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MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Sexuality - straight or bi? (1/8/2013 8:42:16 PM)


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ORIGINAL: UnholyBear

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I think that one aspect of this discussion is that some folk cannot separate BDSM from sex.

They therefore assume that if you're willing to whip a man until he bleeds that you also secretly want to fuck him.
Tain't necessarily true.



On this I quite agree Hilly. I know many among my friends who are kinksters and the majority of them don't care what gender nor the sexual orientation of the person they would be playing with as they are able to separate the non sexual BDSM from sexualized BDSM play. I have bottomed to both men and women at kink events, both public and private and in each case, it was solely non sexual in nature. They wanted to play and I was asked to bottom to them and we both had a very enjoyable session. And I know that I have no problem bottoming to a straight female the same as I would for a straight male as in each situation, we automatically know that is solely a play session where they are able to indulge in their sadistic desires and I need and want to be the recipient.


TRUE! TRUE! TRUE! THANK YOU!!!!!!

Many people like to include sex in their D/s or BDSM relationship.

Many people AREN'T INTERESTED in bringing sex into their D/s or BDSM relationship, and prefer it WITHOUT.





Chesterfield91 -> RE: Sexuality - straight or bi? (1/9/2013 8:55:16 AM)

Often bisexuality is on a scale. Some are 100% straight, some are 100% homosexual, some are 50/50, some are 72/25... If you have sex with anyone of the ame gender as well as the opposite sex, even if you're not interested in them romantically, you're bisexual.




chadra -> RE: Sexuality - straight or bi? (1/9/2013 9:13:15 AM)

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Discussions on this are interesting to me.

I don't believe the notions of heterosexuality and homosexuality are at all valid without considering the culture at large. Same-sex relationships have existed throughout history and throughout the world with huge variations of labeling associated with them. In some cases, the modern concept of homosexuality/bi-sexuality/heterosexuality/etc did not exist at all. It was simply not considered distinct from sexuality itself, and certainly not thought to be unusual in the least.

Homophobia is a modern, western, idea. Not exclusively so, but certainly pervasive in our culture.

To me, the interesting question is why would the OP care? I understand he's long gone and that this is an old thread, but to me it is a more useful question than is-he-bi? or is-he-straight? (as defined by modern standards).




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