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chatterbox24 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (10/13/2013 4:05:09 AM)
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ORIGINAL: crazyml
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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24
My personal opinion on Financial Domination, is it exists but it is not legitimate. Its based on a lot falsehoods.
Basically it is a superficial relationship based on $$$. Lonely or horny guy or woman is willing to pay $$$ for a pretend relationship or favors by a physically very attractive individual. They dig in their pockets to have that pretend relationship with an individual most likely they could not actually have a real existence with outside the $$$. It is no mystery physically beautiful people are usually attracted to like beautiful people, their equal. Same goes with intelligence, a healthy person generally looks for their equal in that department too or a least someone close. ANd maybe some people don't want real, they want pretend or fantasy either because they don't have room or want of a relationship, or they aren't healthy enough for a real relationship. Even if the person enjoys it for whatever reason, its still not real.
Take the $$$ from it, and it disappears, just like Santa does when your about 7 or 8 yrs old.
I disagree for a couple of reasons.
Firstly, I don't think it's fair to generalize - There are quite a few FD relationships that have been described on this thread that are nothing whatsoever like the relationship you describe.
Of course, yes, there are lots of lonely people that buy Domination, and yes there are lots of self labelled Fin Dommes who are nothing more than prostitutes or scammers.
But part of the discussion should, I hope, open people's minds to the idea that it's plain foolish to generalize so completely.
I used to live next to an old gent who was regularly visited by the prettiest young woman every Wednesday afternoon. I asked him once if she was his daughter... he went all sheepish so I let it drop.
A couple of years later he got ill and I visited in hospital, and as I was leaving the same girl arrived. She was obviously worried and concerned.
He died a couple of weeks later and I saw her at the funeral - right at the back of the chapel.
So... yeah... she was a prostitute. She'd been seeing him for 7 years. She wouldn't have seen him if he didn't pay, but it would be absurd to claim there was no relationship.
Conversely, I've met plenty of people who wouldn't consider dating someone below a certain income, who drove a certain car etc etc. So is the pretty girl who is with the wealthy middle aged man not in a real relationship?
Besides... what on earth is an "unreal relationship" - surely once you interact with someone you have a relationship with them? A real one... it may not be a "life partner" relationship, it may not map neatly onto your (or my) mental image of what a relationship ought to be, but it's a little odd to claim that it's not real. It plainly is.
So... while I think you may well be right about many FD situations, I hope you'll consider not making such a broad generalization?
I have a very narrow view on this subject. Do I think on very rare, almost romance novel type situations, that at some point the money ceases to come, and a SINCERE relationship is developed? Maybe once in a blue moon. Individuals who's heart is STILL clearly motivated by power,sex and money, do not change their spots. IT IS A JOB. The object is to get money. If it was not the hearts motivation then their line of work would be different. If the true one objective was to better the client, they would do it for free, but its a job so payment is the objective. I will say this in defense of this line of work, its more honest then the vanilla, who don't announce their intent to the world, but clearly do use others for the same purpose. In example, the beautiful girl marries the old man and confesses love. How many times do you see a physically superior looking rich young individual marry down in social status, looks, or marry someone much older?
The question was Is financial domination a legit form of BDSM? I guess it could be considered legit, if the buyer SINCERELY likes to give their money away and they are sincerely aware, the relationship is based significantly, almost solely on the money and very little more.
The story of the pretty young woman who attended the funeral of the old man? You didn't happen to be around for the reading of the will were you? I knew a charismatic older pretty lady, who was not a prostitute, that superficially looked very good with her activity list etc. She befriended the elderly and married up, she was left in 3 substantial wills, including her husbands. She got everything, even the half intended and set aside for his adult children after his suicide. Then moved across country with her BF to live happily ever after. IT was all very legitimate and legal on paper. I guess it all comes down to what one finds the term legitimate means.
That is as broad as I can get on the subject on a relationship for payment, in reply to asking me to broaden my generalization.
Some opinions and beliefs are offensive to others, and I do apologize for that. I do understand this will not be a popular reply, but it is a SINCERE reply.
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