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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/11/2012 7:32:02 PM

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There are a lot more sadists than others on every kink site I've been on. I was looking for a dominant into bondage but not sadistic. I got more damn come ons from sadists than imaginable. They told me they could teach me to enjoy pain. They claimed that breaking an odd hard limit I have would be the first thing they would do. And so on.

I got one hello from a nonsadist bondage top. One out of probably a hundred. He's the only one I wrote back, the only one I met.

Just roll your eyes at all the emails from guys who ignore what you want and block and delete. Don't bother to talk to people you aren't compatible with. If a guy who matches you writes, answer him. Otherwise read profiles for guys in your area and if one of them seems okay, you write him.

Thank you, sounds like just what I would have to do eventually.

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/12/2012 7:36:24 AM

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I will point out that what you seek in yourself, this notion of 'pervasively soaking in your femininity' I guess I would call it is what Gorean men seek from their kajira.

I know, another layer of confusion, nevertheless.........

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/12/2012 7:41:55 PM

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You may have a point there, though I don't get the impression that's what she's looking for.

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/13/2012 8:41:43 AM

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If you read her profile.......al-Aswad, it seems to run along those lines, in a vague way....

I read it, you know I am gonna eyefuck the shit outta that.

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/13/2012 7:32:07 PM

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Hell, yeah.

What I meant was, I don't think she's looking to have that relationship status. Much of the concept, probably, yes. Maybe most of it. But not, I think, that particular flavor of propertyhood (is that even a word?).

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/13/2012 8:28:43 PM

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I don't see the profile, so I'm guessing it's gone in favor of a new name (which is probably a good idea). But you have to remember also that there are different sorts of guys who relate to the idea of a "Daddy Dom." Some of them are sadistic, some of them are into things you're not. So make sure when you're rewriting your profile, that you specify the type of person you're seeking.

Personally, I like sadistic men who want to own a girl, and who have a paternal sort of authoritarian bend. My problem, being a little-type, is that I do only seem to meet self-ID'd Daddy Doms who want a cuddly relationship with little control and few boundaries. Kind of the opposite for you, I guess? hahaha
(Not to say that you can't have a nice bit of cuddling with a sadist; you most certainly can, and i totally groove on those kinds of dichotomies. =p)

ANYWAY, just make sure you are specific in your profile.
And... get used to just brushing off a few things here and there. Most of us chickie-sorts have received boatloads of mail that has nothing to do with anything we've ever written on a profile or written here on the forums. Messages from sub men asking if we've ever considered switching, random Dom who accuses you of "not being twue" until you prove yourself on cam, blah blah blah.
People ARE going to ignore your profile. they ARE going to send you unwanted mail. That's just part and parcel of being here. =p

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/16/2012 10:30:08 AM

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I remember running across that essay DS posted. It helped inform my concept of "what type of dom I was," as well. However, I sometimes struggle with the term, "daddy dom" because it seems, to a lot of subs, to entail an interest in infantilization, diapering, pretending to be actual father/daughter to the outside world, etc. I'm not into any of that. For me, it's about being responsible for someone else in a manner similar to a parent, providing structure and discipline, promoting growth and success, and, of course, being obeyed. Personally, I'm not much of a sadist but, similar again to a parent, I don't feel bad about punishing a naughty girl. For me, that can mean a spanking but I prefer psychological tools to promote compliance: denial, shaming, limitation of fun activities, etc.

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 1:44:42 AM

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I wanted to change my username but I decided against it. Bimbofied is what is it "Bimbofied" Different doms would look at a username or profile and reads more meaning into it than they should. I decided to skip the Daddy Dom search and just learn as much as I can about being a sub from the CM community.

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 2:31:12 AM

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Its not the username as much as we all struggle with concomitant meanings. I had a similar struggle, I thought dollification was clearer but had a few problems with that as well. My version of being humiliated was quite tame compared to one girl who asked us when we where going to start pimping her out. (yes as in rl whore).

Sadly it was my fault for not being explicitly clear. Your profile spells out how you are approaching it. Your a woman, with a pic. expect to be swamped.

Michael...

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 3:24:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

If you read her profile.......al-Aswad, it seems to run along those lines, in a vague way....

I read it, you know I am gonna eyefuck the shit outta that.

That sounds Furrnnnny

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 3:31:17 AM

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Don't worry. There's a repeat offender who tends to get around here. He sends a long winded copy/pasted message trying to hypnotize someone to be a Bimbo girl for him. I'm sure he'll eventually make his rotation to you, and you'll have found your match. :-)

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 3:35:32 AM

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quote" ... I sometimes struggle with the term, "daddy dom" because it seems, to a lot of subs, to entail an interest in infantilization, diapering, pretending to be actual father/daughter to the outside world, etc. I'm not into any of that. For me, it's about being responsible for someone else in a manner similar to a parent, providing structure and discipline, promoting growth and success, and, of course, being obeyed. Personally, I'm not much of a sadist but, similar again to a parent, I don't feel bad about punishing a naughty girl. For me, that can mean a spanking but I prefer psychological tools to promote compliance: denial, shaming, limitation of fun activities, etc.
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That still is my problem with that name. I gradually had to accept the term sadistic because I like to spank etc. Its not punishment its just plain fun.

Well said.

Michael...

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 3:35:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: Bimbofied
I wanted to change my username but I decided against it. Bimbofied is what is it "Bimbofied" Different doms would look at a username or profile and reads more meaning into it than they should.

I think there's something that's missing here ...

While I am obviously a fan of well written, honest, informative profiles, that's not where it ends by any stretch. A profile is a start but after the initial spark flickers, that's where we need to actually talk to people and see what the specifics are behind what they have on their profile.

If we've discovered nothing else just within this thread, we've discovered that different people define terms differently within the lifestyle. How I see myself as a Daddy is different than how other people see a Daddy. Fair enough. Relationships will never be a one-size-fits-all. But, that's where the fun comes.

This is where we start actually speaking and even (*GASP*) meeting up for coffee and finding out what exactly "pain slut" means to her or what "play partners" means to someone else. It's where we come out from behind our screens and start to get to know people as people. We stop treating them as pixels on a screen and start learning about them and teaching them about us and ... you know ... behaving like normal people do.

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ORIGINAL: Bimbofied
I decided to skip the Daddy Dom search and just learn as much as I can about being a sub from the CM community.

Good luck with this. The way some people define "submissive" here, you'd learn more about actual submission by taking an auto mechanic class. I cannot stress enough that you go out into your local community and get involved. Here, you'll find some real people but, mostly, you'll find people looking for their very own FDS.

Good luck in your search.

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 7:24:14 AM

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I have difficulty understanding the daddy dom dynamic as well.

Is it based on a fantasy that a man would like to fuck and have full control over his daughter so finding a sub as a substitute?

What is it actually?

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 7:30:43 AM

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I posted a link to an essay, earlier, giving a pretty good description.

Peace and comfort,

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 2:23:53 PM

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The problem about going to local meetings is that they all tend to be looking for "play partners" I am looking for just one Daddy Dom, I am not interested in any form of casual play. Believe it or not I have actually attended a so called BDSM meetup and it was more of guys thinking they were coming for an orgy so I left within the first few minutes...

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 2:31:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: Bimbofied

The problem about going to local meetings is that they all tend to be looking for "play partners" I am looking for just one Daddy Dom, I am not interested in any form of casual play. Believe it or not I have actually attended a so called BDSM meetup and it was more of guys thinking they were coming for an orgy so I left within the first few minutes...

There are munch groups where you can just meet up with and talk to people at local restaurants/bars. They tend to break and go their way to different events but there's no play at the local dunkin donuts.

There's a site (which I think I can't mention) that is REALLY good for finding events in your local area. I go to a diner (A diner? In New Jersey? Who would have thunk that, huh?) the last Friday of every month. We rent the party room, get 30-40 people, have a meal and chit-chat. I've never been pressured to go anywhere else and I am quite the sexy devil, if I do say so myself.

Peace and comfort,

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 3:06:56 PM

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is "eye fucking" a bad or good thing lol I am confused!

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/20/2012 3:25:40 PM

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I am a Daddy to my girl.

That means a lot of things, most of them are not overtly sexual at all.

I read her bedtime stories. I draw pictures for her. I help her figure out what she wants, and whether she takes my advice I support her. I reinforce all the things I see in her - her beauty, her kindness, her intelligence, her wit, her love of words, her smile, and how she makes me feel. I want her to know how good she is, how many positive and wonderful attributes she possesses. I am a loving authority and I do not enforce that because I don't have to. She feels it as do I. It is a part of our dynamic that we both cherish.

If you're more interested in the sexual side of the dynamic, ask yourself how you could please him - and how he can make you feel like the little treasure that is his world.

Not everyone will approach the dynamic in the manner I have ascribed. This is a portrait of her and I. I do hope it helps, though.

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RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? - 10/21/2012 5:04:54 PM

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Oh no, the Daddy Dom and Little Girl relationship has nothing to do with all that. It is more of him being a guardian, protector, lover, mentor, guiding his little girl with a firm but gentle hand. I am still learning more about the Daddy Dom as the days go by...

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