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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:03:00 PM   
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Keep getting out there.
The older women I know that dig younger will leave a guy no doubt that they want him. If you are getting out there and putting yourself in a position to meet these women and still not getting got......then you have shit you need to work on BIG TIME!



I think you are assuming that I just want to be picked up. While I use terms like Cougar, I'm actually not interested in the one night stand type. You can spot them a mile away, they are usually out there gyrating on a dance floor with a skirt so high you can see their ovaries and they practically have a "Fuck Me" sign on their forehead...not my thing.

Issues? Not really. I do fine with girls my age, and I am confident that if I wanted to I could leave a bar with one of the "take me home and bang me" cougars, but I tend to try to look for the ones that aren't advertising themselves like that and want something more serious....and those ones do care more about age.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:11:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am pretty sure my son's S.O. wasn't interested in a relationship when she grabbed him either. For awhile they were just friends and fuck buddies. Then it evolved.

They've been together exclusively for 3ish years now.

When you are in sales, you quite often have to get into the door to first make your pitch.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:11:45 PM   
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Well your profile sounds quite sincere, but you are very young, and I'm not sure what you mean when you say "older" (do you mean 5-10 years older, or significantly older than you?).



Significantly older. I would think maybe 30's or early 40's. I just adore them. Around girls my age I'm perfectly confident but women from the lete 20's to early 40's literally make me feel all schoolboy shy again. You know that feeling you had with your very first crush.....it's like that.

The kind of lady I described in my profile who is older yet realizes this actually makes her gorgeous rather than being a bad thing, well.......even holding hands with her would make me feel the way I felt as a kid the very first time I held a girls hand, all rubbery legged and shy, heart beating hard...etc.

Anyway, I'll stop now before I make even more of an ass of myself.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:12:51 PM   
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When you are in sales, you quite often have to get into the door to first make your pitch.



If what you mean by that is I first have to get past the bouncers.....tell me about it.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:13:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Women know better than to be subtle with men, when they are interested. I am pretty aggressive when it comes to showing interest, and if I flirt with anyone, I am deadly serious. If someone "older" is interested, she will let you know pretty clearly.

And hey, did I say RAGEFIT? I did. So you were warned. I am not trying to be a meaniepants here, there are lots of women who dig younger men, and as a woman of a certain age, I know that there are lots of young men who like them some Auntie. It's not like you are asking for something impossible to get.

If you want a dominant woman, you have to go where the dominant women are. Then make sure that you are ever so much better than the other young guys around you.

The thing with getting older is that it happens EVERY SECOND. I know time passes more slowly when you are young, but you'll be of age before you know it. In the meantime, practice. In my world, the most fun is at private house parties. I'm going to one tomorrow. Lots of lovely young people and hot old broads. I'll be bringing my knitting...

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:17:39 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I am gonna be hiking with my three bitches..........and the neutered pup.....aka G.D.

Oh yeah.....as he keeps reminding me, he is younger than I am. By one year and 4 months.

Also, my mother in law is around 15 years older than her husband. It really does happen quite a lot now.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:20:26 PM   
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When you are in sales, you quite often have to get into the door to first make your pitch.



If what you mean by that is I first have to get past the bouncers.....tell me about it.



Here's another thing. Folks that hang out in the bar? Are maybe not your target audience anyway. JUST A THOUGHT from a person who rarely drinks.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:20:56 PM   
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Well your profile sounds quite sincere, but you are very young, and I'm not sure what you mean when you say "older" (do you mean 5-10 years older, or significantly older than you?).



Significantly older. I would think maybe 30's or early 40's. I just adore them. Around girls my age I'm perfectly confident but women from the lete 20's to early 40's literally make me feel all schoolboy shy again. You know that feeling you had with your very first crush.....it's like that.

The kind of lady I described in my profile who is older yet realizes this actually makes her gorgeous rather than being a bad thing, well.......even holding hands with her would make me feel the way I felt as a kid the very first time I held a girls hand, all rubbery legged and shy, heart beating hard...etc.

Anyway, I'll stop now before I make even more of an ass of myself.

Well that's a large age difference, especially for a long-term committed relationship. I can't imagine a lot of women in their 30s and 40s searching for an 18 year old, even if they are searching for someone younger than them. But keep trying. You may find, that your desire for women in their 30s and 40s stays fixed even as you get older. In other words, you many find at age 28, you are still attracted to women in their 30s and 40s - and that might be an easier age for you to meet someone for a long term relationship. Anyway, don't get discouraged. People spend a long time searching even when they are looking for people closer to their own age.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:21:51 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Yeah.........I hate them. The only time in my life I've spent significant time in one.....the other side of the bar WORKING.

And when I was working in them, I NEVER took the flirty guys (or girls) seriously. Never dated patrons.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:22:00 PM   
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When woman state no men under a certain age..I am just curious is it because of the actual age or the suspected maturity level of the individuals?

I am sure it depends on the person in certain circumstances but the few people i asked say that it is about the maturity level. I always respond with the same comment basically about age does not necessarily reflect on the maturity level of an individual.

but then i thought maybe they were talking about the maturity level in the lifestyle? I don't know for sure..just curious your thoughts about it?


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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:29:20 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: CougarRick

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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess
Well your profile sounds quite sincere, but you are very young, and I'm not sure what you mean when you say "older" (do you mean 5-10 years older, or significantly older than you?).



Significantly older. I would think maybe 30's or early 40's. I just adore them. Around girls my age I'm perfectly confident but women from the lete 20's to early 40's literally make me feel all schoolboy shy again. You know that feeling you had with your very first crush.....it's like that.

The kind of lady I described in my profile who is older yet realizes this actually makes her gorgeous rather than being a bad thing, well.......even holding hands with her would make me feel the way I felt as a kid the very first time I held a girls hand, all rubbery legged and shy, heart beating hard...etc.

Anyway, I'll stop now before I make even more of an ass of myself.


Yeah, Rick, I am bored and not wanting to work on a tax return, so I am Sharing. Bear with me.

I am fucking gorgeous. Not the same gorgeous as I was twenty years ago, but I still have the goods when I feel like taking it out. "Older" isn't what it used to be. We're not dead once we pass 35. You really don't need to *reassure* anyone that she is attractive and can get some fresh young meat. I am going to be 50 in April, and I assure you it is a very good thing indeed.

There are very very few situations in which I enjoy being objectified. I am guessing most femdoms feel the same. What you're saying here is that the "older woman" thing is what's making you hot. NOT flattering. Yay that you like older women, but try to get a grip on the giddy and make sure you don't show it until you're giddy for HER and not what she REPRESENTS.

That's experience talking, not ragefit. One of the reasons it didn't work with my last submissive is that in his mind I was "beautiful mistress" and not "beautiful Francine". I was a *placeholder* and the details were less important. He's a good guy, I will be happy to see him at the party tomorrow and catch up, but he is fixated on being owned, rather than the owner. Am I making sense here?

I am not a profile reader, so I don't even remember where you live... if there is a scene, or other humans, try hooking up with other guys your age for conversation, and whatever it is the young men do nowadays. You can learn a lot from the men who are successful with older women. There are a few men who are local to me who could totally help you out.




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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:38:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow..feel a little late on a response here hence the conversation some what switched haha..I never really thought of the obvious, that it may not be based on experience in the lifestyle but experience in life. People your own age can relate to certain experiences that you just obviously can not relate to...

Cougar rick...If you are looking for a long term relation ship with some one 20-25 years older than you. You obviously have thought that in another 20 years when your 40 she will be 65-70? Just something to think about..I too agree with maybe you just have not found a some one as mature or same minded as you that is close to your age..

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 1:39:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		and LADYPACT i apologize for that it was a joke between me and a friend on this website. It was after reading a few threads that were just point blank disrespectful and immature..i was being sarcastic but i understand now that it was immature of me as well i apologize..

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 2:17:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Led by your friend, eh? Weak excuse.

If you can not be a man in your own right, that's on you, not Me.

Will he be the one who tells you what you can submit to and what not, by committee?

And you want to know why women pass you up? It's not age, cupcake. It's lack of volition.


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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 2:18:37 PM   
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Led by your friend, eh? Weak excuse.

If you can not be a man in your own right, that's on you, not Me.

Will he be the one who tells you what you can submit to and what not, by committee?

And you want to know why women pass you up? It's not age, cupcake. It's lack of volition.




Dude's in mid Michigan. Where I know people. Has he asked for any intel? Nope.

So there ya go.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 2:43:49 PM   
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I am fucking gorgeous. Not the same gorgeous as I was twenty years ago, but I still have the goods when I feel like taking it out. "Older" isn't what it used to be. We're not dead once we pass 35. You really don't need to *reassure* anyone that she is attractive and can get some fresh young meat. I am going to be 50 in April, and I assure you it is a very good thing indeed.




I never suggested otherwise. I think maybe I might have miscommunicated (I have a talent for that)





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There are very very few situations in which I enjoy being objectified. I am guessing most femdoms feel the same. What you're saying here is that the "older woman" thing is what's making you hot. NOT flattering. Yay that you like older women, but try to get a grip on the giddy and make sure you don't show it until you're giddy for HER and not what she REPRESENTS.
That's experience talking, not ragefit. One of the reasons it didn't work with my last submissive is that in his mind I was "beautiful mistress" and not "beautiful Francine". I was a *placeholder* and the details were less important. He's a good guy, I will be happy to see him at the party tomorrow and catch up, but he is fixated on being owned, rather than the owner. Am I making sense here?




OK, now I know my communications skills have failed. Bear with me, I'm not a jerk, just a poor communicator.


Anyway, I really don't want to be with someone that I objectify, as I want a real relationship (movies, dinner, sitting around and having coffee, renting a movie, going hiking....etc). Yes I do find older women physically attractive, but it's definitley not just the physical. I do feel I could have a stronger emotional bond with someone who is older and more sure of what she wants and is more assertive. I don't know if that makes any sense or not, but it is what it is.


Anyway, I do appreciate the feedback and don't mind the Ragefit one bit. You're just speaking your mind, being honest and forthright yet at the same time not making it needlessly harsh. That's why I always enjoy your input; you strike the perfect balance between honesty and courtesy yet usually with a dry wit that cracks me up.


Cheers

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 2:57:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never said i was led by any one? i told you i take full responsibility for the comment i made as a joke...Sorry if it offended you that much, you do not know me and it is fine if you want to speak your opinion i respect and expect it...

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 3:08:26 PM   
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Here's another thing. Folks that hang out in the bar? Are maybe not your target audience anyway. JUST A THOUGHT from a person who rarely drinks.


Yeah...kind of coming to that conclusion anyway. Fortunately I am not much of a drinker either, which actually makes me a popular person to invite out to bars since I don't mind being the designated driver.

I do spend a lot of time at the gym both because I like to work out, and because I have a part time job there. That is my primary activity when not studying. There is actually quite an active social culture at gyms if you are a regular and serious about your training. That really is my primary social activity.

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 3:11:19 PM   
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And hey, did I say RAGEFIT? I did. So you were warned.


Yes Maam!


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The thing with getting older is that it happens EVERY SECOND. I know time passes more slowly when you are young, but you'll be of age before you know it. In the meantime, practice.



Will do


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I'm going to one tomorrow. Lots of lovely young people and hot old broads. I'll be bringing my knitting...


LOL

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RE: Just another curious question.. - 9/21/2012 3:33:49 PM   
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