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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Very interested in responses to this question. I am sure there will be some good ones.

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ORIGINAL: absolutchocolat

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ORIGINAL: Kana
Hell yes, there have been time when my head and heart get waaaaaaaaay ahead of my intellect. I get all twisty in the brain, leap at the phone, get that light-headed hopeful feeling when I see a letter is in the inbox and hope it's from her, checked my outfit,oooooh, 15 million billion times before we meet.
And then that floaty feeling after we get together but nothings happened yet, that razor blade of fascination and fear, all in love with the idea of being in love, hear her voice when I drift off, see her eyes first thing upon arising.
Yeah, this sorta stuff, I know nothing about it. Never happened to bad ass heartless Kana...as you can tell.

someone needs to write your memoirs. and then turn them into a feature film!

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

That is really cute. I mean manly. I mean completely sadistic.
WHAT A BEAST. Scarey.

And the truth will set you free. lol.

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ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel

Excuse me for asking, but what is "Dom Frenzy?"

This is the first time I've heard the term.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24



I guess though someone rushing things etc, could be lust too.

Such as someone who claims to be a Dom but tries to rush things, like owning a person before its time, tryng to control before its time etc. I also mean a well meaning one too, not really faking but seem to almost too excited, if you can understand what I mean by that.

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

The flip answer to this question is, of course not ! Only a crappy dom (sorry Michael) would lose control to the extent he or she succumbed to frenzy. A dom should have control over their lusts and not think with their dick or their pussy.

Although theoretically that's true, doms actually aren't hatched fully formed with all the skills and experience necessary to be 'the perfect dominant' right off the bat (you heard it here first, folks).

Its a process like any other and takes time and accumulated experience to achieve control over your own lusts. Which means from a practical standpoint, I would say most dominants have experienced some form of frenzy. If you haven't experienced it, how will you learn the steps you need to take to control it?

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Frenzied - yes
Frenzy - no

I think I get a bit frenzied at times. When the scent of sex fills the room and and I can see her blood trickling from the needles in her chest, my inner beast will come out. Things will get more edgy, more violent. But it isn't loss of control or judgment, it is spending my passions at higher level, more violent, more primal.

It is a bit frenzied compared to other calmer encounters, but not really frenzy, as in derangement, a fit or spell of violent mental excitement resulting from a mania . . . I guess consider myself being a bit sexually deranged and touch of a sadistic maniac compared to "normal". So if I experience "wild excitement" nothing really changes. I don't lose control or have a change in personality or desires. I just get excited which is par for the course. So the answer is no.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Frenzied - yes
Frenzy - no

I think I get a bit frenzied at times. When the scent of sex fills the room and and I can see her blood trickling from the needles in her chest, my inner beast will come out. Things will get more edgy, more violent. But it isn't loss of control or judgment, it is spending my passions at higher level, more violent, more primal.

It is a bit frenzied compared to other calmer encounters, but not really frenzy, as in derangement, a fit or spell of violent mental excitement resulting from a mania . . . I guess consider myself being a bit sexually deranged and touch of a sadistic maniac compared to "normal". So if I experience "wild excitement" nothing really changes. I don't lose control or have a change in personality or desires. I just get excited which is par for the course. So the answer is no.

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

The ability to separate feeling an emotion from acting on the feeling of an emotion is what's called emotional maturity. Most adults have it to some extent (some way more than others).

As you point out, there is also knowing what emotions to control, when, with who, there's much to learn here. A dominant too much in control will seem to lack passion, and experiencing passion is (to me) essential to a full enjoyment of life.

There must be a balance between the two, and achieving that takes time and experience, and having made errors of judgement along the way to learn from.

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ORIGINAL: JustStephen

Sub frenzy, to me, means someone new to this, getting their first spanking/flogging or whatever and then desperately looking for more. Subs in sub frenzy put themselves in danger, not only of users and abusers but STD's because in their frenzy they throw caution to the wind and often see many dominants. I liken sub frenzy to a person winning the lottery and going out on a big spend.
The sub you go to play with for the first time and discover, he/she is already covered in bruises

So surely Dom frenzy is a similar thing but in reverse? I know that when I first started getting into the action I was like a crack addict. I always thought of that as my phase of Dom frenzy!