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Hillwilliam -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 6:37:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama That may be fine for vanilla chicks, but does nothing for me. Give me a sadist over a six pack every time! Even if that 6 pack is a really nice microbrew?[8D]

DarkSteven -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 6:39:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Sixth- Sure i may be semi-new to this scene, but what is funny is you think that someone that has experience can satisfy another better than me.... i disagree. Because i am a student of the game. I don't just randomly do things, in this kind of dynamic there is a method to it. Seventh- I don't have to be a part of the physical community to be kinky, so don't judge me seriously. Fella, you have just made one clueless post. I know one man locally who has thirty-plus years of experience with whips. He has given demos on them, reviewed whips for manufacturers, and discussed their usage with other whip experts in the state. I've seen him whip women for half an hour. I've never heard a complaint about his whipping skills. I know a couple of men who are considered experts with electrical play. One of them has reconditioned equipment over 80 years old. They've both given talks on electrical play, including demoing on bottoms. I know a man who's been giving bondage classes for years. I've seen him suspend several women. I know another man who's suspended eight women at the same time. I know a man who has a local reputation for doing drugs and treating people like crap. He freaked out when I berated him for trying to ruin the rep of a former sub who spoke out against him, and he's doing everything in his power to avoid going to the same events I attend. I know one man who considers himself a Master, who I don't. He claims prowess in hypnosis, but has given a talk in which he showed (in my opinion) inadequate concern for when things go south. I once had under my protection a woman with multiple personalities, who he wanted to hypnotize. I refused because (among other things) I predicted that some of her personalities would emerge that he would not be able to deal with, and he still tried to do an end run around me to contact her. I also know quite a few spankers and spankees. I can tell you who is considered to have excellent technique, who spanks hard, who spanks gently. I can tell you who needs a hard spanking and who needs it gently. Do you get my drift? Experience matters. Attitude matters. Local reputation matters. Oh, and be VERY careful who you pick fights with. Never do it just because you're in a bad mood. Because if you give the impression of having no self-control, pfffft goes your chances of being considered a Dom by everyone present. Edited to fix an unintended minor mauling of the English language.

lovethyself -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 6:45:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Oh, and be VERY careful who you pick fights with. Never do it just because you're in a bad mood. Because if you give the impression of having no self-control, pfffft goes your chances of being considered a Dom by everyone present. I like everything you had to said DarkSteven, but this /\ /\ /\ deserved to be singled out. ccc3333, pay attention to this one.

OsideGirl -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:07:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Oh, and be VERY careful who you pick fights with. Never do it just because you're in a bad mood. Because if you give the impression of having no self-control, pfffft goes your chances of being considered a Dom by everyone present. Yeah, whatever respect I had for him went out the window when he made the comments about LP.

ccc3333 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:15:05 AM)
im traveling todAy will respond to all haters when i get home c

OsideGirl -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:22:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 im traveling todAy will respond to all haters when i get home c Best advice I can give you at this point: Don't. It will only make you look like you're throwing a temper tantrum.

TheLilSquaw -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:27:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 im traveling todAy will respond to all haters when i get home c The term hater means that we simply cannot be happy for your success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing your flaws. Sweet heart from your own admission you aren't having much success on this site. Granted it's only been 2 weeks. So what exactly are we hating on? Lol Perhaps you should really take this time and think about your actions, words up to this point, and if and how you truly want to respond.

JeffBC -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:29:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl Best advice I can give you at this point: Don't. It will only make you look like you're throwing a temper tantrum. Let me second this... really. ccc3333. I'm trying to do you a favor here. I didn't read the post about LP and I don't want to. Honestly this is a no-win for you. Consider for a moment. You walk into a new community... say... a pub. It's one of those places where a lot of the same people go again and again. You, fresh in out of the rain take a look around and say something derogatory about a truly respected and liked patron. Do you really think it'll matter whether what you said is right or wrong? What do you think the inevitable outcome will be?

DarkSteven -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:29:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 im traveling todAy will respond to all haters when i get home c Feel free.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 9:51:18 AM)
~FRing it~ Damn, OP. I spit coffee all over my damned monitor this morning reading what you had to say to Lady Pact. You are so far off base that you started your game at Candlestick Park in San Francisco and ended up all the way out in Fenway in Boston by the end of the inning. And then it just ended rather pathetically with the panty-twisted little dig you took. I found her to be spot on and I too was wondering if the prowess you had on POF was expected to just naturally carry over here. And when it didnt, the result was this tantrum. Personally I found your reaction to what Lady Pact had to say very telling and Id like to hope that wasnt the message you were intending to convey. Because if it was, you might want to get used to the two week dry spell you've been having because its probably not going to end any time soon. One has to be humble enough to be willing to learn because its only through knowledge that we begin to grow.

SinFix -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 10:30:19 AM)
I was in your corner a little until that reply to LP.. then the little cred you had went flying out the window... Take a deep breathe and read what she wrote, it was not a slam on you. She was trying to point out the different demographics between the two sites and how approaching females on each cannot carry over to the other...

Baroana -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 10:35:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity ~FRing it~ Damn, OP. I spit coffee all over my damned monitor this morning reading what you had to say to Lady Pact. You are so far off base that you started your game at Candlestick Park in San Francisco and ended up all the way out in Fenway in Boston by the end of the inning. And then it just ended rather pathetically with the panty-twisted little dig you took. I found her to be spot on and I too was wondering if the prowess you had on POF was expected to just naturally carry over here. And when it didnt, the result was this tantrum. Personally I found your reaction to what Lady Pact had to say very telling and Id like to hope that wasnt the message you were intending to convey. Because if it was, you might want to get used to the two week dry spell you've been having because its probably not going to end any time soon. One has to be humble enough to be willing to learn because its only through knowledge that we begin to grow. Is it Candlestick Park again? Thank goodness. 3Com Park was like, the worst name ever.

Desdemmonna -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 11:04:51 AM)
No luck so far, all my usual inquiries are not local, have kinks in my hard limits or otherwise not interesting.

Longerthanyou -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 11:08:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Some no doubt probably were, but a few had an instagram with years of pictures. Don't fall for the picture. Maybe 1 out of 10 is really the person who is behind the profile, and of those, 1 out of 10 is a recent picture indicative of what they look like now. Men have been misled (I was going to say mislaid) by the picture on the advertising since pictures were invented while women have learned since their first cell phone how to take a picture that makes them look as good as possible. Nothing wrong with that. Just don't think that what you see is what you get or even if what you see actually exists. Most of the time it does not.

OsideGirl -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 11:17:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Longerthanyou Men have been misled (I was going to say mislaid) by the picture on the advertising since pictures were invented while women have learned since their first cell phone how to take a picture that makes them look as good as possible. Are you under the impression that men don't do exactly the same thing?

TheLilSquaw -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 11:19:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Longerthanyou quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Some no doubt probably were, but a few had an instagram with years of pictures. Don't fall for the picture. Maybe 1 out of 10 is really the person who is behind the profile, and of those, 1 out of 10 is a recent picture indicative of what they look like now. Men have been misled (I was going to say mislaid) by the picture on the advertising since pictures were invented while women have learned since their first cell phone how to take a picture that makes them look as good as possible. Nothing wrong with that. Just don't think that what you see is what you get or even if what you see actually exists. Most of the time it does not. This is not a gender specific thing. Most people try to take photos that are flattering to to them. Or that portray them in the way they want them to.

DarkSteven -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 11:27:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Longerthanyou quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Some no doubt probably were, but a few had an instagram with years of pictures. Don't fall for the picture. Maybe 1 out of 10 is really the person who is behind the profile, and of those, 1 out of 10 is a recent picture indicative of what they look like now. Men have been misled (I was going to say mislaid) by the picture on the advertising since pictures were invented while women have learned since their first cell phone how to take a picture that makes them look as good as possible. Nothing wrong with that. Just don't think that what you see is what you get or even if what you see actually exists. Most of the time it does not. Cute statistics. Not based in reality.

ccc3333 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 6:39:28 PM)
Ladies and Gentlemen, First things first LadyPact, the lady who called me out without knowing much about me (aka judging a book by its cover). Here is her original Post: """""I'm almost willing to bet I'm going to get some flack for writing the following post. For the record, I'm not saying it's going to come from your direction, OP. I'm just trying to give you an honest opinion. I don't expect everyone to agree with it. OP, you're playing a whole new ballgame on this site, rather than a place like Plenty Of Fish. You're used to your physical appearance, charm, and intelligence being what women are using as their prime criteria when looking at guys on the internet. A splash of kink on a place like PoF? OOOOhhhh. How exciting for chicks in your age group! Here, that's not enough. This site is very focused on long term authority dynamics AND topping skills for a significant group for search criteria. Somebody who has been studying and practicing shibari for a decade is going to trump 'I like to tie girls to the bed' when it comes to a bondage bunny. From the threads you are posting, I get the impression that you are a hit it and quit it kind of guy. No ties to your local kink community. No mention of any relationship skills. Dude, you are the jock who has always gotten by on his looks and sports abilities who is now lost because research and development are more important to the status quo. """"" She alleges many things about me... some are true like the fact i am not active in the local community, just the online version. But the one thing that disturbed me is that she can say things like "I'm the Jock that has always gotten by on his looks and sports abilities..... and also that i'm the hit it and quit it kind of guy".... The fact that she can diss me, yet when i playfully call her something back that was well within the same scope and my post was taken down lets me know what playing field i am on. It's just sad that people can judge, when the whole purpose was to have constructive criticism comparing other sites to this site, also comparing methods to find the right mate, and the thread was Before Lady came on it, real constructive criticism. Perhaps if she phrased her statement like , " CCC3333, It seems from reading your profile i am getting the impression that you are XYZ, and perhaps doing xxxzyq could change that perception, and i would love to see other people's feedback on your profile as well, to see if mine is accurate because after all , i'm just one person and i the more the merrier"... or whatver. I could care less that you are 50 years old and a Domme of 100 years in service, that had no bearing (sure you have experience, that is noted, sure you have life knowledge that is noted), EVEN MORE the reason to respect the person you are criticizing who never once said a bad thing about you... Lastly, Yes i have a 6 pac, no i'm not shy, i have face pics to someone who is a prospect. Yes i learned a lot of lessons from 99percent of the posters on this message board, including how to go about using this site appropriately and efficiently. Obviously i learned a few days ago, and throughout this process how it operates, and LP, you didn't see the post or two in this thread or the "she didn't show a picture" thread where i gave so much POSITIVE FEEDBACK and GRACE to those who gave me constructive criticism, and i really appreciate the 99 percent who did this appropriately. Still do. As for "everyone losing respect for me as a dom" the only one who really needs to respect you is your slave or sub.... a message board is just that... a message board. But if i am fired upon, i will fire back, especially from someone who is judging me in a way that crosses the line of constructive criticism. Guarantee you would never say something like that to me in person, why, because i would like to think that you made a screw up because it was a keystroke and not actually looking me in the eye. We call that e-gangsterdom. :) Still no hard feelings to you but you did offend me. C

ccc3333 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 6:43:23 PM)
I disagree with you, perhaps she had a point, but the way she portrayed it was far from humble, she was basically trying to tell me who i am, and acted as if she knew my factual dating history, hell, life history. Completely off base, i'm not one of her slaves nor her Sub, she needs to have a little respect for people in general. My playful banter back was just as off base as hers... quote: ORIGINAL: SinFix I was in your corner a little until that reply to LP.. then the little cred you had went flying out the window... Take a deep breathe and read what she wrote, it was not a slam on you. She was trying to point out the different demographics between the two sites and how approaching females on each cannot carry over to the other...

ccc3333 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (12/31/2012 6:46:01 PM)
ST, I'm glad to make you clean your monitor! jk. For the record, i'm not a player, i'm looking for a relationship ... have been in many successful relationships... you don't think for her to judge me like that was off base? Idk what to tell u. For the record i have lots of love in my life, was merely creating this thread to see peoples prospective, and i got her prospective beyond what i wanted aka 2pac diss track version. We may just agree to disagree on this one my friend. quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity ~FRing it~ Damn, OP. I spit coffee all over my damned monitor this morning reading what you had to say to Lady Pact. You are so far off base that you started your game at Candlestick Park in San Francisco and ended up all the way out in Fenway in Boston by the end of the inning. And then it just ended rather pathetically with the panty-twisted little dig you took. I found her to be spot on and I too was wondering if the prowess you had on POF was expected to just naturally carry over here. And when it didnt, the result was this tantrum. Personally I found your reaction to what Lady Pact had to say very telling and Id like to hope that wasnt the message you were intending to convey. Because if it was, you might want to get used to the two week dry spell you've been having because its probably not going to end any time soon. One has to be humble enough to be willing to learn because its only through knowledge that we begin to grow.

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