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Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:07:43 PM   
MistressDemeter9


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Status: offline 		Hi, I've not been on this site for very long, but have chatted to quite a number and variety of people. However one of the things that irritates Me is that an awful lot of people who message me (Other than the ones who just ask for my yahoo/email/phonenumber immediately) are that many of them have fairly obviously not read my profile before starting a conversation.

Is that a common thing on CollarMe?

If so, how do most people react?
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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:11:49 PM   
Fp4


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Joined: 12/5/2011
Status: offline 		Never have. They're all the same.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:13:15 PM   
MistressDemeter9


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fp4

Never have. They're all the same.



Really?

Doesn't seem that way to me.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:22:19 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


Posts: 3582
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Status: offline 		Yep, I am reading yours at the moment in fact! But then I am not looking for dates so I just read out of curiosity.

Lots of people will just message anyone that has been online recently who vaguely meets their parameters- dominant women in your case - sending out fairly generic messages to as many people as possible in the hope of getting a response. If you asked they would probably say they don't put much effort forth because most people don't respond or aren't interested. It's a bit of a chicken-and-egg thing, because of course by making less effort they get less responses.

Fp4 - I agree that there are lots of profiles like yours, with no pictures, no personal info and some vaguely bitter comments about the site being full of scammers.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:23:23 PM   
SpaceSpank


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Status: offline 		Lot of people on the other side won't ever even click on a profile, let alone read and pay attention to it. It's pictures and maybe the kink list at best.

I always read them, I like to get some sense of the person I'm messaging. If they fill out their profile and are obviously not going to be of interest to me, or blatantly state they will filter out a category I fit into, I won't bother messaging them at all.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:23:47 PM   
kalikshama


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Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline 		Yes, it is very common for men to write to me without bothering to read my profile. Rather than getting annoyed at this, I find it one of many useful screening devices and a vehicle for expressing my bitchy self if I so choose. (Mostly I just delete lazy or illiterate messages.)

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:24:57 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Yes, it's common. I react by erasing the email or replying to let the person know he's idiot- depends on my mood. It's the internet, people just drop in and send out a bunch of stuff hoping that someone will respond. It's nothing portentous or thought-out. I don't put any stock in it.

The men doing this scatter technique are hoping to get a quick fix for their hardons, they've got a time sensitive factor here, it really doesn't matter about which woman supplies their gratification - so they don't care about being selective and doing some profile reading. Try reading when you are horny , makes things kind of droopy.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:32:45 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi

The men doing this scatter technique are hoping to get a quick fix for their hardons, they've got a time sensitive factor here, it really doesn't matter about which woman supplies their gratification - so they don't care about being selective and doing some profile reading. Try reading when you are horny , makes things kind of droopy.


I love this.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:35:32 PM   
needlesandpins


Posts: 3901
Status: offline 		get used to it because it's always going to be the same.

some people seem to think that because this is the net, with the type of site it is, and that you happen to be here, that all the usual social niceties that we as civilised humans usually employ don't actually apply.

the theory seems to be that if you are here you will fuck anything that is vaguely considered human. no matter what you put in your profile there is always someone who thinks they are so amazing that your wants will fly out of the window for them. or they think you are just kidding, and really do want to fuck the living daylights out of the first moog that tells you you can.

used the hide and block functions. it saves alot of hassle

needles

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:35:56 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Stop talking to them.
Be glad that you don't have to waste any more time talking to them.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:38:15 PM   
ARIES83


Posts: 3648
Status: offline 		I always read the ones that look interesting,
although it's just for curiosity at the moment,
I may take the plunge into meeting someone
online one day, but i tell you... Theres not
much to pick from on CM in my state...
It's like looking at profiles from the welfare line.

As for getting flooded with stupid CMails, it's
only really women that get that, and more
specificly, female subs I think.
As a Male Dom, I get absolutely fuck all CMails,
and half of them are from the forum peoples.

Maybe theres not enough cock shots on my
profile... I'm totally going to put one up one
day to see if it has a effect on the CMails heh.

-ARIES

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:43:59 PM   
QueenRah


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Status: offline 		Just for shits and giggles, I sometimes respond to the ones that have, obviously, sent out a spam mail to EVERY dominant female they can spam, usually thus: "Thank you for spamming me. You really know how to make a gal feel special by telling me what *YOU* want and not mentioning anything, stated in my profile, that I might want." Then, I report as spam and delete.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 2:47:44 PM   
MistressDemeter9


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Status: offline 		Seems like it's as much as I thought. There seems to be a lot of men on here who really are looking for a quickie. 'If I chat to her for five minutes and she mentions boobs/boots/whatever the fuck, I can get off then fuck off'. No biggie really. Just wondered what people thought of it.

I think it's a shame that so many potential subs/slaves don't give much detail, then expect the doms they contact to work twice as hard to work out what they are into and how to work with them.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 3:08:20 PM   
lizi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Seems like it's as much as I thought. There seems to be a lot of men on here who really are looking for a quickie. 'If I chat to her for five minutes and she mentions boobs/boots/whatever the fuck, I can get off then fuck off'. No biggie really. Just wondered what people thought of it.

I think it's a shame that so many potential subs/slaves don't give much detail, then expect the doms they contact to work twice as hard to work out what they are into and how to work with them.


They think the Dominant is going to be as fixated as they are, and therefore totally into supplying them with their wank material. They don't really think past their need of the moment, not seeing that no one is as invested in making them happy as they are. It's total tunnel vision.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 3:15:24 PM   
MistressDemeter9


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Seems like it's as much as I thought. There seems to be a lot of men on here who really are looking for a quickie. 'If I chat to her for five minutes and she mentions boobs/boots/whatever the fuck, I can get off then fuck off'. No biggie really. Just wondered what people thought of it.

I think it's a shame that so many potential subs/slaves don't give much detail, then expect the doms they contact to work twice as hard to work out what they are into and how to work with them.


They think the Dominant is going to be as fixated as they are, and therefore totally into supplying them with their wank material. They don't really think past their need of the moment, not seeing that no one is as invested in making them happy as they are. It's total tunnel vision.


That seems about as accurate as it's gonna get! :-)

But then again, I have experience of quite a few vanilla men who think exactly the same way. I'd rather they were a slave to Me than to their cocks. It makes them altogether more agreeable.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 3:38:47 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I read profiles for a kind of voyeuristic kick. I like to see how much of the person I can get to know from their profile and their journal entries. Since I'm not looking, that's about it.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 3:41:44 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		I am not on the cm side much, so I rarely read profiles. I do get mail commenting on my pictures, though. Since none of them are of me, I find that interesting.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 3:53:53 PM   
DaddySatyr


Posts: 9381
Joined: 8/29/2011
From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky
Status: offline 		If something on a profile grabs my attention in the preview pane, I will go ahead and read the whole profile until I come to an obvious deal breaker (Usually, it's that I smoke or I'm polyamorous).

I have to admit that I have read profiles even after such a deal breaker presents itself but something in the journals has caught my eye. What's pretty ironic to me in this situation is I have sent a message that reads something:

"Dear Xxxxxxx;

I read your journal post about the _________ and I have to tell you; I agree, completely. It's amazing to me that __________ ...

I enjoyed your journal quite a bit and I look forward to reading more in the future



Closing"

So? Nice enough message? What's ironic is that about 80% of the time, the person will look at my profile and respond with: "I don't tolerate poly. Good luck in your search" if they respond, at all.

So, you can see how some people might become fatigued with putting some effort into a message with little to no return. Courtesy is a rare thing, now-a-days. I understand that ladies are inundated on sites like this but when one comes across a message that has obviously taken even a modicum of thought and time, perhaps an equally measured response is called for.




Peace and comfort,



Michael

< Message edited by DaddySatyr -- 9/1/2012 3:55:10 PM >

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 3:58:35 PM   
Delilya


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Joined: 2/2/2011
Status: offline 		I only read the profiles if I get an interesting email from them. I love when they write and ask me if I am into this, that and the other thing. I tell them the answer is in my profile. They don't write back.

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RE: Do you read profiles? - 9/1/2012 4:03:12 PM   
SpaceSpank


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Joined: 10/3/2010
Status: offline 		The thing I love is so many have "please read my profile" prominently displayed as one of the first bits of text in their profile.

Of all the people I message that reply (which is a miniscule portion of any sent messages of course) I think less than 1% ever bother to even look at my profile. That includes the ones who ask others to read theirs.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Delilya

I only read the profiles if I get an interesting email from them. I love when they write and ask me if I am into this, that and the other thing. I tell them the answer is in my profile. They don't write back.


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