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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 12/31/2012 4:32:38 AM   
alildifferent


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Status: offline 		Being of questionable gender (transgender) and a rare one at that I have a similarly large group to pick from as we are quite rare. Our seekers are also rare but far out number us. I think the women have it right. Before I gave in to a need for hormonal change it WAS all about sex for me as a pure male. It's now more about trust and permanant compatibality now that I'm hormonally female. A nurturing and secure environment is far more desirable than to be reduced to a true whore. A male can give that and still have a bdsm environment. But most aren't looking beyound the next lay. I'm not saying that's horrible. I'm just saying it's a mismatch.

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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 12/31/2012 6:18:47 AM   
everhope


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Status: offline 		ResidentSadist knows what he is saying. he is a marketing KING! he could sell "bullshit" to a cattle rancher.
you are a product and your profile is your sales pitch. seriously think about that.

"Cadillac, not for poor people because it is the king of the gas guzzlers"

too friggin funny!
(btw RS the burgundy beauty is doing wonderfully and sucking gas as she always did)

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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 12/31/2012 10:57:58 AM   
Longerthanyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist:
"No long distance relationship" "No arrests" "No bad manners" etc.
Instead say, "seeking polite local law biding" . . . that is informative and respectful of your profile reader.


I think I see three points here that are apropos.
1. Pyramus opines that women are forced to reject many approaches in order to reduce their choices down to a manageable level.
2. Pompeii, somewhat jokingly, posits a larger-than-normal laundry list of red flags women might wish to weed out - but he does so in a contrarian manner.
1. ResidentSadist speaks from experience when he says you can still accomplish task 1 (weeding) in more positive way than in task 2 (negativity).

Combining all three ideas make the most sense to me.

Now it's off to rewrite that profile of mine! :)

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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/1/2013 4:09:03 PM   
Blankpain


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quote:

ORIGINAL: alildifferent
Being of questionable gender (transgender)


This thread did not delve into the particulars of how the various people of transgender find meeting people.
What do you see as the obstacles to overcome from your perspective?

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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/2/2013 10:10:56 AM   
ClassAct2006


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Status: offline 		Well there is certainly something in that...
And I meant descendants of his not his ancestors of course.....

quote:

ORIGINAL: phxgydnar


quote:

ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006
Genghis Khan spread his seed so widely over his territories that many many people are now his ancestors.
Men have always raped and pillaged and wanted hundreds of women and women who sadly today even now often left holding the babies


Genghis Khan, when asked what the greatest pleasure was on earth, mentioned his wanton rape of other men's wives & daughters as paramount.
And he would know!

Since power corrupts absolutely, and we are what our biology tells us to be, my older brother wisely taught me when I was distraught over a divorce:

"All men are rapists ... all women are whores."

Point being, men want sex for sex' sake while women use sex for other purposes.

(I realize this sounds chauvinist but the global point is biological.)


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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/2/2013 10:14:25 AM   
ClassAct2006


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Status: offline 		May be we're best off with only a bit of a man from time to time, not to endure them all the time although it would be sad if that were so.
Despite threads about differences in reality most people look for one person to whom they can bond and many couples are a mutual help meet of the other, a supporter and lover and a good few people are even faithful to their partner.
quote:

ORIGINAL: Blankpain

There are some really memorable quotes in this thread!

And, for the final poem of the evening:
quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyramus & ClassAct2006
Men hunt, women weed ... Genghis Khan spread his seed!




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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/2/2013 10:14:58 AM   
absolutchocolat


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Not a fan of generalizations based on gender, but I disagree. I'm a hunter. The thrill of the chase is what excites me. The game of pursuit and capture is an erotic and exciting one.

...and last time I checked, I didn't have a penis attached to my body. My two cents.

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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/2/2013 10:18:05 AM   
ClassAct2006


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Status: offline 		I agree. I also get sick of men telling me I will have had lots of emails from people who aren't dom or are awful. In fact that is not so. Most people are good. Anyone married always says they are and people tend to be good. Men denigrating other men never comes over well at all. Yes you might think you're the greatest man on earth but it doesn't help to suggest submissives receive lots of emails from awful men. In fact in practice there are a lot of good other men out there believe it or not.

A profile of a man or woman which goes on about how you don't want to hear from XYZ and you don't want someone who is ABC is just pointless and very off putting; although I don't thinking mine which I assume says I want someone dom who is reasonably bright is going too far and if puts off losers, the unemployed and those with an IQ of 80 I don't much care.

Another annoying thing is men who think if you reject them you must have massive filters and reject everyone. Instead they need to think the fact they are unemployed 25 stone, never married, little education or had children and have a full beard might be the reason rather than that I'm too fussy.

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I have to say, I agree with RS. Any negativity in a profile is just a real turn-off be it in a male or female profile. It's as though you think so little of yourself that you have to list what you are not instead of what you are. Let others see the positive traits in you. Let them see just how confident you feel about yourself.



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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/2/2013 10:32:30 AM   
aldorax


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Status: offline 		Agree with the other points made here. Self-centered laundry lists and negativity in a profile are a turn-off for me, too. Also high on the list of "no thanks!" are doms/tops who come across very heavy-handed in their profile or introductory emails. They see me listed as sub and start off with "HEY SLAVE!" or some-such outlining all the requirements they're looking for. Umm, no thanks -- first impressions matter, and if you aren't capable of interacting with me as a mature adult *person* first to establish the relationship[1], how can you expect me to interact with you as a mature adult top/domme down the road?

I'll respect anyone as a person first ... then work on the dynamics of a kinky relationship, whatever form that might take. But emailing me out of the blue and expecting me to instantly turn submissive when presented with your laundry list of demands wrapped up in a heavy-handed tone? Not gonna happen. I daresay a lot of this comes down to marketing yourself and making the right first impressions.


[1] "relationship" here meaning first as between two people, then as friends, play partners, a professional, etc.



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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/3/2013 10:30:04 PM   
EsotericLady


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Status: offline 		I couldn't agree with you more, smartsub! I feel the same about "Conan," too! Gakkkk!
quote:

ORIGINAL: smartsub10

quote:

One of the half-joking things I say to Carol is that men and women both want an impossibly contradictory set of traits. The woman is supposed to be both madonna and whore. The men are supposed to be Conan & Dr. Phil. Both genders want a wide range of traits that often times don't comfortably sit next to each other. People who DO manage to combine those traits seldom have a hard time finding potential partners. But even then there are problems because their standards are [quite reasonably] high so finding the RIGHT partner is still hard.


Dr. Phil!!!??? God help me. LOL


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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/3/2013 10:43:11 PM   
Blankpain


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quote:

ORIGINAL: aldorax

They see me listed as sub and start off with "HEY SLAVE!" or some-such outlining all the requirements they're looking for.



I get that too! And I'm not even listed as sub!

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RE: Men hunt : women weed |Why it may be hard to find t... - 1/7/2013 12:41:28 PM   
Pyramus


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Status: offline 		I'm still mulling over, in my mind, the wise words of RS who said there's no place for negativity in a profile.

Concomitantly, I just at this very moment read a profile journal, from a lovely lady with whom I have been conversing endearingly bluntly, who wrote, in that profile this "letter to the Dom", which reads, in part:
quote:


Dear Dominant,

When you send me a message ...please use some common courtesy. If your first message to me is "hello whore" I daresay you needn't hold your breath for a response from me.

If the first thing you want to talk about is different sexual positions or how big my tits are instead of getting to know me, I will quickly dump you by the wayside. Same with those of you who ask for nude pics.

I can handle these things. They are irritating, but they serve to help me weed out the losers and fakes quickly, wasting less of my time....


Putting two-and-two together, i.e., RS admonitions and this obviously intelligent woman's suggestions, it seems that women may still WEED without being negative. They can weed simply by reading the responses from the men.

Now, the whole point of the negativity was to AVOID having to do that, especially since the assumption I was making was that women (whom I never will profess to actually understand) ... the assumption was that the women WASTED TIME replying to men that, in the end, they didn't want.

However, if women have this sixth sense of sorts, then they can indeed still weed simply by grepping the gist of the first response of the male. And, to that end, they trash those whom they would have otherwise employed the negative filter for in their profile.

So, RS did indeed have a good point. Women still weed. They just have a few methods for doing so.


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