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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

I could never submit to a switch, and don't get a Dominant who allows himself to be topped.
That would ruin it for me.
To each their own.....

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
I am curious how some of you see this conundrum. If slaves can, at least in theory, "tp from the bottom" and control a scene, then that opens up all sorts of questions.

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Which is the more dominant act, being a socially accepted dominant, behaving as we expect, using the imagery and props of dominance to be dominant, or remaining dominant while tied up, gagged, and being fucked in the ass by your slave?

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If you can be topped from the bottom, by someone in such a vulnerable and defenseless place, do you have much to feel dominant about?

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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

If you are dehydrated and in the desert, and you are offered a glass of water with just a smidgen of lethal poison, it still kills you.
Forever.
And that's a mighty long time.


I'm saying that a Dom can do whatever they pleases but once they allow themselves to be topped, they've done so as a CHOICE.
how much more telling is it?

I want to understand the distinction you are making.
I'm trying.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

In my mind, you are mixing up two different things.

Topping and bottoming, scening, do not necessarily have anything at all to do with dominance. And visa versa.

Then, as you often seem to do, adding a sexual act to get people to measure, who is topping, bottoming, dominating submitting......it just ends up a.......depends on the people involved, who is doing the observing, etc.

In my mind, tops and bottoms focus on scening. Enjoying whatever it is they are doing. People having sex focus on having sex. Enjoying what it is they are doing.

Dominant people that are secure in who they are, don't worry about whether or not they are being topped. They focus on the relation/s they are in. That being said, you don't have to be dominant to top. Nor does a bottom need to be submissive. Submissive people focus on submitting to the person that is dominating them. Not who is topping or bottoming.

Michael, quit worrying about whether or not people are going to see you as a submissive little pansy ass just cuz you like to get ass fucked. Focus on having a relationship, of whatever sort you and she/he want, with the person fucking your ass.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I wasnt refering to the size of your ass, simply the location if your cranium. Perhaps next time you will read closer before complaining that the "pansy ass" was snarky.