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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 7:23:11 AM

FreeFromSin

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That's rubbish. I am crystal clear. They are the ones lying.

Example; Says he's 53. Meet him, he's 65.

So, you two haters can F Off.

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 7:28:49 AM

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lol... you are a beguiling person aren't you... I stand by what I said, you were deceived... if you keep meeting people like this then it is you... you can do nothing about what others say/do but you can change you and how you approach this all..

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 8:49:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: FreeFromSin

That's rubbish. I am crystal clear. They are the ones lying.

Example; Says he's 53. Meet him, he's 65.

So, you two haters can F Off.

If you are calling me a hater, you are giving me too much credit.

Here's the deal. I ramble on a lot about personal responsibility. If you are an adult, you should have learned all about that concept before your age hit double digits. Unfortunately we seem to live in a time where blaming others for our own failings is de rigeur. You seem to be following that norm.

What we are telling you, and you are ignoring, is that your filters are fucked. As well as your expectations.

People lie. All people lie. The only variable is to what degree. I suggest you let go of the notion that you are so special that no one is going to lie to you. It will save you a great deal of heartache.

I expect people to lie. The only challenge is to decipher where the lies are and if I can deal with them. The world isn't comprised of black and white facts. It's mostly grey. Accept that and learn to work with it. It will make your life a helluva lot easier.

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 10:04:08 AM

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FreeFromSin,

Where is YOUR personal responsibility in who you choose to date?
Aren't YOU the one picking these men?
Aren't YOU the one accepting their invitations to go out?

If EVERYONE that YOU meet is lying to you.
If EVERYONE that YOU meet is deceiving you.
If EVERYONE that YOU are going out with is of such low character.

Why are YOU choosing to go out with them in the 1st place?

If the men you meet are all turning out to be liars, phoneys, ect perhaps it's YOU that you need to take a look at. Perhaps you need to ask yourself why.

That isn't you saying they aren't responsible for their actions but it's YOU owning your part in it. Only when you do that and take personal inventory will you meet a different type of person IMO.

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 10:20:07 AM

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To help give you an idea... I have met about 25 people off of here and other dating sites.. not a single one of them lied, deceived, or otherwise presented themselves to not be as what exactly they said they were..

Why? because I filtered out the ones that gave me any reason to not believe them, I put no expectations on who or what they were when I met them. This is dating 101, the internet just made it easier to group a bunch of people into easy access...

eta missing a word again

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 10:49:04 AM

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People put up flattering pics of themselves, portray themselves in the best light, use old pics and so on. That's the internet for you, get used to it. People get their hair done, make up on, good clothes on before a date. Dating is all about first impressions.

I went on a date with a sub, during which he tried to provoke me, hoping I would slap him. I told him I wasn't into that sort of thing and left. Before I even got home there was an angry message from him saying I wasn't really a domme. We sure as fuck weren't compatible, but that doesn't make me a fake. I blame myself for that one, as I let several red flags go by, thinking it was just a communication issue (his English was very good but it wasn't his native language).

And seriously, someone didn't take your calls so that makes them a fake? I don't answer the phone to over excited, persistent, needy people either. I stop contact and hope they get bored. Some people can't take no for an answer.

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 11:33:24 AM

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 12:05:26 PM

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GT, my love x

I'm good, but the Boy and I parted company as he became ill again, his choice. We're still friends of course.

As you were.

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RE: How to filter the fakes? - 12/31/2012 4:33:00 PM

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Someone's personal integrity and honesty is determined by how closely their words match their actions and the results of their decisions.

It's got nothing whatsoever to do with how well they match your expectations of who they should be.

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