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Lied to - 11/15/2012 5:30:44 AM

frankieboy12

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Good morning to all..there's a sucker born everyday..at least that what W.C.Fields says.I am here to vent becauase i am pissed off and have been for quite some time.You see i was manipulated into a marriage with a Domme...that's a laugh..she is no more a Domme than i a Dominant male.Oh she was at first to allure me..it worked..the old to good to be true story.At any rate i relocated and i have stuck it out but now after leaving for five months to go back home and returning..i have tolerated enough..i want out in a big way and the only way for me is to be a subservient maleto another who is more truer with her words..there is such a thing of not being a 24/7 situation because of work or illness or just life.But to pose as a dominant female and then turn out to be a bald face liar..well..i don't know what else to add...my dream indeed my lifes goal has always been to be subservient to a strong female and so i am here..i don't know how it will all end but i am hoping i can find someone that will accept me..that's all.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 5:43:22 AM

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Um.

You're a 59 year old man that was tricked into a marriage that you relocated for, and now you need another Dominant woman in order to leave?

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 5:46:32 AM

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If you're in an unhappy marriage, leave. Saying the only way out is to find another domme is nonsense. That's like saying 'I want a divorce but I can't get one until I find a new wife'.

Leave, sort yourself out emotionally and financially. Most people don't want to rescue a victim, they want a partnership with an already functional adult. While you're still in this unhappy marriage you're not emotionally available and functional enough to be starting a new D/s relationship.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 6:41:33 AM

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You married someone you barely knew....relocated.....apparently didn't spend a reasonable amount of time together before making the commitment.

Turns out she isn't who you thought she was. Not surprising because you no doubt had your fantasies and preconceived notions but didn't spend the time actually finding out who she was as a person first and foremost, and seeing if you could work with that. Shame on both of you.

But you need some other Domme to come along and take you away from all this?

Seriously?

Do you think WE are suckers?

I think there's more than one liar in this situation.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 6:49:04 AM

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As a domme, I wouldn't have any interest in a sub who "needed" me in that way. If you want out, leave. You don't "need" someone to take you away. Man up, do what you want, and go find what you're looking for.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 6:53:27 AM

DaddySatyr

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quote:

ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

Good morning to all..there's a sucker born everyday..at least that what W.C.Fields says.I am here to vent becauase i am pissed off and have been for quite some time.You see i was manipulated into a marriage with a Domme...that's a laugh..she is no more a Domme than i a Dominant male.Oh she was at first to allure me..it worked..the old to good to be true story.At any rate i relocated and i have stuck it out but now after leaving for five months to go back home and returning..i have tolerated enough..i want out in a big way and the only way for me is to be a subservient maleto another who is more truer with her words..there is such a thing of not being a 24/7 situation because of work or illness or just life.But to pose as a dominant female and then turn out to be a bald face liar..well..i don't know what else to add...my dream indeed my lifes goal has always been to be subservient to a strong female and so i am here..i don't know how it will all end but i am hoping i can find someone that will accept me..that's all.

Actually, it was P.T. Barnum that said there's a sucker born every minute and I know that isn't true because I haven't had a decent blowjob in almost a year.

Anyway, to get to the meat of the matter, I don't want to beat up on you too much but what were you thinking? Manipulated into a marriage? Of all the reasons to get married ... unless she was one of these ladies who became pregnant and chose to hold that child over your head, that's a pretty flimsy statement.

Lastly, leaving one person for another is NEVER the way to go about things. What you need is time to get away from the situation and sort yourself out. Find out what you did wrong and fix it.

Look, many of us get lied to. It's how you pick up the pieces, afterwards (and how well you identify the lies before you put yourself into a situation from which you can't extricate yourself).

Peace and comfort,

Michael

< Message edited by DaddySatyr -- 11/15/2012 6:57:01 AM >

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 7:04:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

Lastly, leaving one person for another is NEVER the way to go about things. What you need is time to get away from the situation and sort yourself out. Find out what you did wrong and fix it.

This this this.

OP I get the impression that you tend to run from your troubles. You relocated and married someone apparently without getting to know her. What was going on in life that you needed to get away from that badly? Now this has gone south and you are looking to jump right into another relationship asap. Do you think that maybe you should take some time and reflect on what's going on in life and how to avoid the same mistakes again. What you describe just sounds like history getting ready to repeat itself.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 7:07:10 AM

tj444

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well,.. at least she was a real woman... this isnt the typical whine, most whines are about fake women..

People change..

Maybe she feels you arent who you said you were either and feels you lied to her also..

No one held a gun to your head, you married her freely.. and at 59, you should have learned a few things about dating, people and life by now..

If you no longer want to be with her, or be married to her, get a dam divorce. Fix this problem before you go off compounding it!

just sayin'

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 7:18:05 AM

BlackBikeDom

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OK

If you leave the desperate and saddening stuff off your profile and your postings, you should be fine to go.
But maybe that will only come when you have emotionally dealt with the situation.

Next time, don't lie to yourself about suitability and compatibility, and then again, you should be good to go.

Everybody is allowed to make mistakes, but you're shoving everything on your partner. At the very least it's your fault for choosing her.

So don't despair, it's just the usual human drama, be a "good submissive" and do as the previous posting dom's have told you and you'll be ok in the end.

Best wishes.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 7:34:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

Good morning to all..there's a sucker born everyday..at least that what W.C.Fields says.I am here to vent becauase i am pissed off and have been for quite some time.You see i was manipulated into a marriage with a Domme...that's a laugh..she is no more a Domme than i a Dominant male.Oh she was at first to allure me..it worked..the old to good to be true story.At any rate i relocated and i have stuck it out but now after leaving for five months to go back home and returning..i have tolerated enough..i want out in a big way and the only way for me is to be a subservient maleto another who is more truer with her words..there is such a thing of not being a 24/7 situation because of work or illness or just life.But to pose as a dominant female and then turn out to be a bald face liar..well..i don't know what else to add...my dream indeed my lifes goal has always been to be subservient to a strong female and so i am here..i don't know how it will all end but i am hoping i can find someone that will accept me..that's all.

1. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.
2. Grow up.
3. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.
4. Quit looking for other people to bail you out of your dumbassery.
5. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.
6. Quit whining about your dumbassery.
7. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.

See a theme?

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 11/15/2012 7:35:17 AM >

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 8:09:32 AM

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Bald face liar.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 8:53:52 AM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

1. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.
2. Grow up.
3. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.
4. Quit looking for other people to bail you out of your dumbassery.
5. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.
6. Quit whining about your dumbassery.
7. Take responsibility for your own dumbassery.

See a theme?

Thank you LaT!

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:18:54 AM

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Did she ask you to get a job?

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:23:10 AM

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Frankie, I told you what was it... two years ago, that you needed to step up and find a way to take care of yourself and get off the feeling sorry and helpless gig. I even told you how I had done it and how you might do it and everything I said, you had a reason why it wouldn't work. I even understand that fear and the reasons because sometimes those reasons do make sense, but there are ways to cover some of them.

Now, you have continued with the same ol thing and have come no further in finding an answer or happiness because 'this' woman and family drag you down and you don't have enough money to be safely on your own and still have come up with no way to make it on your own. Two years ago or whatever it was, had you done some of the things I told you to do, you wouldn't be here looking again for someone to save you.

You say she lied to you... and maybe she did and she wasn't dominant, but how real is that? You see, I don't think you actually know what submissive is so how can you determine what dominant is? Submissive doesn't mean helpless and dependent. So... lets get down to the human factor. You are an adult human. Scared and stuck. You don't have inside you the determination to save yourself and that is a very scary sign to others that are healthy emotionally. You will only find in a rescue, someone as dysfunctional as the situation and people involved in your situation now, that will come to rescue hoping you will rescue them in some way.

It will take extreme measures to save yourself and it will be scary, but any other way than the hard road will only be harder in the end. There is no easy way out. You take the road that looks the scariest now and you will make it and find self respect and confidence and then you may be worth some interest of a healthy woman, if she can get passed the fact that you waited so long in life to step up and be what you needed to be not only for yourself, but anyone involved with you.

Had you listened to me two years ago, you could now be in public housing after renting a studio apartment or room-mating, but you didn't listen then and I doubt you will listen now. Your victimization by a woman that lied to you has only been compounded by the lies you feed on that come from you. I've been in tough spots... hell... I have lived in tough spots for many years. I wonder right at this moment how I am going to save the food we have in the house because the fridge is going out. Am I comfortable in what I have to do to solve this problem? No. It means a monthly bill I can little afford. I am not just working on this issue, but others and you know what, I am doing everything I can to find more income and working my ass off to do it. I am as disabled as you could be from what I know... but I have to dig deep. The difference between you and I isn't that I am dominant and you are submissive. It is that I am determined to do it without being needy, dysfunctional and looking for a savior.

Time to adult up or stay right where you are another two years.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:30:02 AM

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quote:

Did she ask you to get a job?

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:32:00 AM

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Unlike many posters this thread evoked a great deal of sympathy and compassion in me. Oh, not for you, frankie, or your lady wife.

No, my sympathy and compassion go out to a world where someone can be pushing 60 and still retain frankie's level of self insight (none), personal responsibility (zero), not to mention his total lack of honesty, with us, with his wife, and most importantly, with himself. It's pathetic.

Unfortunately, that frankie thought members of this board are dumb enough to fall for his crap tells me he's not alone, b/c people *do* fall for this crap. If they didn't, this guy would have never managed to get married in the first place.

frankie, some have suggested divorce, but I strongly recommend you stay together. If your wife is dumb enough to fall for your shit, you two deserve each other.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:32:05 AM

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I relocated for a guy who was very dominant during the course of our 6 month long distance relationship. That changed within a week of me moving in. Not only did I not marry him, I wouldn't even commit to being on the lease with him.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:35:10 AM

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You'd be on the leash with me, the way you careen around at high speeds and shit.

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:38:09 AM

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I need to be on a leash!

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 9:39:51 AM

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I'm sorry, I am not dominant enough, I would feel guilty and have to punch you dead in the goddamn face when you started crying (but during the blowjob, crying is hawt, that icecream thick spit) it would be after.......

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