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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 6:34:38 PM

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sexyred always explains things well. :)

IMO, sex on the second date is way too soon.

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 6:40:09 PM

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i'm sorry, dude. i've never fucked anyone on the second date and magically, something clicks in my brain and tells me we're so compatible. it just doesn't work that way. determining compatibility takes time and patience, and unless you have some life-threatening disease, you've got time!

i can understand the male frustration of not being able to find a warm vagina to burrow in, but goodness. is it really that serious?

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 6:41:40 PM

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Be the man, grasshopper. You fuckin Sie A it's serious.

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 6:43:42 PM

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FR

I've heard folks say that this thread is worth a read:

For men: how to find a woman here

Not being a man looking for a woman, I can't vouch for it personally, though.

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 7:10:45 PM

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clearly!

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 7:43:42 PM

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...No, that doesn't suck. You know what sucks? Finding out, two months after having invested in another human being, that the two of you simply don't click physically. And never will. And then having to tell that person, "I have to see someone else to get my needs met." And the way they look at you, after 60 days of intense relations, when the truth is made plain (according to some users here, 60 days would even obligate you to stay with that person if they were diagnosed with a terminal illness, or be labeled a cad).

It must be the suckitude felt by super-christer kids who get married at 18, having dated each other but never fucked for 4 years, only to find out they really, really don't like the same things in bed, from their wedding night on. And now she's pregnant. Or the suckage of a woman who marries a gay man who doesn't know he's gay (or doesn't admit it, even to himself), only to find out 14 years and three kids later.

You know what would be better than all of this? Just about anything...

If you, or someone else for that matter, wants to put ALL of those bricks in a bag, sling it over your shoulder and carry it around complaining about your back ache, then by all means commence to carrying. The really interesting thing here is that, if you're not willing to put in some time and effort before you get some whopper pay-off, you're arguably reducing your chances of ever being with someone worth having from the get go. It's a human being we're talking about after all, not a dog, so the reality is that you're probably not gonna get to do all the things you wanna do in the order you want do them. Relationships with even semi-healthy individuals simply DO NOT work that way.

All of these are decisions real adults have to make to participate in the thing we call life. The alternative, I suppose, is to move back in with mom and dad and let them make our decisions for us so we don't get hurt or upset with the way the world actually works... I'll pass on that.

Sickitude, however, is a very cool new word for me and I'd like to use that if I may.

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/1/2012 11:29:48 PM

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Relationships with even semi-healthy individuals simply DO NOT work that way.

Really? My first one was 17 years long, and my most recent is still ongoing. Law student and med student, respectively.

Anecdotal evidence, to be sure.

Got any other dicta?

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not willing to put in some time and effort before you get some whopper pay-off, you're arguably reducing your chances of ever being with someone worth having from the get go

Totally not disagreeing. But either you misread what I wrote, or I didn't write it in a way you would catch my drift: I have no problem with days, weeks, maybe even months (IF I have met the woman, in person, prior) of emails and phone calls...those aren't "dates." But physical meetups? More than two before a sexual encounter (making out, oral, third base, even), and you're running the risk of making an attachment that the romantic connection won't support.

I understand OPer's frustration: when you build a Platonic relationship with a woman, only to find out that the two of you aren't sexually compatible, it's sad to have to split your attention to finding a new partner. I don't know about all the rest of you, but I (and maybe OP) have a finite amount of time: I have a job, hobbies, a dog, a house. The time I can provide to a friend/lover is limited. I can't maintain an infinite list of women I meet, don't fuck, and keep friendships with, while I go to the next woman to find sexual satisfaction.

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/5/2012 3:49:38 PM

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...Got any other dicta?...

Yes. Based solely on what I've read here, and the written interaction we've had, at this point I pretty much think you're a pig. But, other than that, I got nothin'...

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RE: were on a sex site why so hard to get laid - 11/5/2012 4:12:27 PM

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FR to the OP.

You're 23 years old, fairly well built, live in a major metropolitan area (I was there for 18 years) and you can't find a kinky freak to play with.

I'm 52. 20# overweight, balding, grey and short and live in the sticks.
I have a young lady who travels cross country from Cali to play a few times a year and a group of kinky local friends who enjoy occupying themselves in carnal activities which sometimes include yours truly.

I met them here and on that other place.

It ain't the site. It's you.

I think its your pic....cause you are a way bigger cock than he is and....ya know....sometimes size does matter

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