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ORIGINAL: AFNI

This is basically a dating site which is also usefull as a "meeting point" for people sharing a common interest in bdsm. But....why a person use such a site like this to date people instead of date him/her "on the street"? There are lots of answers to this question depending on the person, but for most of them applies "because he/she is too dumb that can't even socialize.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

I think the other side of CM is a lot like a meat market with both sides seeking to hook up and get maximum sex/money with minimum time and investment. I don't expect people to behave well there... or to behave at all actually.

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ORIGINAL: AFNI

This is basically a dating site which is also usefull as a "meeting point" for people sharing a common interest in bdsm. But....why a person use such a site like this to date people instead of date him/her "on the street"? There are lots of answers to this question depending on the person, but for most of them applies "because he/she is too dumb that can't even socialize.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

....I've never walked up to anybody in a real life interaction and needed to know their age, weight, gender, BDSM role, etc to say that I liked their pair of shoes and where did they get them.

...A profile is really just a person's view (or fantasy) of themselves.

...Plus, I'm kind of an old fashioned chick. I much prefer getting to know people over time, rather than be handed that person's shortcut (profile) for making their acquaintance.

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ORIGINAL: wiremen

Am I alone in thinking that really what is there to say about kink in conversation? Do you talk about technique? Reminis?Pontificate? Seek to educate others? No none of the above! Kink is something deeply personal to you and your partner.

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ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

It took awhile for me to understand the concept of "the other side" and "this side" of CM.
I view it as two different opportunities to "the whole" of CM, but that's fine if others want to label it as such.

I find it interesting this...hostile, almost racist attitude people have for one side vs the other. One side wouldn't DARE post something on the message boards, while another wouldn't DARE to waste their time in a chat room.
Are some people looking for quick, hookup sex in the chat rooms. Sure! But they do here too!
I don't know about the money part "over there" but it's obvious that some people are looking for it on the message boards.
There's joke telling, and news item chats, and people looking for matches in chat rooms as there are on these boards.

As for people "not behaving well there or not at all," there's no more "weeping and gnashing of teeth over there than here...and in some cases there's more over here! I've encountered "asshats" on "both sides," but I've also chatted with some really nice people on both as well. : )

(Thank you)

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

I think the other side of CM is a lot like a meat market with both sides seeking to hook up and get maximum sex/money with minimum time and investment. I don't expect people to behave well there... or to behave at all actually.