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ORIGINAL: tsatske

I'm mentally ill. I make no secret about that. I work hard to be at my highest possible functioning level, which may not be as high as some people start out at, but it's what I can do. I know the things I must do to try and maintain that, and taking my meds is only one of those things.

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I am unowned, but in the past when owned, and if I were to be owned again, it is by Masters who show an interest in helping me maintain my highest level of well being, including taking responsiblity for myself.

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This week I was contacted by someone on the other side with a fetish for mental illness. This is the second time this has happened to me on that site. The first time was a professional theeripist, who had an interest in owning a mentally ill woman. both expressed an interest in helping me maintain myself in a less healthy state, so they could manipulate me better. The first one was specifically interested in maintaining a depressed state, as he described, 'just short of suicide' (now that's a dangerous thought. Overshoot that one and there's no safeword to help you)

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I am not in danger of going along with such ownership. If a dominant lied about his interests and after I was with him began that kind of crap, I'd leave, after talking to him enough to be sure he knew darn well what he was doing. Once I caught on that it was intentional, I'd be gone before you could sneeze and say bless you.

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What do y'all think of this?

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ORIGINAL: ursamajour

I agree wholeheartedly with Grace. How anyone who wishes to be responsible for another would want to use their influence to essentially destroy the other person is beyond me. But, sometimes, I feel as if I am out of touch with what it means to be dominant. I can't tell you how many submissives I've met who have wanted to be harmed, mistreated, or reduced to nothing. It seems that, to many, "dominant" is code for sociopath.

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

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ORIGINAL: ursamajour

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As much as the OP's second example did not have a clue what Depression does, the ones who demand to be reduced to nothing are living in the fantasy of that sensation and don't actually know what it is either. Take it with a grain of salt and ease them into the reality of a good thrashing and being left strung up in the basement for a few hours and they'll change their minds ;p

LOL exactly....

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ORIGINAL: tsatske

I'm mentally ill. I make no secret about that. I work hard to be at my highest possible functioning level, which may not be as high as some people start out at, but it's what I can do. I know the things I must do to try and maintain that, and taking my meds is only one of those things. I am unowned, but in the past when owned, and if I were to be owned again, it is by Masters who show an interest in helping me maintain my highest level of well being, including taking responsiblity for myself.

This week I was contacted by someone on the other side with a fetish for mental illness. This is the second time this has happened to me on that site. The first time was a professional theeripist, who had an interest in owning a mentally ill woman. both expressed an interest in helping me maintain myself in a less healthy state, so they could manipulate me better. The first one was specifically interested in maintaining a depressed state, as he described, 'just short of suicide' (now that's a dangerous thought. Overshoot that one and there's no safeword to help you)

I am not in danger of going along with such ownership. If a dominant lied about his interests and after I was with him began that kind of crap, I'd leave, after talking to him enough to be sure he knew darn well what he was doing. Once I caught on that it was intentional, I'd be gone before you could sneeze and say bless you.

I told both I think they have an idea that is better in fantasy. The new one specifically said he'd like to keep me in a diseased state to 'better serve him domestically and sexually'. I told hiim depressed people don't want to clean or have sex, or do much of anything else, except maybe cry, and maybe not even that. (sometimes depression feels sad, sometimes it just feels empty). when either depressed enough or manic enough, touch - even the unaviodable touch of air on my skin - can be painful, it's called nerve pain, I take a pill for it, but if I get manic enough it still happens. since even such unaviodable things as wearing clothes or taking a shower hurt, I'm sure not going to be up for much play.

I'm just wondering how common this fetish is and if other mentally ill subs would find it an acceptable fetish to cater to. To me it is a little like, only worse, feeder doms. i'm fat, but I don't go in for feeders. I'm fat enough as it is. I want a Master who accepts me as I am and wants the best for me, wants constant improvement, within my capabilities, with an eye to stretching those. What do y'all think of this?

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

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ORIGINAL: ursamajour

I agree wholeheartedly with Grace. How anyone who wishes to be responsible for another would want to use their influence to essentially destroy the other person is beyond me. But, sometimes, I feel as if I am out of touch with what it means to be dominant. I can't tell you how many submissives I've met who have wanted to be harmed, mistreated, or reduced to nothing. It seems that, to many, "dominant" is code for sociopath.

Naw... until you've met those people face to face and taken pictures, they're just random snippets of fantasy floating ownerless and aimlessly on the internet aether.

As much as the OP's second example did not have a clue what Depression does, the ones who demand to be reduced to nothing are living in the fantasy of that sensation and don't actually know what it is either. Take it with a grain of salt and ease them into the reality of a good thrashing and being left strung up in the basement for a few hours and they'll change their minds ;p

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ORIGINAL: ursamajour

I agree wholeheartedly with Grace. How anyone who wishes to be responsible for another would want to use their influence to essentially destroy the other person is beyond me. But, sometimes, I feel as if I am out of touch with what it means to be dominant. I can't tell you how many submissives I've met who have wanted to be harmed, mistreated, or reduced to nothing. It seems that, to many, "dominant" is code for sociopath.

Naw... until you've met those people face to face and taken pictures, they're just random snippets of fantasy floating ownerless and aimlessly on the internet aether.

As much as the OP's second example did not have a clue what Depression does, the ones who demand to be reduced to nothing are living in the fantasy of that sensation and don't actually know what it is either. Take it with a grain of salt and ease them into the reality of a good thrashing and being left strung up in the basement for a few hours and they'll change their minds ;p

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ORIGINAL: graceadieu

I dunno. I did meet a local sub once, we hung out and got lunch, who said she intentionally looks for guys that'll cheat on her and betray her and cause her emotional distress. Apparently that's her fetish or something. And I've met others that.... haven't said anything to this effect, but just seem to end up with abuser after asshole after abuser. I don't know if they're intentionally seeking that out, if it's a subconcious thing where nice guys don't turn them on, or if they're just so desperate that they'll just get with anybody. I suspect #2.

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ORIGINAL: tsatske

People on this board ROCK! I only put this up to start an interesting conversation, but y'all helped me decide to rewrite my profile.

Only I didn't rewrite my profile, the wonderful Chatte did! And it Rocks! thanks, everyone, esp. Chatte!

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I would also still consider whether you want to mention your mental illness in your profile at all. Obviously this is your judgment call to make, but I still think there is an advantage to waiting to meet someone, and then letting them know about that aspect of yourself.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Ya know, I used to always say I would never involve myself with a man who has mental or physical disabilities but ya know, I've met some great guys who did have those issues and I never knew until after we went out and it turned out I liked them enough that those disabilities just didn't matter to me because they handled their life very wisely and honestly so that the disability was not even ever an issue. They took care of their problems to the point that it just didn't really play much of a significance in their life.

So, I personally see no reason to put it on a profile. Meet the person first. See if you both like each other first. And if it turns out you both want to spend more time together, then maybe you can tell them. It may turn out that it's not such a big deal as you seem to make it.

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

I feel why waste the time. Have it on the profile, and then they wont even bother to show interest if a mental illness is an automatic disqualifyer.

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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

I would also still consider whether you want to mention your mental illness in your profile at all. Obviously this is your judgment call to make, but I still think there is an advantage to waiting to meet someone, and then letting them know about that aspect of yourself.