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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/2/2012 8:32:22 PM

SeekingTrinity

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Save the poor man who would end up getting stuck with you a lot of heartache by just staying in the relationship you are currently in...the one with yourself. There isnt enough room in your life for anyone other than you anyway. Your ego must take up all available air space in whatever room you are in, right? You know, I have to wonder if you suffer from chronic nose bleeds with your nose so firmly stuck up in the air all the time.

Reject someone because they hold a glass in a manner that you deem beneath you? I swear Ive literally heard it all now.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/2/2012 8:49:15 PM

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This thread is just hilarious. I've been reading it and all I can picture is like the movies where the family is rich and there is the jealous sister who thinks she knows everything, that everyone loves her when in reality everyone hates her, etc...and then there's the humble, and even more beautiful even though she doesn't think so, sister. Then there's the handsome, intelligent, man that the jealous sister wants but comes to find out he can't stand her because of her snobbishness and he ends up marrying the humble sister. Then they live happily ever after with the snobbish sister getting the hand me down men.

Op, getting any hints yet?

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/2/2012 10:01:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

Save the poor man who would end up getting stuck with you a lot of heartache by just staying in the relationship you are currently in...the one with yourself. There isnt enough room in your life for anyone other than you anyway. Your ego must take up all available air space in whatever room you are in, right? You know, I have to wonder if you suffer from chronic nose bleeds with your nose so firmly stuck up in the air all the time.

Reject someone because they hold a glass in a manner that you deem beneath you? I swear Ive literally heard it all now.

Who knew it was crass to hold glass without class?!

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 5:34:35 AM

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hahaha

We are still on the glass of water or wine. I hold my pinky out, or is that for tea hmmmmm. Damn it I really dont know how to hold a wine glass properly. Sniff, roll it around in the glass, act like I know what Im doing, sip, pinky out? LMAO.

Star, that is a little silly. You know what though, you met the right guy, I bet you would be quite willing to teach him. Most of the population has not been to finishing school.
Change the attitude, think its cute that he might not know. Then show him. Then he might be gracious enough to show you, how petty these little things are.

Oh btw, when I was young, I used to dismiss men who wore non name brand jeans. Yes thats right. Best guy in the world but wrong jeans. What a dope I was.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 5:54:54 AM

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Please don't get me started on tea (tea being the nectar of the Goddess).

You can't imagine how I feel when I walk down a grocery aisle and see (you guessed it) INSTANT and ALREADY BREWED tea. The tea blasphemy knows NO BOUNDS.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 6:16:43 AM

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Here we have an abomination called QT which is powdered instant tea with whitener already added in. Foul stuff. Regular black tea the way the English drinks it takes about 40 seconds to make after you boil the kettle - which you'd have to do with QT anyway. And you'd still have to add sugar if you take it. I don't see the benefit at all.

For the record, if you drink real tea from a teacup with the pinky elevated, correct ettiquette demands you drink QT from a chipped mug cradled in your filthy fingerless gloves.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 6:52:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Please don't get me started on tea (tea being the nectar of the Goddess).

You can't imagine how I feel when I walk down a grocery aisle and see (you guessed it) INSTANT and ALREADY BREWED tea. The tea blasphemy knows NO BOUNDS.

I would love to get you started and in the interest of doing so have created a new thread: Proper way to brew green tea and other green tea trivia

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 7:43:35 AM

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Dear gods. I make leaf tea either in an infuser, tea ball or pot. Good tea is worth the extra as it lasts for ever, a little goes a very long way and you can make multiple brews from it. Which is handy of you drink it by the pint. Like I do.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 8:00:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Leaving the narcissism out of it.

As a submissive, I don't believe I am less than. I'm just a different side of the coin. He wouldn't be in a D/s relationship if there wasn't an "s" to his "D".

I'm feminist. I have as much worth as he does. I can't open a pickle jar, but he can't plan a party as well as I can. We have just figured out each other's strengths and weaknesses and have used them to create a happy relationship.

Thanks for that one, very helpful.

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Save the poor man who would end up getting stuck with you a lot of heartache by just staying in the relationship you are currently in...the one with yourself. There isnt enough room in your life for anyone other than you anyway.

I already admitted that, reason why I asked ;)

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Your ego must take up all available air space in whatever room you are in, right? You know, I have to wonder if you suffer from chronic nose bleeds with your nose so firmly stuck up in the air all the time.

Not always, I leave some for whoever is around.

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Reject someone because they hold a glass in a manner that you deem beneath you? I swear Ive literally heard it all now.

Like I said is more about oowning what they say on their profile, is like if I say "Oh hay I am a pro soccer player" and then they don't know how to kick the ball, kwim?

@littlewonder

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This thread is just hilarious. I've been reading it and all I can picture is like the movies where the family is rich and there is the jealous sister who thinks she knows everything, that everyone loves her when in reality everyone hates her, etc...and then there's the humble, and even more beautiful even though she doesn't think so, sister. Then there's the handsome, intelligent, man that the jealous sister wants but comes to find out he can't stand her because of her snobbishness and he ends up marrying the humble sister. Then they live happily ever after with the snobbish sister getting the hand me down men.

Op, getting any hints yet?

To keep it rolling; then he finds out the humble sister can't have kids and since he was a stuck up as the other sister and wanted beautiful kids, he goes back to the jealous sister, one night he finds her sitting on a coach browsing the web, he realizes she is more interested on whatever is going on online than on him, so he brings two glasses of wine but accidentaly he holds them the wrong way! omg! so the jealous sister ignores him. While the jealous sister is sleeping he goes online on her laptop to see what was going on and he finds this site and reads your posts and falls inlove with you Little wonder, you fall in love with him including his manners until one day he decides to eat the mouse you have on your profile pic you kick him out. The end.

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We are still on the glass of water or wine. I hold my pinky out, or is that for tea hmmmmm. Damn it I really dont know how to hold a wine glass properly. Sniff, roll it around in the glass, act like I know what Im doing, sip, pinky out? LMAO.

Again, is not that, I mean yes, table manners are important to me, just like some other things are important to some others, to each their own. But what is annoying is that they say I do know how to hold it, and then post pictures where theyy clearly don't know how to, kwim? that is it.

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Star, that is a little silly. You know what though, you met the right guy, I bet you would be quite willing to teach him. Most of the population has not been to finishing school.
Change the attitude, think its cute that he might not know. Then show him. Then he might be gracious enough to show you, how petty these little things are.

Like I said, I am open to it, what I hate is liars saying "I do this and that" and not really, they don't even know how to start, or feel intimidated and start all this bs materialistic conversation I dont really care about it. But yes, I will try to change it and be more open.

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Oh btw, when I was young, I used to dismiss men who wore non name brand jeans. Yes thats right. Best guy in the world but wrong jeans. What a dope I was.

lol, and then would be my turn to say that is a little silly, lol, to each their own you see?, although "young shallowness" played an important role there. In a couple of years then I will look back and say, I used to dismiss men who didn't know how to hold a drink. I will try to find a line in the middle where I don't judge based on small details but at the same time I get what I want or expect, there most me something in the middle.
Thank you :)

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 8:09:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

Save the poor man who would end up getting stuck with you a lot of heartache by just staying in the relationship you are currently in...the one with yourself. There isnt enough room in your life for anyone other than you anyway. Your ego must take up all available air space in whatever room you are in, right? You know, I have to wonder if you suffer from chronic nose bleeds with your nose so firmly stuck up in the air all the time.

Reject someone because they hold a glass in a manner that you deem beneath you? I swear Ive literally heard it all now.

Who knew it was crass to hold glass without class?!

well I am safe then. I always stick a pinky out when drinking from the garden hose and I always wipe the end off with my shirt before passing it to the next person.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 8:13:50 AM

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Listen young lady, I was SO you when I was younger. Such a bloody self rightious stuck up prig. Utterly convinced I was more cultured, worldly, and well read, than all around me.

Till I met an amazing woman, fell in love and started to meet her family. They had intellectual giants in,their background, an entire school of sociological thought was founded by her grandfather, they knew famous people.

I realized I was the country bumpkin in comparison. Unlike me, they had class. Not the angry snobby bulshit kind I faked but real grace. They NEVER made me feel bad about the disparity...

So what I learned from them was sometimes you THINK you are doing it all right, its not lying if you dont know better. Class isnt about showing otherbpeople what they dont know, its making them feel at hime despite it.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 8:35:22 AM

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Listen young lady, I was SO you when I was younger. Such a bloody self rightious stuck up prig. Utterly convinced I was more cultured, worldly, and well read, than all around me.

Till I met an amazing woman, fell in love and started to meet her family. They had intellectual giants in,their background, an entire school of sociological thought was founded by her grandfather, they knew famous people.

I realized I was the country bumpkin in comparison. Unlike me, they had class. Not the angry snobby bulshit kind I faked but real grace. They NEVER made me feel bad about the disparity...

So what I learned from them was sometimes you THINK you are doing it all right, its not lying if you dont know better. Class isnt about showing otherbpeople what they dont know, its making them feel at hime despite it.

I have famous people in my background, writters, lawyers , politicians and architects mostly, and know a bunch more. I am not like them, we are all unique. I am not an angry snobbish or anything like that, if you only knew me. I am a bohemian by choice. I agree that class isnt about showing anything, first of all class is something you are born with and no need to show it. Manners are something you do to show respect. That is why table manners are so important to me, is my way to show respect to the people who nicely is sitting down with me, sharing their precious time with me. I exepct a little respect back to me and to the other people on the table.
Now, like I said, I have this issue with men, irl they tend to feel intimidated and say a lot of shallow things I don't give a fuck about, which lead them to a lot of bs lies, I hate that. Now, online, I hate it when they say a lot of shallow, materialistic crap I don't care about, I dont want their money, their car, their houses or their trips. On top of that they brag about stupid stuff which later I find out isn't even because they don't own it on their pictures. Kwim?! That's it.

And by the way, like you said, you believed you knew everything until you met someone who knew more, that is what I want. I don't know everything, I am just a 28 yo woman trying to figure out my next step in life, I'm not the smartest, most beautiful, best mannered, amazing unique person in this world. But I know what I am and I like it the way it is, I love how I look, how I think, how I speak, etc. I am very comfortable with who I am and what I have achieved, is there better people out there? hell yeah, just in my house I am so far to accomplish what my dad and mom had at my age, and there are so many great people out there doing great things, besides we all have different standards of success, love and everything so to each their own.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 8:49:42 AM

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You just haven't met the right one yet, and its frustrating.

You need someone you feel surpasses your intelligence, is more worldly, makes intelligent conversation, doesn't brag, you want some class, someone who naturally has an air about him.
You have a high opinion of yourself, good confidence but find yourself judging, finding many men idiots. They speak and you think "OMG that isn't the way i want that answered!" and they fall off their tiny pedestal and dont stand a chance. Once you find the guy who feels "above " you , you might purr like a kitten and become more humbled because you will feel content.

ANy truth to that? My crystal ball seems to be shorting out

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 9:05:32 AM

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If YOU keep dating idiots...YOU need to look at yourself to find out why.

Maybe decent men with class and integrity see some attitude that turns them off? Or you somehow act differently to them and so they take you wrong.

But the answer lies in your behaviour.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 9:34:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

You just haven't met the right one yet, and its frustrating.

You need someone you feel surpasses your intelligence, is more worldly, makes intelligent conversation, doesn't brag, you want some class, someone who naturally has an air about him.
You have a high opinion of yourself, good confidence but find yourself judging, finding many men idiots. They speak and you think "OMG that isn't the way i want that answered!" and they fall off their tiny pedestal and dont stand a chance. Once you find the guy who feels "above " you , you might purr like a kitten and become more humbled because you will feel content.

ANy truth to that? My crystal ball seems to be shorting out

EXACTLY, exactly, your crystal ball is fantastic, thank you for that.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 9:39:29 AM

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If YOU keep dating idiots...YOU need to look at yourself to find out why.

Maybe decent men with class and integrity see some attitude that turns them off? Or you somehow act differently to them and so they take you wrong.

But the answer lies in your behaviour.

Right, I totally agree with you, I now think it must be on how I approach them, perhaps I am so desperate for their brains that they get the vibe and run away before we even start a conversation lol, or just from how I look they assume I am empty. I will work on that, thank you.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 10:39:28 AM

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I'm sorry to repeat what others have said.

Your whole attitude is prissy and snobbish but also very brattish - certainly NOT classy or sophisticated or superior or even intellectual.
That is a trait that will keep anyone decent at arms length and they will spot you a mile off and walk the other way before you even see them.

You say "I am not an angry snobbish or anything like that" yet your descriptions and posts reek of it.
And... "first of all class is something you are born with" - that's pure bunkum and rot.
And... "I exepct a little respect back to me".
Perhaps you should learn some respect for others not-so-perfect as you deem yourself to be instead of nit-picking over miniscule irrelevances?
Good tables manners are desired but the perfection you seek is limited to sooo few people in real life that you aren't likely to find such a perfect person in even the most upper of eschellons of society.
And... "I'm not the smartest, most beautiful, best mannered, amazing unique person in this world". That is blatantly obvious! And yet comments like "I also think I am beautiful and almost out of this world" belies your subsequent posts.

"Is it because of me?". Yes, definitely.
"or is this how people in general react aswell?". No, just you and a very few others of a minority.
And incidentally, not 'educated' enough to know that 'aswell' are two separate words.

Then... "I don't mind too much about my feminist aspirations and maybe narcissistic as long as it is about me".
I think you got it right there - all me, me, me!

I take back my first line - I'm not sorry at all.
You need to set your sights a lot lower and learn to appreciate others for their talents and personality rather than obtuse snobbery.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 10:39:47 AM

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Oh how I adore being RIGHT! lol.

Mirror, mirror, on the wall........

Oh I got sidetracked....and tosses my hair over my incredibly beautiful shoulder lol.......anyway, I do hope you find your jewel, the one who grounds you and gives you that contentment you need. So hard to find. You take constructive criticism very well btw, for a snob. Just kidding you hon. GOOD LUCK!

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 12:25:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

certainly NOT classy or sophisticated or superior or even intellectual.

Says who?

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You say "I am not an angry snobbish or anything like that" yet your descriptions and posts reek of it.

Ok, it makes your day calling me a snob, ok, Ill take it then if it makes you happy, angry? Not really...not now not ever.

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And... "first of all class is something you are born with" - that's pure bunkum and rot.

Makes me thinnk of: "Beauty is something you are born with- not really -Ugly person-" or "Luck is something you are born with- I don't agree -Unlucky person-"

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And... "I exepct a little respect back to me".
Perhaps you should learn some respect for others not-so-perfect as you deem yourself to be instead of nit-picking over miniscule irrelevances? Doesn't make sense. I never said I was perfect, but I am glad you think I am. I just know what I like and what I don't. Table manners aren't miniscule irrelevances to me, so in this case, I would ask you to respect me then for nit picking over what seems to you as miniscule irrelevances but not to me. To each their own. What gives you the right to decide what should be irrelevant to me and not? Isn't this a place where we all have different likings?
I do expect some respect from the people I eat with, hang out with, live with etc. That's is a rule, we have to respect eachother. Everyone's freedom ends where someone else's rights start, that is called respect. I respect everyone around me, I hope you do the same.

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Good tables manners are desired but the perfection you seek is limited to sooo few people in real life that you aren't likely to find such a perfect person in even the most upper of eschellons of society.

Not in my world like I said before, I just haven't found the right combination of brains, manners, sex. But you are right, looking outside of "my world" makes it harder.

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And... "I'm not the smartest, most beautiful, best mannered, amazing unique person in this world". That is blatantly obvious! And yet comments like "I also think I am beautiful and almost out of this world" belies your subsequent posts.

And exactly where is the controversy? I am admitting I am not the smartest, most beautiful, best mannered, amazing unique person in this world, now "I also think I am beautiful and almost out of this world" Does it say I am the most beautiful person in this world? By almost out of this world I imply that I am considered beautiful by many but not by the whole world, otherwise I would've said, OUT OF THIS WORLD, which at the same time could mean I am an alien.

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"or is this how people in general react aswell?". No, just you and a very few others of a minority.
And incidentally, not 'educated' enough to know that 'aswell' are two separate words.

Well, thanks for pointing that out, like I've said english isn't my first language nor I live in an english speaking country, yet I wonder if you are the educated enough person to correct my mistake since you, as an apparent native english speaker, living in an english speaking country doesn't know that "tables manners" isn't correct.

Nit-picking much?

Thank you anyway.

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RE: Is it possible to be a feminist and narcissist sub ... - 12/3/2012 12:28:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Oh how I adore being RIGHT! lol.

Mirror, mirror, on the wall........

Oh I got sidetracked....and tosses my hair over my incredibly beautiful shoulder lol.......anyway, I do hope you find your jewel, the one who grounds you and gives you that contentment you need. So hard to find. You take constructive criticism very well btw, for a snob. Just kidding you hon. GOOD LUCK!

Lol.

Thank you.

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