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Places for first meet

Public place. cafe bar etc

79% (59)

Munch, kink venue

13% (10)

Either sides home

6% (5)

Total Votes : 74

(last vote on : 12/27/2012 6:58:38 AM)
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RE: Places for first meet - 10/31/2012 1:11:57 PM

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Munches don't always happen conviently enough and for safetys sak a public place is best.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 6:04:23 PM

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Just checked this after a week or so.

Conclusion....

Most are so paranoid, im suprised they ever meet anyone.

Brits and Americans think diferently.

Reality.. we all break the rules we suggest to others, but darent admit it!!!

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 6:07:56 PM

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The only honest post was LP, she hasnt changed her stance for years.

( oh and for those paranoids, me and lady p rarely agree on anything.)

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 7:43:08 PM

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i'm a big fan of the "meet in a public place" rule.

i met one imbecile at a bar. he managed to show up an hour late (which was fine, i was at one of my favorite bars and nursed an apple martini while playing pool), but then he got there, only to talk about the connections between jesus christ, space aliens and the environmental movement. can't make that shit up. i told him he was bat shit crazy, and he says, "you ain't seen crazy yet!" and laughed like he made the funniest joke in the world.

needless to say, i bolted to my car and took the long way home after that.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 9:11:24 PM

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Well, first off, DON'T SLAM PEOPLE FOR BEING MINDFUL OF PERSONAL SAFETY. I can think of far better (and less humiliating ways) of getting My name in the news than to be one of those "what the hell was she THINKING?" type women who gets attacked/disappears after meeting an online "friend" and leaves family and friends to mourn (and the same goes for you boys who don't take precautions).

Thanks, but I'll stick with meeting DURING THE DAY at a large Mall, the best place really, since there is something for most everyone there. You can spend the day hanging out, have a meal or two at the restaurants, and get to know each other's vanilla interests. Malls usually have security (an added bonus) if the person you meet turns out to be a stalker like the one OsideGirl met. If you want to be SUPER careful I suppose you can always get a couple friends to wander about "separately" but within sight to keep an eye on things.

...and a note in response to someone who said the person they met helps people so they felt safe...I once ALMOST met someone like that, a gym Personal Trainer whom I'd met on Myspace, and known online for over a year. I was looking for a personal trainer to help with some fitness issues after losing a ton of weight. He was into poetry, against violence, specialized in anger management for men, he helped abused women, he even had counseled a few women away from abusive relationships, etc...so he of all people should be SAFE, right? A week before I was to go meet him for My first workout session I got a message from another woman on his friends list, it was a warning urging anyone on his friend's list to "look at this Link"....I thought she was WHACKO, a jealous GF perhaps? But I looked at the link anyway....well, Niiiice...it was a local newspaper's website, the link was to an article about his arrest (complete with his mugshot--yep, that was him alright!). He had met another woman he'd been online friends with and had attempted to STAB her several times, she managed to fend him off, escaped and ran across the street to a store for help.

My point being, SUCCESSFUL PREDATORS *WANT* YOU TO FEEL SAFE. It's up to YOU to actually BE safe.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 9:49:56 PM

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Well like I said earlier, I did once meet someone at my house and it was a disaster and not something I would ever ever do again and never have since then. Plus I don't want to have to try and force a guy off of my front porch because he thinks we're a match and I just wanna get rid of him. I've already had 2 stalkers in my life. I wouldn't want another one thanks.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 10:01:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: frazzle

The only honest post was LP, she hasnt changed her stance for years.

( oh and for those paranoids, me and lady p rarely agree on anything.)

Wait, so you're saying the rest of us lied here?

I totally broke all safety rules, and wrote about it. And said I don't suggest it to others - I was lucky, and would not do that again.

I think it's really crappy of you to imply I am lying, and that everyone else is lying, too.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/2/2012 10:31:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: frazzle

The only honest post was LP, she hasnt changed her stance for years.

( oh and for those paranoids, me and lady p rarely agree on anything.)

While I truly appreciate the acknowledgement, I wouldn't say I was the only one.

The discussion of the difference between Brits and Americans is an interesting one. I would love to explore the cultural differences. Of course, to Me, this is tied up in subjects such as slanted journalism and a slew of other things that make us different.

I'd like to have a candid look at these areas. There may be a benefit to a number of people.

Frazzle, thank you, again.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/3/2012 12:20:47 AM

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Wow, way to dump on your posters OP. I am shocked by what you said that LP is the only honest answer, what a steaming pile of crap! You say you folks in the uk are different from folks over here. Seriously you speak for your entire culture/country? If you have no fear, feel no fear for your safety, well it would be difficult for you to see the importance of being careful of meeting strangers. One slip though dude and your shit is fecked. Didnt Jack the Ripper come from your 'chilled out' country? I am quite sure yall have issues with the kind of violence we are discussing here.

As far as someone being a pastor or a dean, some religious folk or so called 'helper' type people have been some of the scariest sob's you will ever meet.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/3/2012 10:01:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: frazzle

Just checked this after a week or so.

Conclusion....

Most are so paranoid, im suprised they ever meet anyone.

Brits and Americans think diferently.

Reality.. we all break the rules we suggest to others, but darent admit it!!!

How is meeting strangers in public paranoid? Not sure why you are surprised the ones meeting in public are meeting at all...since the poll is about where you meet people. That doesn't even make any sense to say people are too paranoid to meet when they're telling you that they are out and about meeting people- in public places.

You're saying that in reality we all break the rules we suggest to others, then you set up this poll to find out, and find out that the great majority follows the rules they suggest to others about meeting publicly. Go look at the poll results again, there is a 96% saying they meet in public. Are you saying the results of your poll are false?

You set out to find the answer to something, now you are rejecting it? Wtf?

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/3/2012 3:19:21 PM

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One slip though dude and your shit is fecked.

Indeed...just happened to a young single mum here some months ago where her date killed her at her home in front of her 18 months old kid...

with that view I'm sure that people who go to medical check ups with no signs of being ill, are paranoid, too?!

I met dates at their home, in my home as well as in public places but I am aware of risks involved and if worse comes to worse paying the price for it...however it's uncalled for naming people paranoid who don't meet at private places that soon....

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/3/2012 7:00:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: frazzle

Just checked this after a week or so.

Conclusion....

Most are so paranoid, im suprised they ever meet anyone.

Brits and Americans think diferently.

Reality.. we all break the rules we suggest to others, but darent admit it!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSZgkFtV-Ao

The key thing about meeting someone is, you don't know who they are. The key thing about that is the don't know part. And while the likelihood is everything will be ok, the same is true of shooting into the air. It is the outside chance that matters in each instance.

Now I suspect, because I'm the sort of guy to put the pieces I already have together to see if I can guess what the big picture is, that the OP is not going to learn this lesson.

I'm ok with that.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/9/2012 5:34:55 PM

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hmmmm.... are there really rules, or are there interpretations? A public place is the safest place for me, and to see if the dom/domme is on the level, it's great to throw in a pile of friends, to see how they hold up in human company. You know how the sizing sometimes washes out with the first laundry day.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/13/2012 3:04:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bemyprize

We met a wonderful girl just recently from this very site---(you know who you are wink).

1) As soon as we sat down she took pics of our drivers licensees on her cell phone and sent them.
2) We also had her take a pic of our car
3) A pic of us together... (taken by a nice lady at the coffee shop --(not starbucks cause we are rebels like that).

My point is that she was very new, and yes we are great people but its our job to make sure that she learns smart practices.

Michael...

This is a VERY good idea, especially about the driver's licenses. Pics should be SENT to friend though, not just left on the phone, or did you leave that part out?

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/13/2012 3:08:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

Abandoned warehouse filled with drug pushers and homeless people. Anyone?

Pam

I had one where we had arranged an evening meet at a Starbucks in a strip mall. Shortly after I arrived he called me to ask if I was there yet. When I said yes, he told me to drive into the alley in the back of the building and get into his car. I said I'd be right there....then I drove home and left him sitting there.

VERY SMART! I wonder if the next person he lined up was as smart.

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RE: Places for first meet - 11/13/2012 2:00:35 PM

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Munches I usually choose, twice I've chosen a pub before now.

Never chosen a club event, though technically they're quite public too

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