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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 9:58:42 PM

tazzygirl

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The "His profile.. or the OP".. means the profile of the person who started the thread... or his opening post. You took that as meaning you... so it stands to reason when you replied the way you did it came across as you were him.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 5:05:13 AM

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i started the process again - and met several men that as nice as they were, they weren't for me. And as gently as i knew how, i let them know it. I guess they could have got upset and called me a fake sub - but it wouldn't have made me any the more inclined to change my mind.

I think you touched on a key here. There are some who declare anyone who says "no thank you" as a fake. I have had a few conversations with people with whom there just wasn't a click. Almost every one of them has been very gracious. One called me fake and had a little baby fit. There are some who understand that ti doesn't always click and some who assume that not getting what they wanted means "she/he is fake."

I think sometimes the definition of fake is suspect as well. People have THEIR narrow definition of what is real.....and anything that does not conform exactly is fake.

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RE: Negative experiences - 12/5/2012 5:39:52 AM

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I was just sitting here thinking about all the lovely people I've met here. There are a number of things that come to mind. The annual holiday card swap, the Cali-birthday party, the Sunny Munch, the gatherings in Florida, Virginia, Tennessee, Vegas, etc. over the years in which a whole slew of folks have met each other. I've met people at airports on long layovers, for coffee when I was speaking at a convention, for a wedding or two, at a truck stop for breakfast, taken people sightseeing when they were in my town for a business meeting. There have been several people who have become skype friends in Sunshine World. I've had crazy crushes on 3 different men on this site - and met every one of them. I proudly call one of them my friend. The other two? Still adore them, but there's not a sliver of a chance for more than a bit of fun here and there. I've played a couple of times. I've dated on occasion. Even attempted a long term relationship or two. Made some of those sister-from-another-mother friendships. I remember fondly the times people have met at parties, dinners, at an event and were gracious enough to bring their skype-laden technology with them just so I could join in. What good people here.

OP, I am nobody special. I'm just some gal. But I've met about a hundred people from here, all told, over the years. Some I liked, some not so much. I'm sure some of them think the worst of me, and some think the best. Hopefully, most folks recognize the complexity of people. I don't have a sweetie right now. But I do my best not to let it get me down. What I do have though is this. I have a brain, and I use it. I also have a heart, and I use it. Hopefully at the same time.

My grandma always told me that I shouldn't go out looking for the guy I wanted. She told me I should be the woman that the guy I wanted would want. I do my dangedest to follow her advice. Wise woman, my grandmother.

Good luck to you.
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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 5:56:50 AM

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DarkSteven I appreciate your input. However, this isn't our first dance. (though the this profile was created in '10 I've been a member of the site since '04) Nor do I expect the profile to attract much of anyone. Let alone a full service slave. You're right though. Ain't much in NM. That's why when I've the opportunity. I visit Denver more often than not .. and as a (sort of) last point, we don't seek a bisexual slave. My wife isn't bi. Which in actuality. Just makes it that much harder. Tis the breaks ..... your profile on the other hand, reads really well

Oh, crap. Northern New Mexico. Pretty desolate.

Denver, huh? If you head out to Scarlet Moons, R&L, or Skales, lemme know, and I'll meet you there. I assume you attend The Sanctuary, though, as it's more well known.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 8:41:45 AM

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DarkOne---I am just thinking outside the box but have you considered looking for a "service slave" male or female? They don't have sex with their masters but, from what I have read, they are much more into doing chores, work, whatever is needed..and, FROM MY UNDERSTANDING (& I have only read about them,so who really knows) they would probably have more of the mindset you want. Most people on here are sexual in some sort so that is the main thing. The women who think they need to do nothing for their master other than have sex whenever, wherever, however and with whoever the master orders...are just being what they are "sexual slaves". Might just be a mismatch of worker "skill set" and employer need. Probably easier to find a service slave who gets free room and board but does not offer sex and then find a "playmate" or whatever who does only sexual stuff...

Just my way of solving your problem!

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 2:46:56 PM

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ohhhhh , we are such giving people....... on cm................

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 6:05:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: DrkOne

kiwisub12 No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

I'm not kiwi but ya know, I've been on bdsm websites for over 15 years now and never ever went through wannabes before I met Master. None wanted to be, they just were not compatible with me. They may have been with others, just not me. That doesn't make them a wannabe. It just makes them not for me.

One good thing about such posts like this is they are around for years to come for others to read who might be considering meeting the person in real life. lol

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 6:10:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: DrkOne

tazzygirl Where do you come up with the idea I'm the OP? you said you or he. which the you would imply me. But I'm not the OP

Neither I nor my wife believe there's any such thing as a "no limit slave" Ask most any no limit if they do housework. Invariably they don't. Welp, there's a limit. no limit is bullshit and we all know it. Full service isn't no limit. For myself, I don't have any real desire to invest emotion online. Nor do I impose control or any of the other vagaries online. I consider it ignorant behavior. With no real validity in reality. Perhaps I'm wrong. Oh well. Won't be the first time. I really don't expect to find a slave at this site. I've been burned too many times to believe in the unicorn. I just find the place kind of humorous and full of hypocrisy. Which that in and of itself, at least makes it interesting to some small degree. Thanks for the entertainment

Crap. You mean I don't have to do housework??? Why did no one ever tell me this??? I think I'm gonna have to talk to Master about this.....

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 6:26:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
One good thing about such posts like this is they are around for years to come for others to read who might be considering meeting the person in real life. lol

Not without a libotomy & a side arm...if they have a brain left in their head

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/5/2012 7:40:38 PM

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kiwisub12 No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

The man who became [my] Master joined January 2009. Within a few days of signing up, He sent me a message. It got my attention because unlike most other messages, it asked interesting questions that were not kink or sex-centric.
My response brought a volley of other interesting questions.

We are still together.

The story of our meeting and the development of our relationship is in the link in my sig-line.

I don't think it is clique-ish for people to share what kind of impression reading a positive or negative profile has on them as a reader. Perhaps you are interpreting it that way because you don't believe the reactions to either type are nearly universal: A positive profile gets a more positive response than a negative profile.

Also-
people who display the tendency to complain about the exact same thing more than once are usually remembered.

Since you seem to have an entirely different perspective on this, perhaps you could offer the OP a different strategy.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/6/2012 12:54:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
One good thing about such posts like this is they are around for years to come for others to read who might be considering meeting the person in real life. lol

Not without a libotomy & a side arm...if they have a brain left in their head

Libotomy. What is that, the surgical removal of the libido?!

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/6/2012 5:55:53 AM

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Fakes are those that seek nothing but money. As an "exchange" to their current "Master" Or for gas money. Or breast augmentation. Whatever their cause, the only reason they've a profile, is to extort money in some form or fashion. Wannabe's are those who are just trying to bullshit their way in. Which considering a vast majority of single submissives/slaves state they only want an experienced dominant. They've little choice but to try and bullshit their way along until they actually gain experience. This doesn't excuse their action. It does however explain it. I consider submissive wannabe's as those who never have any intention of making anything real. It's all really just a fun little fantasy and they jerk dominants around in the process. Now few of you express anything of the sort happening to you. You didn't experience any of what I just described therefore a) you're very lucky and b) you act as though for those it does happen to are just complainers and whiners and shouldn't be treated with anything but ridicule or belittlement (yes, I realize that's a run on sentence) I seriously wonder how you come to this conclusion. Are you just snarky people who've little else to do but be snarky?

DarkSteven I appreciate the invite and will likely look you up next time I'm up thataway

TieMeInKnotss Thank you for that input. However, we have tried what you suggest with different nilla's. The D/s or M/s component is missed and missing. So it hasn't really worked. And as you say, the focus for many here is more sexually oriented than service oriented. So it can become very frustrating at this site. People tend to lash out when frustrated. As the OP seemed to be doing and as I've done in my journal

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/6/2012 10:03:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
One good thing about such posts like this is they are around for years to come for others to read who might be considering meeting the person in real life. lol

Not without a libotomy & a side arm...if they have a brain left in their head

Libotomy. What is that, the surgical removal of the libido?!

Lmao that would fix a few things, its a removal of part of the brain, usually frontal lobe. Was thought in 1950-early 70 that seizures, retardation,homosexuality, molestation & a number of other behavior based" mental illnesses" could be "cured" with this practice. All that usually happened was a drooling shell of a human spending the rest of their days in an institution (mental hospital)

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/6/2012 10:06:01 AM

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(pssssst....Lobotomy)

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/6/2012 10:08:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: hlen5

(pssssst....Lobotomy)

Brain, drain all the same

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/13/2012 1:04:51 AM

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I am still in shock about not having to do housework!!!!!!!

I was writing a bunch of postcards today when sitting at a cafe, still have more to go and was smiling as so many are to people whom I first befriended on these very message boards.

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RE: Negative experiances - 7/22/2013 7:32:05 AM

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This is the douche bag that stole my photos and set up an account and is lying to men pretending to be me. Why?? He thinks I'm a fake even after I proved to him I am not. This guy is a lunatic!!

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RE: Negative experiances - 7/22/2013 8:16:39 AM

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Hon, report it to Support on the CM side. And don't post on threads more than 3 months old. The mods will be along to lock this one up. If you want to say something about this, start a new thread and link it to this one. Hope that helps.

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RE: Negative experiances - 7/22/2013 9:02:23 AM

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On that note, this thread, being over three months old, will be locked.

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