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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:13:21 PM   
frazzle


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Have you actually met this supposed slave?? or are you just believing all he says without any facts.

I saw the other thread where you thought anyone could demand you call them sir. You need to start using the brain you were given, this isnt 50 shades.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:14:49 PM   
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(And I do am starting to wonder whether you are a genuine person and not some sockpuppet.)

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(And I do am starting to wonder whether you are a genuine person and not some sockpuppet.)


I really want to know why you think that way? This is the first time anyone has said anthing negative about me on this site ever. everyone says I am one of the most genuine people they have spoke to on this website!!

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:15:09 PM   
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Poise, he is currently waiting for the Dr's on the NHS to send him an appointment letter for some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Emma, I meant a professional domme, although a therapist seems like a much better idea.
He seems to be incredibly depressed, which is why he may be having trouble motivating
himself to better his life, which in turn makes him less than desirable as a partner.
Continue being his friend, Emma, but I would leave any reference to M/s out of your conversations.
No amount of kink is going to cure him.


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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:16:34 PM   
Rule


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Why are you wondering if I am not genuine?

Because starting one thread about oneself is okay, but when someone starts a second thread about someone else it starts to smell fishy.

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ORIGINAL: emmacarrie86
I am very genuine. I am a 26 year old parent/student from scotland with a genuine need to help other people and I need t know that everyone important in my life is happy. My parents were having a hard time a wee while ago money wise and even though im skint myself i offered them half my money because my dad was stressed to the point of ending up hospitalised. I just want people to be happy. I am constantly walked over by friends. yet i just keep trying to help everyone. Words escape me most of my life so maybe i didnt phrase this post the best way I could but i am 100% genuine, I am me and I have my own mind and my own personality it just happens to be one that likes to help others.

So okay. But finding someone a master or dominant is not the same thing as finding someone a job or a house.
This friend whom you are trying to help needs some serious psychological profiling before it can be determined what kind of relationship is suitable for him. (Actually in some ways he sounds to be a lot like me.) You would do better to help him find a suitable job instead.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:18:43 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Have you actually met this supposed slave?? or are you just believing all he says without any facts.



I have met him, we dated for 3 weeks a few years ago but it didnt work out as he couldnt handle the fact i had a kid to someone else then all of a sudden announced he was madly in love with me wanted to marry me have more kids and wanted to clean my toilet with his tooth brush then use it to clean his teeth.

we have stayed in touch since we split up though.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:19:13 PM   
Izzosores


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Status: offline 		Your friend needs help for sure.
But you cant give him what he needs. He has to want it himself first. So kick him in the nads all you want, it might motivate him, depending on his caracter. Afterall, although maybe understandable, he needs to stop being a pussy first.
I understand your idea behind this post, its nice of you. But he has mental problems. He is letting you solve his problems that are unsolvable because he wont face his real problems. So your best option is to confront him with his real problems.

Some wiseass once said 'Its better to be slapped with the truth then kissed with a lie'. Think about it.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:20:02 PM   
Rule


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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:20:07 PM   
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I saw the other thread where you thought anyone could demand you call them sir. You need to start using the brain you were given, this isnt 50 shades.


I didnt "think" that I was just confirming that what I though (that what the guy had said was a load of bull) was right as I doubt myself all the time. I am a big self doubter. I also was interested in everyones opinions as well.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:20:12 PM   
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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:21:59 PM   
Rule


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frazzle: I dont want to let him down even if he isnt helping himself :(

I recommend that your master commands you to let him down and to tell him that.


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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:22:03 PM   
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Because starting one thread about oneself is okay, but when someone starts a second thread about someone else it starts to smell fishy.

I had 2 different things to talk about so posted 2 different threads to talk about them as would be a bit strange putting them both in the same one. What would the heading be?? Post 1 + Post 2 ? :-S people wouldnt know what to answer...

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:24:01 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		He doesnt seem to be able to handle much at all, does he.

Do you really want someone like that in your life?? your childs life??

He's at best using emotional blackmail and youre letting him. Tell him to grow up and sort his own life out, then block and ignore him.

As to waiting for an NHS appointment, how long? 6 weeks is now the average for at least an appointment date to be sent.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:24:43 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		Rule... I am trying to help him find a job I have had him sign up to many different agencies in glasgow and send his cv out to jobs from job sites but whether he has actually done it or not isnt something i have any control over as he isnt actually with me. I cant physically force him to. Also some times ive said to him he should do these things he has said he will then when i ask if he has he ignores me til the next day then sends a huge long email appologizing about not doing it and listing off excuses about no motivation and that his life is just pointless...i really hpe the psychological department get in touch soon.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:27:13 PM   
emmacarrie86


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He doesnt seem to be able to handle much at all, does he.

Do you really want someone like that in your life?? your childs life??

He's at best using emotional blackmail and youre letting him. Tell him to grow up and sort his own life out, then block and ignore him.

As to waiting for an NHS appointment, how long? 6 weeks is now the average for at least an appointment date to be sent.



it might be even longer than 6 weeks cause one of the many times ive been referred it took them 3 months to finally get in touch. No he cant handle much his life consists of getting up at lunch time eating some junk sitting watching telly eating more junk then bed and 1 or 2 days a week there is working 4 hours mixed in there too but he doesnt even have any real friends to socialise with as he has shut himself off from people as people scare him.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:27:27 PM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Hi

I am submissive through and through but my friend is a slave and he is miserable so my MAster and I have taken him on so he potentially belongs to my Master not me but Sir has given me the job of looking after him and setting him tasks etc as my daily task from him. The problem with our slave is that he is lazy and down and he doesnt live near me. I feel that he needs training from a professional Dom to kick him into shape for us as my Master lives 2000 miles away at the moment and is kinda new to the life of BDSM and well I am submissive. Is anyone in the falkir/stirling/edinburgh/glasgow or ayrshire area interested in taking him on for a wee while? Also does anyone have any tips to help me out if I dnt find someone to train him??

Thanks

Emma


Well, this is a mess-and-a-half. This "slave" doesn't sound like much of a slave to Me. He should be craving work, be eager to please his Owner, and not need to be "kicked into shape". I suggest all three of you do some research, lots of reading, and take a much deeper look into your actual designations. Go to munches and make friends with more experienced people who are SURE of what they are (to give you a clearer view of how D/s interactions work) and see if anyone you meet might recommend someone to mentor you. Good luck!

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:30:35 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		Ok youre going to keep making excuses for him.

Think of it this way, forget bdsm. If one of your friends told you an ex of theirs was still contacting them and coming out with this rubbish, what would you say to them???


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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:31:54 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Your friend needs help for sure.
But you cant give him what he needs. He has to want it himself first. So kick him in the nads all you want, it might motivate him, depending on his caracter. Afterall, although maybe understandable, he needs to stop being a pussy first.
I understand your idea behind this post, its nice of you. But he has mental problems. He is letting you solve his problems that are unsolvable because he wont face his real problems. So your best option is to confront him with his real problems.

Some wiseass once said 'Its better to be slapped with the truth then kissed with a lie'. Think about it.


Thank you for understanding the idea behind the post everyone else seems to think im being stupid or im not real :( I just wanted to help him but maybe i needed other peoples perspectives to see that I was being a bit silly to think i could even attempt to help someone who wont even help himself especially considering my life is already busy and stressful enough as it is.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:32:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		In other words... Per most of the folks on this thread, "your master is doing it wrong.". Didn't we go over appropriate responses to that in the other thread?

As to what to do with this slave I think I would absolutely act to help a friend but I wouldn't call him mine. I'd just give him a roof if he needed it and company as required.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:33:55 PM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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He doesnt seem to be able to handle much at all, does he.

Do you really want someone like that in your life?? your childs life??

He's at best using emotional blackmail and youre letting him. Tell him to grow up and sort his own life out, then block and ignore him.

As to waiting for an NHS appointment, how long? 6 weeks is now the average for at least an appointment date to be sent.



it might be even longer than 6 weeks cause one of the many times ive been referred it took them 3 months to finally get in touch. No he cant handle much his life consists of getting up at lunch time eating some junk sitting watching telly eating more junk then bed and 1 or 2 days a week there is working 4 hours mixed in there too but he doesnt even have any real friends to socialise with as he has shut himself off from people as people scare him.


Yes, if he has emotional issues you need to distance yourself. It doesn't look like you have the experience to handle Training him and also helping him correct whatever his problem is. If I were raising a child I wouldn't want someone like that sapping My energy. Your child should have your attention and emotional investment, not this fellow.

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RE: I am submissive but I own a slave... - 11/22/2012 4:36:16 PM   
emmacarrie86


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Status: offline 		My son gets 100% attention at all times none of this ever comes in the way of me and my son. I stop what im doing for him no matter what. From what ive read and what im thinking nw though I think your all right I need to back off from my friend and let him sort himself out. I have enough on my plate.

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