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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

If YOU keep dating idiots...YOU need to look at yourself to find out why.

Maybe decent men with class and integrity see some attitude that turns them off? Or you somehow act differently to them and so they take you wrong.

But the answer lies in your behaviour.

Right, I totally agree with you, I now think it must be on how I approach them, perhaps I am so desperate for their brains that they get the vibe and run away before we even start a conversation lol, or just from how I look they assume I am empty. I will work on that, thank you.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

If YOU keep dating idiots...YOU need to look at yourself to find out why.

Maybe decent men with class and integrity see some attitude that turns them off? Or you somehow act differently to them and so they take you wrong.

But the answer lies in your behaviour.


Right, I totally agree with you, I now think it must be on how I approach them, perhaps I am so desperate for their brains that they get the vibe and run away before we even start a conversation lol, or just from how I look they assume I am empty. I will work on that, thank you.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

Save the poor man who would end up getting stuck with you a lot of heartache by just staying in the relationship you are currently in...the one with yourself. There isnt enough room in your life for anyone other than you anyway. Your ego must take up all available air space in whatever room you are in, right? You know, I have to wonder if you suffer from chronic nose bleeds with your nose so firmly stuck up in the air all the time.

Reject someone because they hold a glass in a manner that you deem beneath you? I swear Ive literally heard it all now.

Who knew it was crass to hold glass without class?!

well I am safe then. I always stick a pinky out when drinking from the garden hose and I always wipe the end off with my shirt before passing it to the next person.

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littlewonder:
This thread is just hilarious. I've been reading it and all I can picture is like the movies where the family is rich and there is the jealous sister who thinks she knows everything, that everyone loves her when in reality everyone hates her, etc...and then there's the humble, and even more beautiful even though she doesn't think so, sister. Then there's the handsome, intelligent, man that the jealous sister wants but comes to find out he can't stand her because of her snobbishness and he ends up marrying the humble sister. Then they live happily ever after with the snobbish sister getting the hand me down men.

Op, getting any hints yet?

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starskygal:
To keep it rolling; then he finds out the humble sister can't have kids and since he was a stuck up as the other sister and wanted beautiful kids, he goes back to the jealous sister, one night he finds her sitting on a coach browsing the web, he realizes she is more interested on whatever is going on online than on him, so he brings two glasses of wine but accidentaly he holds them the wrong way! omg! so the jealous sister ignores him. While the jealous sister is sleeping he goes online on her laptop to see what was going on and he finds this site and reads your posts and falls inlove with you Little wonder, you fall in love with him including his manners until one day he decides to eat the mouse you have on your profile pic you kick him out. The end.

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

Such typical responses from someone with their ass so far up their anal region they can't find the light switch!

Says who?? Me and quite a few others.
No, I'm not unlucky.
Using a completely different quote to justify another is rediculous and irrelevant.
No, I don't think you're perfect - not even a smidge off the bottom rung; so don't insinuate that my comments indicated any such thing.

Decent table manners, yes. But what you inferred to is definitely obtuse nit-picking. If you think they are that important to you then you'd better be prepared to go looking for the faeries at the bottom of your garden - you are looking for the impossible because nobody is that perfect!
And like many others, you like to mis-quote your own post too to twist your meaning or feel the need to reinforce it as if we hadn't understood.

No, sorry, your whole attitude to other people stinks.
As does some of your predictable and infantile replies.
Such a false and shallow facade for a person.

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You could be the most narcissistic person on the planet, and still be submissive,
because, until you find a partner, you are merely meeting your definition of a sub.
Whether those qualities will attract a dominant man remains to be seen.

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Such typical responses from someone with their ass so far up their anal region they can't find the light switch!.

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Says who?? Me and quite a few others.

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No, I'm not unlucky.

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so don't insinuate that my comments indicated any such thing

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what you inferred to is definitely obtuse nit-picking

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you are looking for the impossible because nobody is that perfect!

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you like to mis-quote your own post too to twist your meaning

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if we hadn't understood

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Ahem, maybe, just maybe, it's not how you approach them, but it's the them that you approach.
Ever consider that?

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Wow, that totally went over your head!

And btw, if that man would have left the humble sister because she couldn't have children so he decided that the arrogant sister was better after all, I would have divorced him for every penny he was worth and left them both broke.

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I can see why men want nothing to do with you and it ain't because you're intimidating them.

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She is a good girl. Strong.
I state my mind.
You all give her grief.

...and you were saying?

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ORIGINAL: RemoteUser

I think your feminism (as you have expressed it...equality versus superiority) might help you overcome your narcissism.

Start with the premise that everyone is equal. Follow from that. While everyone is different and will react differently, the drive for that reaction tends to be the same. Beneath the civilization and the knowledge we all still share emotions and instincts.

Go from that and look at how you act towards others. If that same action is directed at you, how would you feel? What would you think, and how would you handle it? See the other side and judge it with the same premise underlying your feminist beliefs. Are you acting the way you want others to act towards you? If not, you've found something to change.

Try that exercise for the next month or so whenever you get a reaction that you don't appreciate or understand. Switch your perspective to see how you are portraying yourself at that time. Change the things you don't like, and own the things you do. When you feel you have a more balanced understanding of the social situations you find unpleasant, you'll know what you can deal with and what you can't. If your sense of equality is stronger than your ego, you'll shed some of the narcissism and grow from that.

If nothing else, you may gain new insights and perspectives from trying this little experiment out. Hope it helps, best of luck.

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ORIGINAL: starskygal

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ORIGINAL: RemoteUser

I think your feminism (as you have expressed it...equality versus superiority) might help you overcome your narcissism.

Start with the premise that everyone is equal. Follow from that. While everyone is different and will react differently, the drive for that reaction tends to be the same. Beneath the civilization and the knowledge we all still share emotions and instincts.

Go from that and look at how you act towards others. If that same action is directed at you, how would you feel? What would you think, and how would you handle it? See the other side and judge it with the same premise underlying your feminist beliefs. Are you acting the way you want others to act towards you? If not, you've found something to change.

Try that exercise for the next month or so whenever you get a reaction that you don't appreciate or understand. Switch your perspective to see how you are portraying yourself at that time. Change the things you don't like, and own the things you do. When you feel you have a more balanced understanding of the social situations you find unpleasant, you'll know what you can deal with and what you can't. If your sense of equality is stronger than your ego, you'll shed some of the narcissism and grow from that.

If nothing else, you may gain new insights and perspectives from trying this little experiment out. Hope it helps, best of luck.

Thanks for that, to be honest I think I do it already but perhaps not significantly. We never stop learning and building our own persona, we are always changing. I will work on being more empathetic sometimes and see how it goes. Thank you so much.