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ORIGINAL: KYsissy

He should thank you. . .
http://m.urbandictionary.com/#define?term=sterp

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Using FR:

I look at profiles of people who post here, or those who message me. I might check out a profile if I learn they have great pussy pics (of their cats, you pervs).

I agree with this statement from Marcellarae:

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I think that even those that do read profiles, don't really read them.

They *scan* them. Even I don't bother reading the long ones or the walls of text of anything that starts out whiny or annoying.

Pics I look at; the choice of pics displayed often tells you far more about the person.

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ORIGINAL: BoundSlave4Life

Now that being said, I'll read almost any profile that pops up on my screen, just to read them. I don't care if they are male, female, transgendered, Dominant, submissive, slave, Gay, Straight or Bi. I just enjoy reading profiles and looking into other people's lives to see what they think of this lifestyle, and sometimes I'll get hateful messages. One from a gay guy screaming at me "Why are you looking at my profile you illiterate cunt? I'm Gay! That means I don't want anything to do with you", and another from a "Male Dom" saying "y r u looking at me when ur only looking for woman." I responded with "I just like to read profiles" and he goes off saying "well your desterped me and i don like people desterping me" and he put me on ignore...

Apparently reading profiles is "Desterping" >.>

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ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

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ORIGINAL: BoundSlave4Life

Now that being said, I'll read almost any profile that pops up on my screen, just to read them. I don't care if they are male, female, transgendered, Dominant, submissive, slave, Gay, Straight or Bi. I just enjoy reading profiles and looking into other people's lives to see what they think of this lifestyle, and sometimes I'll get hateful messages. One from a gay guy screaming at me "Why are you looking at my profile you illiterate cunt? I'm Gay! That means I don't want anything to do with you", and another from a "Male Dom" saying "y r u looking at me when ur only looking for woman." I responded with "I just like to read profiles" and he goes off saying "well your desterped me and i don like people desterping me" and he put me on ignore...

Apparently reading profiles is "Desterping" >.>

It's genius really, isn't it...?

I guess people don't realise that there's a whole community on this site, not just people looking to have sex. I like to answer to more people who message me (Even the one who sent Me an abusive message about my 'amoral' choices...!) as I figure we all need friends within the community as well as play partners...

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

That's the thing. Many people here aren't looking and don't consider this a dating site. I look at it as a bunch of folks talking about different topics. Pretty much the same as if it was dinner conversation at My local munch group. When somebody brings up a topic here, I don't need to know their life story to try to answer their question. I've never walked up to anybody in a real life interaction and needed to know their age, weight, gender, BDSM role, etc to say that I liked their pair of shoes and where did they get them.

A profile is really just a person's view (or fantasy) of themselves. That's not always the best way to determine what other people see in them. It's just their own personal monologue.

Plus, I'm kind of an old fashioned chick. I much prefer getting to know people over time, rather than be handed that person's shortcut (profile) for making their acquaintance. When it comes to most of the forum regulars who have been here for a while, I can probably tell more about them from their posting than what they have in their profiles. There is way more information on this side of the site.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

That's the thing. Many people here aren't looking and don't consider this a dating site. I look at it as a bunch of folks talking about different topics. Pretty much the same as if it was dinner conversation at My local munch group. When somebody brings up a topic here, I don't need to know their life story to try to answer their question. I've never walked up to anybody in a real life interaction and needed to know their age, weight, gender, BDSM role, etc to say that I liked their pair of shoes and where did they get them.

A profile is really just a person's view (or fantasy) of themselves. That's not always the best way to determine what other people see in them. It's just their own personal monologue.

Plus, I'm kind of an old fashioned chick. I much prefer getting to know people over time, rather than be handed that person's shortcut (profile) for making their acquaintance. When it comes to most of the forum regulars who have been here for a while, I can probably tell more about them from their posting than what they have in their profiles. There is way more information on this side of the site.

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ORIGINAL: Domnotica

I read profiles before I respond to emails. However I get so many form letters from guys that I posted a blog specifically stating I wont even read an email if it isn't addressed to me specifically and I STILL get form letters!

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Jennifer, just so you know, "naming and shaming" whether in a profile/journal or on the forums is against TOS :)

Yes, many folks do it. Reporting the profile/journal/post is the only way to handle it. Personally, on the personals side, I tend to only report profiles/journals that talk about illegal activities (and in some cases, strongly hint at them).