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I haven't read the profile in question but I'm curious about this concept as the 'negativity' can be taken two different ways, only one of which I agree with.
1. The negativity can be a "downer" profile, e.g., one where the woman is just down on themselves or on specific aspects of THEIR life or person.
2. The negativity can be a filter, a sieve of sorts, where the woman says she doesn't want a man who is too "this" or too "that" (i.e., short, fat, old, married, jobless, druggy, whatever).
IMHO, both types would not have a place on, say, a resume were that woman to be applying for a job.
Likewise, I agree with littlewonder & ResidentSadist that there is as much place for the first type of negativity as there would be in a resume when applying for a job.
However, on the second case, given that men are a dime a dozen on Collarme (so it's less like looking for a job and more like filtering out the hoards of wannabe Doms), I wouldn't rule out a first-pass filter.
If "I" were a woman (but I'm decidedly not, so take this with a grain of a metal chloride), I would filter out losers using something like this at the end of my profile:
- No long distance relationship (local only, and, no, Kenya is not local to San Jose; Neither is Sacramento, nor Los Angeles).
- The right age range (and, no, you don't get to pick the year you graduated from high school as your birth date)
- The right height range (for the most part, women seem to want their men heel-height higher than they are, and above)
- Not married (and, no, separated but living with your wife doesn't count nor does it count if she no longer loves you)
- Own a job/home/car (renting is ok on the home & car ... any job is probably ok unless it's seasonal or under the table)
- No drugs whatsoever (and yes, 420 is a drug. Smoking will be considered a mark against you in some circumstances)
- No arrests whatsoever (traffic tickets are OK ... and maybe even a bit fun ... if they're done right and have a good story)
- College educated only (no need for JD or MD or PhD, just a BS is OK, but it has to be on sheepskin that you earned yourself)
- No body modifications whatsoever (ok, well, the one they did to that when you were a baby is actually a good one for looks - all others are out out out!)
- No guns whatsoever (just too dangerous - but dressing up in just chaps - and nothing else - would be fun - but not on the first date)
- No bad manners, bad teeth, bad breath, and poor sentence structure (shows a laziness of character ... bad taste is fine - maybe even preferred!)
- All the kinks you can think of are OK though (come to think of it, I just read a thread on all the kinks not yet done - we could try those)
DISCLAIMER: I have no idea what women do NOT want (I'm a guy, we're like dogs, we aren't generally all that choosy on the things above) - but this is my first-pass of what (I think) women would wish to FILTER out.
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There are millions of men and women who have trouble finding a compatible partner for a vanilla relationship too, so this is hardly a BDSM only issue. However, BDSM adds another complicated factor, which makes a difficult search even more difficult.
When I see lists like that now that I generally scroll back up the page and click the hide button. Even if the rest of the profile has interested me and I match the criteria set out, I will still hide that profile.
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