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AllisonWilder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (10/8/2012 1:36:16 PM)
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ORIGINAL: VincilagniaUK
It's not personal, like the old saying - criticise the behaviour not the child.
What exactly were you doing on cam in the first instance? did it by any chance involve guys and money?
You have just explained the contradiction better than I could have done myself. You're approached by a guy that wants you to do this, so you're (apparently) doing what he wants. Well if it's what he wants then it's not really domination so then you'd just be a financial-taker rather than a financial dominant. If it isn't what he wants then it's financial exploitation. Ergo a so called 'financial domme' is by default either not a domme, or looking to exploit.
Granted you seem a lot more articulate and composed than many of the fin dommes I have had the misfortune of contact with here and elsewhere but that doesn't derive from the fact that what you do is very very low. I think if you were to ask the normal 'man on the street', he'd tell you that it's not a very nice thing to do, on a basic, human, interpersonal level.
My behavior doesn't need to be criticized, nor am I a child.
I was approached by a guy who opened my eyes to this world. I came to the conclusion all on my own. Maybe to most I am just a financial taker, but I don't see it that way. I also don't see it as exploitation, but it's clear that we'll never agree and I won't try to force you to do so.
I make it perfectly clear to people I come in contact with here who I am and what I'm about. I don't tolerate time-wasters and I don't do it to others. If this isn't your thing, that's totally fine with me.
Also, if I were to ask the 'normal man on the street' it's likely that he'd think that what you do isn't a very nice thing either. I won't ask him though as his opinions have no bearing on my decisions and those decisions of my finsubs.
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A FinDomme/sub relationship is a business relationship. Would you ask the power company for money back if you were short of money?
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Then people involved in it should list themselves clearly as business (IMO). And I would ask for my money back from the power company if they tried to make a big deal about it being a caring, two way relationship as the subject of my comments did earlier in this thread.
I do market myself as business. I cannot speak for other finDommes or Bratty Princesses as I have no control over how they represent themselves.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't good D/s relationships supposed to be centered on caring and trust? Would a good Dom not take care of His sub if said sub had fallen on hard times?
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