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sexyred1 -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/29/2012 8:07:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: onlyifyouwanna

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So, instead of developing patience and not leading with your cock, you will likely fail in your endeavor. Or you could get lucky. Who knows.


so if your willing to admit that why are women hesitant to try it in mean hey you said it who know ladies ya dont realize that some not all men put the same emotional commitment in from the start as yourselves we just approach it differently hey where a different sex


Your last line is your problem. Your approach is geared towards other men. Not women. As I said, in marketing, one markets their approach to the demographic they seek.

If you feel that men do not put the same emotional commitment or interest in a person from the start, then you can do two things:

1. go to casual sex hook up sites and find like minded women
2. go to casual sex hook up sites and find men

Either way, you are failing to discern that you cannot change the reactions of people, you can only change your approach.

And when I said you could get lucky, I meant that. There are women who are very open to hook ups; you just have to be honest and approach those women. If you wrote me, for example, I would delete you, while celebrating your honesty.



littlewonder -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/29/2012 8:39:46 PM)

If you're just wanting to fuck, wouldn't it be easier to go to the bars and just wait around till closing time? I guarantee there's always at least 1 person leaving alone who will be more than willing to fuck anyone or anything.

ETA after reading the rest of your posts: So basically what you are saying is that you are lazy. Yeah, that's such a handsome trait in a guy! Sorry, you will have better luck at a nightclub.




BurntKitty -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/29/2012 8:51:15 PM)

~FR~

And he's in Miami. Jeez if he can't get laid in South Beach or the Keys, he really has issues.



LonDom61 -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/29/2012 11:46:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Bemyprize

Only if you wanna,


This is enlightened self-interest. (We have recently met a wonderful slave girl, and are dealing with some triggers left behind from the collarmongers).

Go to okcupid (its the site you want):

1) Make a profile, answering only the BDSM questions.
2) Check the box looking for casual sex or similar.


Yours in blithely ignoring karma,

Michael...,



Hey, Michael.

The rest was amusing. But my comment is only re these 2.

Check the casual sex box: definitely.

Check the BDSM boxes: mmm...not so sure. He keeps referring to casual sex, quick fun, try it first, etc. He has written a lot here. I don't recall any kink-specific references. In his (similar writing style) profile, there are 2...sorta

Looking for "freaky women to do freaky things to". I guess there's kink in there somewhere. But I think if you let him choose between two doors: "Sex for sure. Right now." and "Kinky girl...but no sex for at least 2 weeks", he'd go for door number 1 in a flash. Whereas most of us would pause...then say "define kinky. can I talk to her first/see her list/etc". And not even remember there was a door number one.

And listed as Switch.

OP: Without googling. What IS a Switch?

No reference to that, either, here or there.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 12:01:27 AM)

Fast Reply

I'm getting laid all the time. Must be you, OP.



metamorfosis -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 12:48:10 AM)

I guess they don't "wanna". Try craigslist?

Pam



MissAsylum -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 1:49:04 AM)

1. I read your profile. There are PLENTY of women on this site that fit the description of what you are looking for. HOWEVER- your thought process is very wrong. No wonder you aren't getting any.

2. Why are you so opposed to STD testing if you are looking for sex only? Me thinks you have something to hide.

3. Speaking from my experience, it did not take my fiancé 6 months to get some. Maybe in the range of 6 days to 6 weeks...I don't know for certain due this being 5 years ago, so I'm being generous...as we had different schedules. I can GUARANTEE that it would have been less had we been around each other more. He stimulated my mind to the point I was about to THROW some ass at him. I couldn't WAIT for him to fuck me. So yeah, you're doing something wrong.

4. In my day of having sex-only relationships, I still knew them as well as somebody who I was dating- most times, better than that. Again, the threat of STD's is VERY real.

5. If you have a plethora of women at your disposal to have sex with right now- you wouldn't be complaining about how long it takes to get some. Cut the shit, dude.




needlesandpins -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 11:25:22 AM)

fr

you are not getting laid because you are lazy. it's really that simple.

i can't be bothered in formal writing on here either, and generally i am very flexible where other people's capabilties in writing lay, but seriously.....throw a full stop in once in a while won't you. reading your stuff is just damned hard work. this in itself shows that you are lazy.

your profile is basically empty.....lazy

all you want to do is fuck from the get go.....lazy

you reduce women to sex objects instead of wanting to get to know them first.....lazy

you come here after being a member for such a short time to whinge about women just not wanting to fuck straight away rather than making an actual effort.....lazy

you seem to think that just because women are here they must all have no taste, preference, wants/needs of their own to be met, and willing to fuck anything with a pulse......lazy

it would seem that other than being lazy your main problem is assuming that just because women are here then they must all think like you. i'm guessing you are actually here because you can't get laid in real life. i'm willing to bet that any woman you know would tell you to sod off if you walked up to her saying all you wanted was to fuck first.

i wouldn't touch you with someone else's barge pole, let alone my own.

needles



MistressDarkArt -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 11:48:51 AM)

100% this ^^^^^

Dude, are you sure you're not pregnant? Because you keep missing periods!

As for your whining: in general, women don't think like men about this subject. They can't; they have different biological wiring. Biology will NEVER change, so complaining about it to us only makes it worse for you.

Learn to adapt, or endlessly fail.




culareD -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 12:11:36 PM)

Of course, you could bypass the women...



tj444 -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 12:50:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: culareD

Of course, you could bypass the women...

.. the poor man's fleshlight.. that is sooooooo funny..
[sm=rofl.gif]



kalikshama -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 12:59:28 PM)

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so why not just get it out of the way and go from there and see if a relationship develops


I am a female who actually does like to have sex earlier rather than later. However, first I need to know that the potential for a relationship is there. Even if you were in my age range, I would see no such potential in your profile. Refer back to the profile advice you have already received.

I lived in Hollywood, FL for seven years. South Florida is chock full of kinky people. I suggest you use fetlife.com to join some groups and go to munches and events, including this Miami TNG group: https://fetlife.com/groups/31328/about



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 1:26:42 PM)

Using FR:

There's an old blues tune called "Going Fishing" and one of the lines goes like this, "many fish bite if you got good bait."

The fish aren't biting for you? Then you have lousy (or no) bait.

The type of females who are interested in a primarily sexual relationship are as shallow as you are, OP. This means they are looking for a male who is fit and buffed to physical perfection, is good at sex, and knows how to at least be charming for a few hours. You lack all those qualities.

Just exactly what do you think you have to offer? A hard dick? I hate to break this to you, but females can get a hard dick whenever they want. Females get to pick and choose, and there just isn't any reason to choose you.

If you want to improve your odds, start offering females something more than hard dick.



susie -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 1:31:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

100% this ^^^^^

Dude, are you sure you're not pregnant? Because you keep missing periods!




[sm=LMAO.gif] That just made me spit my wine everywhere.



obedientangel -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 10:26:38 PM)

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LonDom61 -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 10:49:00 PM)

An OP on another recent thread (different symptoms, same disease; they`re both HNG-Positive) buggered off after one followup `thanks for the advice`comment.

((( Hmmm. Went to `view my posts`so I could supply a link. Thread seems to be...gone. Does that happen? Can an OP make it vanish? Or does that require the super powers of a Mod? Thread was titled something like `New here can anyone tell me were to find a sub?`))))


This OP was every third comment for awhile. Not saying that`s `better`exactly. At least he stuck with it, though. But last night around this time he `went off to work the night shift`...and hasn`t been back since.


ETA: Hah! I just noticed that, in their titles, both used W E R E. This guy meant We`re. Other guy meant Where.

Hey...maybe we should introduce them. This guy`s a `Switch`. Other guy`s a `Dom` This guy could sub to that guy.

Great when you have two problems, bang èm together & come up with one big solution.



NoChoiceLeft -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 11:08:23 PM)

Sigh *shakes head and chuckles while facepalming*
This is a Dating site designed for those seeking D/s relationships leading to a collared life or something like it...
I'm pretty sure if you google booty call now or some such nonsense you will find plenty of hookup sites for equally incautious horny people seeking disease and casual encounters... in fact I'm pretty sure you can just google or cl for casual encounters.
If sex now your way is all you need, may I suggest moving to any county in Nevada with less than 100K residents, they have wonderful clean prostitutes there who are LEGAL and will gladly give you what you want without you having to work so hard for it and actually connect with a real person. Imagine it... you can just legally go pay to get laid and not bother good people seeking real connections. What a great concept... now would more of you please go do that and let the rest of us get back to actually doing something a little deeper than getting our fluids out in the open air?
Apologies for the agro , but I've gotten a dozen letters that say the same exact thing this thread uses as a title and I suspect ths is a better forum to widely express my distaste for said, and also offer an alternative that is safe and legal to those who are clearly on the wrong site.
Save your spam. I just erase it anyway because I don't actually put much stock in what people say until I respect them, so you're not going to hurt my feelings or get the attention you crave from me.
(Though on a related tangent- once the new laws pass, and it looks like they will, some of you harrassers are in for a NASTY wake up call in the form of shiny new bracelets and your neighbors and bosses knowing what you do in your spare time... now there's an interesting topic for a thread, how will the D/s community be effected by this since almost all of what we consent to is still technically illegal, but gender and sexuality based slander is a hatecrime all the time and everywhere in the US. Go ahead, check your local sodomy laws, I'll wait... In the meantime, good or bad, welcome to the police state. No way am I expatriating now, this is just about to start getting good! Hmmm, maybe I'll ask my next Sir if he minds me going to law school or the nearest police academy while he's at work, now THAT could be fun!)



NoChoiceLeft -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 11:29:56 PM)

PS- I mention the LEGAL prostitutes because they are also happy to keep you as a regular bf and pretend they kinda care, so you get what you asked for, sex up front, and a real girlfriend experience, g'head check the websites and see what those girls advertize, they WANT men just like you every day, you even look like you bathe, you'd be a rockstar there! And they get tested and take the risk of you not being tested knowingly and consensually, so bonus!



Alice0in0Wonder -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 11:43:52 PM)

You're whining about 6 mouths? Dude, I've had guys wait longer then that. Because in the end you gotta work for my hunney pot. I can go out to a bar and get fucked even on a slow night, but a guy who willing to wait is a keeper.



Alice0in0Wonder -> RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid (10/30/2012 11:50:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: JanahX

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ok hear me out i can respect people trying to avoid looneys and a std but im honestly std free and if theres amutual attraction why not meet up and fuck


This might be another reason why someone might not take your word that youre STD free -

The Southeast has been hard hit by HIV, with infections concentrated along the I-95 corridor from Washington to Florida, and in the Mississippi Delta. Eight of the 10 U.S. states with the highest rates of new HIV infection are located here. High rates of poverty factor in as well, as does the region’s low ranking on many basic health measures. Nearly 50 percent of newly diagnosed U.S. AIDS cases each year are reported in the South.

and according to the map on this link - it looks like Miami is heavy hit.

http://thinkprogress.org/health/2012/07/24/574721/map-united-states-hiv/



HEY! I'm from Florida and I'm clean. I get tested every 3 mouths. ( I used to work in a hospital. It was suggested to employees to get regular testing. The practice just stuck with me)



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