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I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 2:24:07 PM   
emmacarrie86


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I am submissive through and through but my friend is a slave and he is miserable so my MAster and I have taken him on so he potentially belongs to my Master not me but Sir has given me the job of looking after him and setting him tasks etc as my daily task from him. The problem with our slave is that he is lazy and down and he doesnt live near me. I feel that he needs training from a professional Dom to kick him into shape for us as my Master lives 2000 miles away at the moment and is kinda new to the life of BDSM and well I am submissive. Is anyone in the falkir/stirling/edinburgh/glasgow or ayrshire area interested in taking him on for a wee while? Also does anyone have any tips to help me out if I dnt find someone to train him??

Thanks

Emma
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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 2:59:54 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		Lazy is as lazy does.  A slave (your friend) must have a service orientation to be called a slave.  Kicks in the arse won't help.  Why do you call him a slave?  Sounds like he's a sub - and a "do me" sub at that.  No wonder he's "miserable."  As to finding someone, get him to a munch.

You knew the answer before you came here for advice, right? 

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:21:11 PM   
JstAnotherSub


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Status: offline 		Ok, I want to be sure I understand the question.

You and your master took on a miserable slave. The slave belongs to your master, but, there is this little thing of master living 2000 miles away. So, the masterly master told you to set the schedule for the miserable slave.

The slave is lazy, so he needs training by a "professional" master, so you wonder if anyone close will take him for a wee while?

I can not help with any of that, however, the part about advice in case you don't find someone to train him, I can help with.

Tell him and the 2000 mile away master to fuck off, get to know someone closer to you, and enjoy life.

Don't waste time on silliness like you speak of in this post.

Good luck.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:35:30 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		My master and i were in a long term relationship before he became my master and i became his sub. I am madly in love with him and as much as the 2000 miles is difficult a life with him miles away is more fulfilling than a life without him at all. We see each other when we can and he is moving back to the UK in less than a month so the 2000 mile thing is only temporary.

As for the slave thing...I am merely trying to help my friend out and he really appreciates it i either want my master and i to p take him on properly with help and training from someone else r find him a dom/e f his own who has the experience and the know to own him without help from another.

If anyone is interested in helping or even owning him please let me know :)

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:39:22 PM   
JstAnotherSub


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Status: offline 		Well, alrighty then. I would not consider it helping a friend to go on a website and try to find a stranger to own him, but I reckon you do things differently where you come from.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:47:57 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		I would not expect my friend to become this persons slave or submissive right away id expect them to get to know each other like anyone would if they were setting up a friend in the vanilla world.

I am just simply helping him as he has given up and decided to crawl into a tiny ball of self pity and all he does is sleep til 12pm wake up message me and moan about how he is so lazy and cant stop sleeping in then moans about how his work only has 8 hours for him a week and is only a christmas temp but then he is too lazy to send his cv's to jobs outwith him home town :-S it is frustrating i just wanna kick him up the backside and say stop being so negative and get on with things but when i do that it gets us knowwhere

so i felt that maybe the best way would be to find him someone who could motivate him and bring back some order and purpose to his life. he says he is only happy when he is serving another guy or girl and being degraded and treated like rubbish. its the only way he ever feels happy or motivated. He feels happier when being used as a human toilet than he does in normal every day life.

I cant take him to munches as he has confidence issues and wouldnt even turn up if he thought we were going to one of them.

I just wanna help him but im kinda stuck.

I dont think there is any harm in me wanting to help out someone i care about :)

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:48:44 PM   
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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:50:51 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Rule was your good posting comment to my last message or to JstAnotherSub's message? :)

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:51:57 PM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
A slave (your friend) must have a service orientation to be called a slave


quote:

ORIGINAL: emmacarrie86
The problem with our slave is that he is lazy and down and he doesnt live near me.
I feel that he needs training from a professional Dom to kick him into shape for us.


Firstly, you seem to have flown right past what Lance told you regarding your friend the slave.
Secondly, you are offering your slave as though he were some piece of equipment that needs repair.

"I have this car that I like a lot, but it's parked in a garage far away from me. It doesn't really run
all that great, and it has no motivation other than to sit in the garage, rusting away and being a
miserable car. Woe is my poor car. If only a Master mechanic would take it upon themselves to fix
everything that's wrong with this car, and make it the best car it possibly can be, and then return
it to us, we will be the happiest car owners ever! Oh yeah, and all this done free of charge too please.
That would really make my car extremely happy".

Do you see how silly this ad sounds?


< Message edited by poise -- 11/22/2012 3:52:27 PM >

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:52:40 PM   
Rule


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Status: offline 		It does not sound like the friend you want to find a master for is a genuine slave.

Lose him.

(And I do am starting to wonder whether you are a genuine person and not some sockpuppet.)

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:54:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I vote for the whole "kick him in the backside" bit.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:56:07 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Really the main point of this post is for advice but the option if anyone wants to "help" train is there. I know of plenty of Doms who have given their subs to other Doms for a period of time for some specific form of training they are not as good at themselves. Also I am just doing what my friend has asked. he wants me to help him find someone or help him by my Master being in charge of him. He has had no luck in doing so himself mainly because he lacks focus.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 3:58:53 PM   
JstAnotherSub


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I know of plenty of Doms who have given their subs to other Doms for a period of time


Call one of them thar plenties.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:00:29 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Why are you wondering if I am not genuine? I am very genuine. I am a 26 year old parent/student from scotland with a genuine need to help other people and I need t know that everyone important in my life is happy. My parents were having a hard time a wee while ago money wise and even though im skint myself i offered them half my money because my dad was stressed to the point of ending up hospitalised. I just want people to be happy. I am constantly walked over by friends. yet i just keep trying to help everyone. Words escape me most of my life so maybe i didnt phrase this post the best way I could but i am 100% genuine, I am me and I have my own mind and my own personality it just happens to be one that likes to help others.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:01:56 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Also I have a tendancy to exagerate sometimes when i said plenty i meant maybe 2 or possibly 3 at a push doms who have sent their subs to other people, thats where i got the idea from really

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:04:26 PM   
poise


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quote:

he says he is only happy when he is serving another guy or girl and being degraded and
treated like rubbish. its the only way he ever feels happy or motivated. He feels happier when
being used as a human toilet than he does in normal every day life


He only wants to serve in the manner that makes HIM happy, not those that he is serving.
Hence why Lance nailed this the first time. Your friend is NOT a slave, you and your Master
do not own him, and I'd be hard pressed to think there was anyone out there that would take
on an emotionally damaged and depressed individual for training, without there being a
benefit to both involved. I'd suggest he save his pennies for a visit to a Professional.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:05:08 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Lance: I call him slave as its what he calls himself. Its what he wants to be called and obviously as I am not his Dominant I dont feel I have the right to change that for him.

Rule: Look above I have finally answered Lance. I can be a bit scatty at times so I missed that part of what he said. I wasnt being ignorant and ignoring him though. Everyones opinion counts.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:07:06 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Poise, he is currently waiting for the Dr's on the NHS to send him an appointment letter for some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:08:06 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		First... You dont own a slave. A slave would do as told not whinge and moan about being too lazy to find a partner for themselves.

Actually forget the above.. anyone looking for a relationship would be getting off their backside and trying to do something themselves.

This, ive heard of other slaves being trained by random strangers, comes straight out of fantasy porn. Most self respecting Doms/Masters choose to train their own sub/slaves. How the hell is a stranger meant to know exactly what you require, unless its a protocol or specific skills thing. is a stranger going to know you require a cup of tea, milk , 1 sugar, served at 8am every morning???

Tell your friend!!! Find their own motivation, dont expect others to do all the work.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:09:57 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		frazzle: I dont want to let him down even if he isnt helping himself :(

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