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Tranny love - 10/4/2012 10:27:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello, I am a straight male slave and I have been attracted exclusively to Dominant Females my entire life, I am now 45 and I have found myself very attracted and interested in Transgender Dominant Women, and Drag Queens. My question is does anyone know what is at the root of being attracted to trannies or Drag Queens?
I mean I suddenly want to give head and be fucked up the ass by a Leather Clad Tranny w/ a big fat cock ? And I have never been attracted to men nor have I ever entertained the idea of being a cock slave.

Interested in all feed back thanks.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 7:52:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		First, please stop using the term "tranny" to refer to transgender/transsexual people. It's considered a derogatory name in the trans* community, similar to using the N-word for someone of African descent. Second, I don't know why you're particularly attracted to trans* women and drag queens. However, I can tell you that someone like you, who fetishizes trans* people is called a "chaser" and is generally scorned in the trans* community. No one likes to be objectified without their consent and that's what you're doing. It's creepy. Stop it.

I strongly suggest you stop watching trans-misogynistic porn, which it sounds like you've been doing. I also suggest you educate yourself about issues such as trans-misogyny, trans-oppression, and other basic Trans 101 topics. This link is a good starting point: http://tranarchism.com/2010/11/26/not-your-moms-trans-101/

So is this one: http://www.questioningtransphobia.com/

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 7:54:08 AM   
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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 7:56:06 AM   
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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 8:01:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: cruelityspig

Hello, I am a straight male slave and I have been attracted exclusively to Dominant Females my entire life, I am now 45 and I have found myself very attracted and interested in Transgender Dominant Women, and Drag Queens. My question is does anyone know what is at the root of being attracted to trannies or Drag Queens?
I mean I suddenly want to give head and be fucked up the ass by a Leather Clad Tranny w/ a big fat cock ? And I have never been attracted to men nor have I ever entertained the idea of being a cock slave.

Interested in all feed back thanks.

slave michael


My feedback is that you got a hardon posting this and that was your intent. Go jerk off, that's really the only purpose of your posting.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 9:11:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Michael, you have gotten some good advice thus far about terms and sexually objectifying a person for all the wrong reasons.

Let me give you a view from the inside. Most transgendered people are on a journey of authenticity and self - discovering, connecting and embodying that part of themselves that has been denied them by birth and often times society. It can be an all consuming thing that can literally eat your life. And it is not an easy path, pretty much ever.

Many Male to Female trans-folk have a sincere -core of their being- aversion to their penis and would have no interest in using it to bang anything. Further, if they were on hormones, it can become a physical impossibility to get hard, let alone get hard long enough to do something that absolutely horrifies you.
The goal for many is to be rid of the penis after all...

Now, transgender people are a spectrum as any group will be. There are people out there without the penis aversion and they might even enjoy anal sex. But I will say to you that they are likely to have aversion to someone wanting to have sex with them just because they are trans.

Pretty much, if you are human, you want people to want to be with you because of your merits as a neat human being, not just because you cover your bits with a skirt. It would be an awkward conversation afterward if that were all there was to it, eh?

I will say to you that there is no shame in wanting to experience anal sex, or to sexually interact with a penis. The organ does not change however, with the clothing the person happens to be wearing - it is still a penis, a male sexual organ that you are fantasizing about.

Best to come to terms with that rather than try to disguise it with frills and perfume to try to justify it in your mind as "acceptable".

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 9:31:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		brilliant post Otters.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 9:38:07 AM   
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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 9:48:16 AM   
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OP, I can't be sure, but I think it is because you are struggling with thoughts of bi-sexuality. You're going with the notion that if a person *looks* female by outward appearance, then you don't *really* have to deal with the fact that you are interested in getting up close and personal with someone's man bits. You don't have to face that you are wanting something sexually because, HEY, the person came across as female, right? Wink, wink, wink.

Did you notice how the very first line of the post was saying that you were straight, but specifically were having sexual fantasies about a penis? At minimum, I'd probably say you were bi-curious.


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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 9:56:28 AM   
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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:02:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cruelityspig

My question is does anyone know what is at the root of being attracted to trannies or Drag Queens?



Crueltyspig,
I'll answer you in a different way that the previous responses.

Firstly, I understand where each of them was coming from, and I respect their opinions. However, I think they were overly politically correct. So I'm going to give you the unpolitically correct answer.

Like you, I am a straight male. I am not the least bit attracted to men. Yet, at times I have been strangely aroused by the idea of sex with a she-male (i apologize if that term is offensive to some). At first, I wondered whether this arousal somehow meant that I was "gay". But as I thought about it, I realized that labels really aren't productive. Human emotions and feelings are a very complex subject. It's hard to understand why one person is attracted to another person. Why does one person like redheads while another prefers blondes? Why does one person like plump women while another prefers very thin women? Why does one person get aroused by CBT, while another prefers forced feminization?

I guess my point is simply "why ask why?"

Life is short. If you're attracted to she-males, then pursue that. Once you've experienced it, if you find that you enjoy it, that's great. If you find that you don't enjoy it, then don't do it again. But trying to get complete strangers to tell you why you feel the way that you do is an utter waste of time.

Having said that, I'll tell you why I have sometimes found myself attracted to she-males. Personally, I believe that fucking someone is a very dominant act, particularly when it is done forcibly or in a rough fashion. Because of that, I've always thought that strap-on play was very erotic. Moreover, it can be a very obvious manifestation of sexual dominance. Few things make me feel less dominant, and less in control than when a woman is having her way with me with a strap-on. I'm sure that many dominant women feel the same way when they are fucking their male slave with their strap-on.

I think that's the same mindset that makes she-males interesting. The idea that she can take you and have her way with you is very sexy (IMO).

Some would argue that the desire to be fucked is "gay". I disagree with that assessment. For me, it is more a question of dominance. IMO, attraction to she-males is a subset of this phenomenon.

I hope that helps.
-Roch

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:06:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP? Please don't ever use the term she-male. Just don't.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:06:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Did you notice how the very first line of the post was saying that you were straight, but specifically were having sexual fantasies about a penis? At minimum, I'd probably say you were bi-curious.



LadyPact,
We were obviously typing at the same time, because when I started writing my reply, your response hadn't been posted yet.

Personally, I partially disagree with your assessment. I think that there are many who are in denial about their inherent gay or bi-sexual feelings. But I think there are others who may find she-males to be erotic for a very different reason (as I outlined in my previous post).

I'm sure that you can relate to my idea that when a Domme takes her man with a strap-on, it can be a very dominant act.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:08:05 AM   
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OP? Please don't ever use the term she-male. Just don't.



LadyHibiscus,
Sorry if the term offends you. But he had already been chastised for using the term "tranny", so I tried to find another term that might be more acceptable. Looks like I may have missed the mark.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:10:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		While I don't consider penetrative sex dominant from any angle or orifice, I agree with Roch's assessment that a person can be an erotic oject, and have nothing to do with sexual orientation. I consider those women with penises *very* hot, and I'm not bisexual.

Men fetishise things--and I think women know all about that kind of objectification.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:12:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

OP? Please don't ever use the term she-male. Just don't.



LadyHibiscus,
Sorry if the term offends you. But he had already been chastised for using the term "tranny", so I tried to find another term that might be more acceptable. Looks like I may have missed the mark.


It does not offend ME, I am a cis female. It does offend my IRL trans friends. Think of it as a kind of racial slur that really needs to die. It's not on us to reclaim it.


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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:14:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

OP? Please don't ever use the term she-male. Just don't.



LadyHibiscus,
Sorry if the term offends you. But he had already been chastised for using the term "tranny", so I tried to find another term that might be more acceptable. Looks like I may have missed the mark.



trans-gendered/trans-sexual/etc.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:17:12 AM   
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Now, transgender people are a spectrum as any group will be. There are people out there without the penis aversion and they might even enjoy anal sex. But I will say to you that they are likely to have aversion to someone wanting to have sex with them just because they are trans.

Pretty much, if you are human, you want people to want to be with you because of your merits as a neat human being, not just because you cover your bits with a skirt. It would be an awkward conversation afterward if that were all there was to it, eh?



Well stated, Otters.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 10:25:23 AM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

OP? Please don't ever use the term she-male. Just don't.



LadyHibiscus,
Sorry if the term offends you. But he had already been chastised for using the term "tranny", so I tried to find another term that might be more acceptable. Looks like I may have missed the mark.



trans-gendered/trans-sexual/etc.


Thanks. I won't use the "S" word any more.

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RE: Tranny love - 10/5/2012 11:12:06 AM   
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