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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

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It is also good to know that I'm not allone and that others have "the crazies".

"The Crazies" = Those unexplainable feelings that no matter how hard you try, you just cant explain.

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

After these types of scenes I always feel somehow lighter, like I've just been unburdened. Like a tea kettle that was whistling on high and someone took the lid off and turned the heat down to a comfortable simmer or a tire that was filled to a dangerously high PSI and had the valve opened for a bit. Like the quiet, calm and slow feeling in your head right after a high fever has broken.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear slavejali, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I did post but, apparently it phased out somewhere or didn't 'catch.'

I did want to share, that in my day, there were many types or reasons for a beating.

Sensual beating - was to awaken the senses, sensories, to learn about one's body and learn to feel comfortable in your skin.  It was a means to awaken the sensual side, usually soft and relaxing.

Maintaining beating - was understood the beating that could be given without reason and or requested via protocol to be beaten by a slave and was understood, that such beating was to touch the slave in such a manner required, tailored to that slave as to provide reassurance, safety, appreciation, comformation, re-establish commitment to the D/s and or M/s role, the respect, the discipline and the control the slave needed.

Catharsis beating - is understood to cause the slave to reach the point of being able to become extremely vunerable, as to become more open and the inside walls that block the dominant to crumble, as to promote emotions and a releasing of emotions, as to purge, clean the soul, to let go, to release negatives and or memories harbored within the spirit, mind and soul of the slave.  It is followed by comfort, security and healing.

Educational beating - this sort of beating is known as not to be a scene or for 'pleasure,' however the beating is an educational time, to which they are subjected to.  Expectations were known and there were no disappointments from it.

Pleasure beating - mostly for the Masters/Mistresses who just wanted to have an impromptu session/scene with a slave.  Nothing done to provoke such other than the sheer desire to enjoy a slave's body through a beating/scene.

Disciplinary beating - this beating is one that isn't pleasing to either party involved however, the adjudication of an infraction causing such is to be known and no mistake is made as to why such a beating will take place.  It is not meant to be pleasure but, so severe that it is distasteful to the slave to the point of not wishing to make a repeat of the infraction but, not cross the line into abuse.  The abuse can easily happen when anger is involved.  The 'beating' for punishment may not be immediate, as to prevent the anger emotion to override good judgment of the Master and or Mistress, as well as to mentally weigh on the slave's mind, to which knowing punishment is coming in due time, adds to the weight of the disciplinary beating.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach
I am allowed to ask/ communicate my wants/ needs, it is up to him if he wants to give it to me BUT when i am in mood like this and need this type of spanking i feel like if i ask for it, then it has lost it's purpose...  not sure if i am making sense now