08:03 PM

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Sun, there are female fin slaves.
Have whip, I couldn't agree more. Those are the people who give findommery a bad name.
MM said it perfectly.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 2:13:37 PM

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Why are there only male financial slaves? Hey, I'd be ready to try a female financial slave...

There are female finsubs/slaves I've personally had several. There are also transgender finsubs/slaves. I will NEVER understand why people assume that actions are gender specific.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 3:46:56 PM

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I personally don't believe anyone who asks for money / tribute, has a wish list or has any other professional interest in D/s can really be classed as a real Dominant. But like any other part of the sex industry they do have there place. They cater to men I see as quite sad. and that's not meant in a bad way, but there are a lot of men so desperate to feel dominated they'll do more or less anything to feel it. There are a hell of a lot of submissive men, and very few Non Pro Dominant women, just as there are a lot of Dominant men, and very few sub women. It's just the nature of the beast. It's just market forces at work..

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 5:27:43 PM

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*sighs*

Did you read ANY of the previous posts...other than the original post?

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 8:34:29 PM

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Threads like this make me glad I'm a male Dom who isn't in the hunt...

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/4/2013 9:37:30 PM

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Hell, I don't hunt either. Fin subs contact me.
Sheesh! Lol

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 2:31:34 AM

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That's a first, I have never come across a single female finslave. That doesn't really say anything but in a bizarre way I'm glad that they do exist if only to show that it's not gender specifik.
I guess my earlier statement may have sounded a bit cavalier but I am a experimental person and would seriously consider a finslave if one would happen to appear some day.
The bizarre moment of self realization is when I catch myself thinking more on how I could take care of her and make the experience a good one on her behalf. Since I'll be the one getting the money and running the show, my own pleasure will be a nobrainer.

I have experience with controlling the money for the houshold while in a relationship and to that's not a findom situation to me, it's just part of the relationship.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 4:27:10 AM

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This is true, however there are subs who solely seek out for the financial experience. So I would assume that is why so much emphasis is placed on the money aspect (in general).

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 4:31:59 AM

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I personally don't believe anyone who asks for money / tribute, has a wish list or has any other professional interest in D/s can really be classed as a real Dominant.

You obviously did not read past the OP.
Yes, I practice financial domination but I practice far more than JUST that.
Yes, I offer pro sessions but I also have personals.

How do YOU determine who is or isn't a "real" dominant?
Why do you think YOU can judge for others who is a "real" dominant and who isn't?

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 6:16:07 PM

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I personally don't believe anyone who asks for money / tribute, has a wish list or has any other professional interest in D/s can really be classed as a real Dominant. But like any other part of the sex industry they do have there place. They cater to men I see as quite sad. and that's not meant in a bad way, but there are a lot of men so desperate to feel dominated they'll do more or less anything to feel it. There are a hell of a lot of submissive men, and very few Non Pro Dominant women, just as there are a lot of Dominant men, and very few sub women. It's just the nature of the beast. It's just market forces at work..

Caveat emptor, which is latin for "let the buyer beware." I would be VERY wary of any woman who posts that she is a FinDom without so much as offering clips, a blog, a history of real-time experience, etc. And here's why: a virtual cottage industry of fake "Dommes" and unscrupulous opportunists has crept up to capitalize on the moment. In addition to preying on unsuspecting men who naively think that these self-styled "FinDoms" are seeking out more than just their money, the women write about the "hilarity" of their exploits on FL groups like "Return to Sender" and "Spectators only. No participants." I even called one out on it today. Make no mistake about it, these women are "trolls" in the ugliest sense of the word.

In an ideal world, the FinDom community would be self-policing and these fake FinDoms would be sniffed out before they could cause any real damage to the reputation of the lifestyle and its more earnest participants. Unfortunately, it's like the Wild West out there: anything goes.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 6:48:21 PM

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But I don't have a blog, I do have video and pics of my sessions. I think one is on my profile. I'm not sure I have a history per se but I have references. Meaning, I'm not a fin domme you ok'd o look up or google. Even in my pro work, I don't have a site or anything else. I've never really felt the need to. I have enough subs for both my fin and pro lifestyle. Make sense?

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 6:55:37 PM

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But I don't have a blog, I do have video and pics of my sessions. I think one is on my profile. I'm not sure I have a history per se but I have references. Meaning, I'm not a fin domme you ok'd o look up or google. Even in my pro work, I don't have a site or anything else. I've never really felt the need to. I have enough subs for both my fin and pro lifestyle. Make sense?

TNDommeK, I am not referring to you! You seem legitimate to me.

I am referring to other women, insincere ladies who claim to be "very into findom" while talking from both sides of their mouths. No one ever bothers to hold these women accountable and, really, how could they be held accountable? At the end of the day, it's a very petty thing, but I do feel bad for the men who end up paying these dolled-up trolls. They give EVERYONE in the lifestyle a bad name.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 7:00:34 PM

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But I don't have a blog, I do have video and pics of my sessions. I think one is on my profile. I'm not sure I have a history per se but I have references. Meaning, I'm not a fin domme you ok'd o look up or google. Even in my pro work, I don't have a site or anything else. I've never really felt the need to. I have enough subs for both my fin and pro lifestyle. Make sense?

To be specific, I am referring to an unnamed "FinDom" who goes on FL bragging about how she creates fake usernames on CM to troll men and see whether she can take their money. She also laughs if she can provoke an angry reaction from any of these unfortunate men. On FL she is listed as a "submissive," and I don't think there's a dominant bone in her body.

And, to be honest with you, I am sure that she is not the only "submissive brat" engaged in such conduct. I know it's a joke to most of you, but it's not so funny for the men out there that are seeking out FinDoms in earnest, and I'm sure it's not funny for the FinDoms that are seeking out FinSubs in earnest, either.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 7:01:54 PM

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I have noticed a habit of young attractive ladies to post that they are findommes by saying the following. Pamper me, pay my rent, spend money on me and other things like that. First I am suspicious of anyone that young being in charge of my finances as it is usually the age where you spend without thinking. Also the simple way they say buy me things makes them more of a leech than what I think a findomme should be. That does not mean I am the be all end all in what they should be. Far from it, however if they are domme then they should actually have thier subs best interest at heart and not just be using them as a cash cow.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/5/2013 8:20:39 PM

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Vim- ok cool. I'm glad you find me legit!

Yes silly trolls like her fuck it up, but at the same time, if these said fin subs would do research on these fin dommes, they would be more cautious to throw money etc. I think they just crave domination so bad, that they are willing to do whatever. Gosh, you know what, if I were to be like that, I'd be rich. I turn down more money. For instance, if I feel like I'm not compatible, or the sub isn't wanting the same thing. Just a lot of different reasons.

Have whip- I agree. I care about my sub's welfare. Otherwise I'd drain them for everything.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/15/2013 10:38:10 PM

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If the person is not a sexual deviant, he has nothing to worry about. He can laugh and hang up and consider it a prank caller. Or he can say "Yep, I am kinky and so are several co-workers, but being a workplace, it is an inappropriate topic." Again, the possibility of fired over being kinky only hurts you if you worry about being fired over being kinky. If you are willing to say. "I have a private life and it's none of your business." then it doesn't matter if they say they are willing to call your job. Let them call your job. Then tell your job, you have a vindictive ex girlfriend. If you don't have any shame out it, no one can shame you.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/15/2013 11:11:54 PM

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Its amazing to think this thread is still going strong. This shows there clearly is an interest in Fin-Domination here on Collarchat.

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RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? - 6/16/2013 5:08:34 AM

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I hope it never dies.

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