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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:17:49 PM   
skittykitty


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Status: offline 		There is nothing quite so cathartic as a beating that takes you out of it, lets your mind surrender all the crap thats been building up in it, for me being beaten is never anything done as punishment, theres too much joy in it.

I get punished in other ways.



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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:18:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		  slavejali...
I love the way you expressed that and can completely relate, also to LaMspeach it does seem kind of conflicting to have to ask.  I  think i give off a kind of "vibe" when  i feel that way...so i've never really had to ask.  I also notice that for me....crying is also very cathartic....Anyone else find that to be true?


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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:21:28 PM   
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and from a Masters point of view .. there is a bonding that iscreated by the "beating" ... or pain created with no punishment motive behind it


Not all Masters....

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:26:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is absolutly nothing wrong with a good hard beating. I enjoy all of it, the feel of the flooger, the sting of a taws or single tale. When my head is gone the whip of a cane. I enjoy the floating and sinking into the sensation of the beating. Knowing that he is working hard as well to get me there. Him coming up behind me and rubbing sweat against sweat as he graps and twists a nipple or bites into my shoulder. Hearing myself moan or even scream within my head as the next cane whips...

The cleansing, feeling all is right within me...

And since I am a bit of a masochist, the beating only gets me horney... feeling my juices flow down my thighs and mix with the sweat. The smell of his the sweat in his underarms...

Dang, I am getting myself all worked up here.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:29:44 PM   
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I don't want to high jack your thread but if you don't mind....  may i ask if any one else has ever felt badly for wanting/ craving that type of spanking so badly?  Don't get me wrong, LaM and i have great communication, I am allowed to ask/ communicate my wants/ needs, it is up to him if he wants to give it to me BUT when i am in mood like this and need this type of spanking i feel like if i ask for it, then it has lost it's purpose...  not sure if i am making sense now


It's not a hijack, its an extension *grin*


I can relate to that...i think in times like that, a feeling is invoked to want to be purely taken, harshly, used harshly..if you ask for it...its like...mellowed...somehow. At times like those, you need it to be purely his desire...nothing to do with you at all.
I get times like that too.
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Nina: Loved the poem
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Spankmepink: Crying is a great stress release for me...so yeah
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Another thought:
Maybe what some call punishment, I would call getting refocused. Often wonder about that when I see people writing about how they feel about pain punishment etc...like the end result is the same in both circumstances..a return to center..maybe the whole pain as punishment thing is just including an extra dynamic, playing with thoughts and feelings...where just pure pain for itself....doesnt want/need the mental processes....but then again...I would presume if someone is getting pain as punishment they wouldnt be getting hot over it either..like they would be dry as the sahara desert cuz its just so traumatic.....and if they are getting wet even though they say they dont enjoy the pain or whatever....even though they are being *punished*.....waht really is going on...a punishment kink? Which is all cool..but interesting to think about.

And about this time I say to myself.."You're rambling jali".

< Message edited by slavejali -- 6/15/2006 8:46:01 PM >

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:36:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I understand what you were trying to say too.  Even though I am still quite new, I get in moods where I think nothing would be a better release than a good spanking or beating.  I am in one of those moods currently and have been for the past couple days.  Maybe I should see about communicating that somehow here and soon before I get too bratty.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:47:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm in the mood for a full on pain/beating session right now. I get this way when I'm hurting because I know it'll help me release some of the emotional pain. I'm a masochist. I love being beaten, flogged, etc. anyway, but there are times when I feel a strong need for it, for the release, though temporary, I know it will give me.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 8:52:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slavejali
.... And you realsie, the very best remedy for what you were feeling before was just to be beaten, that raw physical contact just put things in perspective..taking us back to basics...or something.


I agree with the earlier posters, and the end of your original post as quoted above. Sometimes we let our minds get way too complicated and filled with things we think are important, and it takes something pretty intrusive to get into our crowded minds and put things in perspective. And back to basics.   I think there may be another aspect too. That when you let someone do something to you so significant (or someone lets you do it to them, from a dom's point of view), it is a very unambiguous statement of trust and caring that really sinks in deep. The display of that link can be very reassuring and clarifiying.


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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 9:03:20 PM   
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I agree with the earlier posters, and the end of your original post as quoted above. Sometimes we let our minds get way too complicated and filled with things we think are important, and it takes something pretty intrusive to get into our crowded minds and put things in perspective. And back to basics.


Uh huh   I was just thinking of a silly scenario, I hope this doesnt trivialise things too much...but..I was just thinking about my aversion to cleaning up after Masters dog...its not that I dont do it, its not that I complain, its not that I dont know it needs to be done...but there is a mental process going on where I'm feeling an aversion to it. It's in those kinda times, I just wish Master could read my mind and just beat me hard just to clear my perspective up.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 9:13:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		slavejali:  When you feel that way, is your aversion based on your reluctance to do the task because of the task itself, or are you rebelling in a small way to the general responsibility of doing the task. If it's the first, then you probably get icky when handling the pooper-scooper <g>, if it is the other, then maybe you are just fishing (subconsciously) for a response that will provide a reassurance that he is your master.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 9:35:13 PM   
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slavejali:  When you feel that way, is your aversion based on your reluctance to do the task because of the task itself, or are you rebelling in a small way to the general responsibility of doing the task. If it's the first, then you probably get icky when handling the pooper-scooper <g>, if it is the other, then maybe you are just fishing (subconsciously) for a response that will provide a reassurance that he is your master.


Well see, thats kinda my point. The issue is stupid and trivial. I could analyze msyelf till the cows come home and see if is this or it is that..and I dont really want to spend hours processing myself over it...when a good beating would give the same result in like 3 minutes *grin* Clarity and no stupid thoughts going on in my head  

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 10:17:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

I'm in the mood for a full on pain/beating session right now. I get this way when I'm hurting because I know it'll help me release some of the emotional pain. I'm a masochist. I love being beaten, flogged, etc. anyway, but there are times when I feel a strong need for it, for the release, though temporary, I know it will give me.


I know exactly what you are saying... Iv been haveing a really hard time right now and I know everyone here has seen how much of a big brat I have been... because at the moment I need nothing more then a nice long hard spanking to get the tears out... there is nothing more clensing then a ling sapnking that makes you cry and then to be held afterwords....Its a need so ingrained in who I am and i just dont know why....  but its nice to see now that Im not alone in that need.. and neather are you jali

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 10:24:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Jail .....Thanks for allowing me to extend your OP, Jali. *smiles* Yes, i think you hit the nail on the head i need to feel purely His. Not that  i don't feel that on a daily bases but there is something so freeing about being taken and used, just because he wants it.  Enigma ....i can relate to everything you  said ... we just need what we need i think it is part of our submission * shrugs* i stopped  trying to figure it out because if not i would  just go round and round and make myself crazier then i already am. * smiles*  Spankmepink ...I don't always have to ask, he usually knows but just knowing that he knows i want it so badly can make me feel bad. It is usually when i am extremely stressed with outside issues or issues i have no control over that i feel this way. Like, work , kids, breaking my ankle , the list goes on. A beating and yes crying ( i love  to cry) just makes everything alright for a while, then when i come back to the real world i am able to deal with life much better.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/15/2006 10:38:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slavejali

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slavejali:  When you feel that way, is your aversion based on your reluctance to do the task because of the task itself, or are you rebelling in a small way to the general responsibility of doing the task. If it's the first, then you probably get icky when handling the pooper-scooper <g>, if it is the other, then maybe you are just fishing (subconsciously) for a response that will provide a reassurance that he is your master.


Well see, thats kinda my point. The issue is stupid and trivial. I could analyze msyelf till the cows come home and see if is this or it is that..and I dont really want to spend hours processing myself over it...when a good beating would give the same result in like 3 minutes *grin* Clarity and no stupid thoughts going on in my head  


As I said earlier, I could drive myself crazy by trying to analyze it all. I go round and round.   Doms arent mind reader, so if I dont tell Him what I need he wont know... but arent slave suppose to make the Master life easiser, and not ask for things ... but if i dont ask and he doesnt know i could grow unhappy... un happy slaves dont serve well if i dont serve well he will be unhappy ... oh hell see i am going round and  round  ( whisper not really i am being a smart ass  shhhhh )  but you  get the picture.

Well, for now I am just accepting it as part of me and my submission. When some one else figures it all out will you please let me know ?

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/16/2006 4:03:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm much more of a masocist/bottom than I am submissive - so this sort of situation I'm VERY familiar with.  Beat my butt til it's bruised for a week and the rest of the world just sorts itself out.
 
I'm not in a relationship; there is no "master" in my life, nor do I particularly want one at this point.  (To many other things going on for me to feel like it wouldn't be a conflict of interest to devote much of my attention to someone else's happiness/well being - espcially if any of his depended on forgoing my own.)  I do, however, have a couple of regular play partners who are more than willing to give me a good beating on a fairly regular basis for the sake of purely physical stimulation.  (And boy, oh boy, am I ever thankful for their existance!)  Perhaps I'm simply odd, but even when I've been in a relationship I never really could get my head wrapped around the idea of gaining some sort of fulfillment simply because I obeyed and that's what he wanted.  Nor have I ever really understood the mindset of intentional DISobedience for the sake of procuring a beating, when I can simply tell him "Hey, I would like to get tied down and spanked until I'm the color of a Coke can."
 
(Sheesh - 5am, painkillers, and a lack of sleep all seem to be combining to turn me incomprehensible even to myself... )

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/16/2006 6:02:58 AM   
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The topic is: Do you ever get into headspaces where a good beating just fixes things?

As not being a masochist, it's not a beating per se, but some intense sort of connective scene where I can be passive and bliss out on the experience itself, yes.

And it's not just a bdsmers thing either- people go out and do this all the time.  They find something they can get really intense with, let it all out, to focus and drown in.  We just have the easy access to the kinky stuff for our outlet.

We tend to get ourselves mentally out of whack all the time- a good harsh EXPERIENCE can be the perfect thing to bring it all back into perspective.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/16/2006 7:45:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a Dom, I want to thank all the subs, especially Jali,  for sharing their feelings on this original thread. It is helpful.

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/16/2006 9:22:27 AM   
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what an excellent topic for discussion.  selena agrees with a lot of the posters here that every once in a while there is that uncontrolable craving for the release that comes from a "beating, "scene" whatever people want to call it.  for selena it is a catarthic release, it breaks down some of the internal walls inside of her and lets everything just flow out of her.  it is not something that is done often, but her Master is exceptionally good at noticing when His girl needs to get that release (probably cause she gets all moody *chuckles*).

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/16/2006 9:56:33 AM   
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As I said earlier, I could drive myself crazy by trying to analyze it all. I go round and round.   Doms arent mind reader, so if I dont tell Him what I need he wont know... but arent slave suppose to make the Master life easiser, and not ask for things ... but if i dont ask and he doesnt know i could grow unhappy... un happy slaves dont serve well if i dont serve well he will be unhappy ... oh hell see i am going round and  round  ( whisper not really i am being a smart ass  shhhhh )  but you  get the picture.

Well, for now I am just accepting it as part of me and my submission. When some one else figures it all out will you please let me know ?
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Masters and Doms aren't mind readers . yes we learn our slaves and some of the signs that tell us what she needs but if there is something that your absolutely feeling their are ways of letting your Dom or Master know these thngs
I personally love journals for this very reason . it's her space to say things that are on her mind . things which will lead me to know where I need to take her .... maybe for the slaves in here they might try that option of starting an online journal .. copy the link to your Masters and elt them readit themselves .. then your not taking the effect of the cleansing beating away from it.

I hope this helps you ladies in some way

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RE: A Good Beating - 6/16/2006 11:36:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: slavejali


The topic is: Do you ever get into headspaces where a good beating just fixes things? Pure and simple.


Yup, it can do a bunch of things for me. It does relieve stress for me. My thing is that I'm a person that rarely cries. I was raised that a lady never makes a scene, does not cry in front of others and to keep a stiff upper lip. A good beating lets all that stuff out and I almost always end the scene by being a crying mess, which is quite cleansing.

Master does not use any of this as punishment. He believes that all of this is play and therefore it is a reward. But, then again, I'm a masochist. This is fun to me. and he doesn't wish to confuse what is fun and what is punishment.

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