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Falling? - 11/11/2012 3:37:39 PM

KnightofMists

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So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!

This doesn't necessarily mean falling in love either. It's more about that point you take the leap to try and build the relationship or commit to it. Of course for some this is falling in love.

As a side note.... I ask this question because I recently cross paths with this absolute sweetheart and it seems I am about to have another to swoon to my wild desires. The question above is one I have been recently looking at as result and was wondering what others thought for themselves.

Last note.... To answer my own question... One that I have asked and answered twice before. I know; when I can't see enjoying my life without them being apart of it in some way. It's not that I can't enjoy my life without them. I just don't want to and make choices to make sure it doesn't happen.

So what is your answer?

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 3:42:32 PM

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When my heart jumps just seeing his name in my inbox.

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 3:58:26 PM

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When my stomach flippetyflops whenever I think about her

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 5:04:02 PM

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Palm sweats
Hyperventilating
Inability to coherent sentences or for that matter swallow liquids.

Basically when I start looking like a royal idiot...
I am quite the catch, I know

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 5:45:36 PM

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Oxytocin, pure and simple.

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 5:50:41 PM

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I am an extroverted introvert so how I know is that I don't actually tire of being around that person and want to spend more time in his company.

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 6:15:05 PM

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When I go to bed thinking about them and wake up smiling because I'm still thinking about them. When I feel like a twitterpated 14-year-old whenever they're near or I'm Skyping with them. When the first response in my head to anything they say or do is "I love you."

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 7:07:26 PM

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For me its been knocking them unconscious within first 30 minutes together. Crazy I know, but the only similarity between 2 great loves of my life...other than my devotion.

KOM...3? Isn't that a little I don't know...greedy?

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RE: Falling? - 11/11/2012 7:24:29 PM

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When I can't stop thinking about him and when I do I can't help but smile. I know I'm falling for him when I am always figuring out things to make him happy, when everything I do, I consider how it would affect a life with him, when I'm constantly looking at my phone to make sure I didn't miss a call or text from him, checking my email for the same reason and when I am thinking of him, I'm wondering what he's doing this very moment in time and I am always concerned for his well-being.

And of course, as Master said, my stomach does that little flippety-flop.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 8:28:07 AM

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Oh, and leave some good women for the rest of us!

All seriousness aside, its when I stop comparing them to any of my Exes.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 8:35:29 AM

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Whenever u start thinking more about him than you do yourself.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 8:50:38 AM

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Grandiose songs on the playlist.

We started with Lucinda William's "Essence" and are currently inhabiting Bruce's "Land of Hope and Dreams". Yeah, we're baby boomers -what of it?

Intermediate stops along the way: "All I want is you" (U2) and "Let's Stay Together (Do I even have to invoke the Luv-man's name?).

OP, what song is playing inside your head? We'll tell you how far gone you are.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 12:11:08 PM

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actually i tried answering this and realised i don't actually know. i do know when i don't feel for someone though ~shrugs~

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 1:00:10 PM

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I used to know. I forget now. Boo hoo.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 1:29:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourdarkdesire

When my heart jumps just seeing his name in my inbox.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

When my stomach flippetyflops whenever I think about her

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ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission

Palm sweats
Hyperventilating
Inability to coherent sentences or for that matter swallow liquids.

Basically when I start looking like a royal idiot...
I am quite the catch, I know

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ORIGINAL: autumnember

I am an extroverted introvert so how I know is that I don't actually tire of being around that person and want to spend more time in his company.

When, after 14 years, I still smile when it's Himself on the phone.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 1:52:43 PM

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When my first reaction is "No." and 5 minuets later I've come up with a way to make it a "yes"

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 2:16:33 PM

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When I cannot imagine NOT having them in my life.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 3:27:23 PM

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For me... it's when they have a song. Once I find a song I associate with someone, I want to keep that person around.

I'm sure that's not it per se, but it's a damn good indication.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 3:37:15 PM

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Hmm, the first stages of falling for someone... I'd say that when I hear a text message come in and I hope it's him. Or when it's the middle of the night and I think "Hm, I hope he's sleeping well, probably looks adorable right now.", or thinking "Well, if they were to just suddenly disappear, or never contact me again, that would be rather disappointing and unpleasant.", or if I'm out shopping and see something and think how much they might like it. :)

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 4:00:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!

Well, I think that you ask two different questions.

I know I am falling for someone because I feel compelled. There simply is no choice to be made. (I always have a hard time understanding those that have to think about whether they want to be with someone. Though I suppose I've done it too, and I've learned that if you have to think about it...then you don't.) I know because I throw myself into him, without provocation or expectation on his part, as long as I am welcome to do so. I commit myself of my own accord - no need for the "Let's not see other people" talk. If I'm falling for him, I am just not seeing anybody else because I couldn't bear it, not because there is any expectation of exclusivity. Most importantly, I utterly expose myself and kind of dive in head first from the start. And it is a "from the start" type of thing. I've learned that I'm not the type to wait for someone to grow on me. He is either important to me really quickly, or he's not. There isn't much of an in-between.

Of course, there are also all the wonderful, happy, expected signs as well - every song on the radio somehow magically describes what I'm feeling, my heart skips a few beats when I see or hear from him, I go to bed and I wake up thinking of him. The usual stuff.

I do, though, have a very definite marker to know whether he's "It" or not. That is - Would I want him with me when I'm taking my last breaths? Of course, many people don't want to be alone at that time, but this is not just wanting to not be alone. Would I want him there? Would I find comfort in just his presence? If he's "It" I will have faith in him and in my ability find solace with him.

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