Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 10:17:20 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		As many of My male counterparts know, I've never been really big on the genders being split for forums between Dominants. I tend to think there are more similarities than differences. Since the submissive board incorporates both genders, I honestly feel the D side could have followed suit.

One of the differences between the boards, as many of you know, is that we do get a lot of wankers on the Mistress side. I've always felt that would be reduced if the genders would have been combined.

However, in the last couple of days, I've felt bad for the men on this board. Some of the stupidest, complete lack of knowledge type questions have been coming here. Often, they are coming from people who are fifty or older.

Are you noticing this trend? Is it something that is confined to the internet for you? Are you also seeing this complete lack of experience or even general life knowledge in your local munch groups?

Bonus question: Has anyone else wanted to literally bang their head on the desk reading some of this crap lately?


_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 10:24:12 AM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		No, honey, I want to bang THEIR heads. Then go bang someone else.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 10:25:51 AM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline 		It's sympathy fuck time!

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 10:26:42 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		*agrees with Hibbie*

(btw, LadyP... will you answer yer damned phone???)

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 10:26:54 AM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

It's sympathy fuck time!



Poooooor Kana!

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 12:23:54 PM   
TNDommeK


Posts: 7153
Joined: 3/13/2010
Status: offline 		I have yet to scroll to the ask a Mistress section yet, if the questions there are worse than these...omg!

_____________________________

Goddess of Duck Lips and Luxurious Hair
The working Fin Domme
Professional con artist, swindler, trixster, extortionist

Our snark-nado needs more cowbell


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 2:22:09 PM   
FrankAr


Posts: 817
Joined: 10/1/2005
Status: offline 		Greetings Pact,

You also might want to think of these postings and ask if they are real. I mean if they have any thought into the post, would they have not found the time to go back through the history of the board and searched for the answer. Some of the posting has been done with profiles of people whom have just started and then whoosh they are gone. This tends to have the boards filled with useless questions and the answers are genuins but the Ops are not.

Just like in any of the other parts oif the boards, you get the same questions, get the same people taking their time out of their day and answering those questions. You get some Ops just taking advice on what they want to hear, and lo and behold not wanting to hear any other sensible replies. I have gone through some op questions and they are absolutely just tunnel vision idiots with some of people replying giving good advice and just being shut down through tunnel vision.

Oh well thats my gripe..LOL.



_____________________________

I am just me, simple ol me.

Even the softest whisper can be heard in the loudest group....Frank H.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 3:25:47 PM   
UllrsIshtar


Posts: 3693
Joined: 7/28/2012
Status: offline 		50 Shades of Grey LP... oh don't we all love that book...

Apparently it comes "lobotomy included". They must have had a promo or something...





< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 9/5/2012 3:26:36 PM >

_____________________________

I can be your whore
I am the dirt you created
I am your sinner
And your whore
But let me tell you something baby
You love me for everything you hate me for

(in reply to FrankAr)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 3:47:36 PM   
ARIES83


Posts: 3648
Status: offline 		Hey it happens, I don't think men or women
have a corner on the market when it comes to
stupidity.
A lot of the questions do sound like...
"I have a problem! My car wont start, but I'm
interested in BDSM now, so I have forgotten how
to deal with problems! can anyone recomend a
BDSM friendly mechanic?"
What can you do...

You may not notice, but there are female wankers
as well hahah.

-ARIES


_____________________________

530 DAYS

(in reply to UllrsIshtar)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 4:29:07 PM   
Killerangel


Posts: 1169
Joined: 8/3/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

50 Shades of Grey LP... oh don't we all love that book...

Apparently it comes "lobotomy included". They must have had a promo or something...






Yup. Lots of women have read that book and it's hit them right in the sweet spot of wanting sexual satisfaction along with romance. They're all in sub frenzy at approximately the same time. They don't know the first thing about BDSM or D/s, so they're floundering about looking for guidance and are ending up on the boards. Which is good, but it's really hard to keep a straight face when they're all acting like young girls seeing their favorite band in concert for the first time.

(in reply to UllrsIshtar)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 6:14:11 PM   
DarkSteven


Posts: 28072
Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline 		Who the (*&!^#!^@ you callin' a gentleman?

_____________________________

"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

(in reply to Killerangel)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 6:27:41 PM   
ARIES83


Posts: 3648
Status: offline 		Heyyyy... Yer!
We aint gentle.


_____________________________

530 DAYS

(in reply to DarkSteven)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 6:47:34 PM   
SWDesertDom


Posts: 231
Joined: 4/5/2012
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Who the (*&!^#!^@ you callin' a gentleman?


Me?

:P

(in reply to DarkSteven)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 9:44:45 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline
quote:

However, in the last couple of days, I've felt bad for the men on this board. Some of the stupidest, complete lack of knowledge type questions have been coming here. Often, they are coming from people who are fifty or older.

Are you noticing this trend? Is it something that is confined to the internet for you? Are you also seeing this complete lack of experience or even general life knowledge in your local munch groups?

Bonus question: Has anyone else wanted to literally bang their head on the desk reading some of this crap lately?



OH HELL YES!!! It used to be the younger set coming here with stupid questions but within the past couple of months or so, it's been the 50 or older who are doing it. It's one of the big reasons I've cut down on responding here. It came to a point for me where I'm having to bite my tongue so that I didn't get a gold letter for asking these people what the hell are they doing and why are they acting like they're 15 years old. I just don't get it. Sometimes I just want to reach through the computer and shake some sense into them.

Now though I'm to the point where I am just not responding as much because I'm finding it such a waste of my time and figure that if they don't have common sense by their age, then I'm more than willing for them to win Darwin's award.


_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/5/2012 11:21:40 PM   
BambiBoi


Posts: 461
Joined: 8/10/2010
Status: offline 		Lady Pact,

I feel sympathy for them. Like You've pointed out in many posts, that a relationship has a D/s element does not require common sense to go out the window. Sadly, that is a point lost on so many novice posters. It takes monk-like patience and sometimes kid-gloves to get the fledgling kinksters off the ground.

Sometimes, such an approach necessitates feeding trolls. But every now and again I feel like I've practically saved a life by reminding a submissive whose trying so hard to be a pleasing slave that she doesn't have to endure abuses. I take similar care in the poly forum to remind people that just because one is dominant does not mean his or her decisions should go unquestioned.

So many submissives, especially those new and eager to please, endure silliness that borders stupidity because they would feel like a failure for not abiding certain tasks. In short, every now and again I will get an encouraging letter or response from a novice bashfully admitting it was so simple, and they just needed someone to help them see.

That is what keeps me coming back. Plus the newbie girls tend to put booby pictures in their profiles, so that's nice too.

_____________________________

<3

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/6/2012 7:40:59 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

No, honey, I want to bang THEIR heads. Then go bang someone else.


I am alllllllllllll for banging other people's heads.

Apparently it is a very good thing I am very busy this week!

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/6/2012 7:46:30 AM   
Greta75


Posts: 9968
Joined: 2/6/2011
Status: offline 		In conclusion. BDSM really is only right for the emotionally strong.
The rest of us emotionally fucked up human beings are just playing with fire.

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/6/2012 9:10:34 AM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline 		Ya know, I kinda have to agree with Red. While I don't date younger men because it creeps me out because I have a 21 year old daughter, I can understand his rationale.

When I was still dating it did seem like a lot of older men had a lot of current baggage. I don't mind baggage as long as it no longer affects you negatively today. But it seems there are a lot of older people out there that seem to hang onto it. They get bitter and jaded and just mean. I hate going on a date only for them to talk constantly about their ex or be rude to people just because they have become that way from their baggage.

I admit I have baggage but I don't let it overcome my life. I don't talk badly about my ex because it's the past and I no longer feel any reason to be pissy about him. The past is the past. I no longer hate or love him. I'm indifferent to him. I don't talk about my deceased husband very often because I don't want people thinking I'm comparing them to him or that I am still holding onto him. That's just rude to the other person. I don't constantly spout about my problems to others....except Master lol, and even then I don't usually like to bother him with them because I feel as if I don't want to burden him nor it is fair to him.

When I was single I went on a couple of dates with boys a little younger than me and they were fun because they were still discovering, still learning, always seemed happy and carefree. But that was also a huge problem for me because I needed someone with life experience. I didn't want a party person or someone who could not relate to me. The younger ones just seemed to want to hang out with friends and drink and do wild stuff that I would never want to do ever again since I got older and realized the consequences.

Thankfully Master and I like controlled wild stuff.

_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/6/2012 9:32:48 AM   
sblady


Posts: 433
Joined: 9/28/2007
Status: offline 		I have nothing to add, other than "great thread"!

_____________________________

Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. Dalai Lama





(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you - 9/6/2012 10:04:29 AM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75

In conclusion. BDSM really is only right for the emotionally strong.
The rest of us emotionally fucked up human beings are just playing with fire.

What do you know, you got it one.


_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to Greta75)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> Gentlemen, I'm starting to feel bad for you Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109