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zoe86 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/3/2013 11:01:56 PM)
I recently joined bdsmfriendbook.com, there are not many members as of yet, but I like the layout - it´s like fetlife and facebook put together and it´s free - as more people join, I think it could be a solution for most. quote: ORIGINAL: GotSteel quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Just wanted everyone's thoughts on how Collarme stacks up on effectiveness and function. I have a fetlife profile and i find it almost impossible to find anyone on there , they don't have a search or anything. Thoughts everyone :) C The two sites seem optimized for different things. Fetlife will be more helpful to you when you have questions about particular gear/practices or want to find out about events in your area.

descrite -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 1:12:44 AM)
Ah. I was posting in the thread about the Decline of CollarMe entries that should be here. My (anecdotal) experience: Fetlife -- 2 years, dozens of potentials, about a dozen possibles, ten or so dates scheduled, two that were bombs (stood-up/freak), a couple that just didn't have chemistry, and a half-dozen successful play partners, one who ended up becoming my current sub/girlfriend. They were all in the 18-26 range; all were hot. One scam attempt. CM-- 6-8 months, a half-dozen prospects...leading to...nada. About a dozen scammers. OKC-- 5 years, several possibles, one date. No scam approaches. alt-- 5 years, one chat. Several scammers. This...this I just don't understand: quote: I'd find some woman in my life... maybe from here... maybe elsewhere... maybe kinky... maybe vanilla. She would almost certainly already be in my life... likely a friend. I am a professional. I work in an office, with people who are professionals. I am rarely client-facing, and when I am, they are professionals. I work. I get up, I go to work, I work, I come home. My house is a half-hour away from any social activities. I see about zero women during this time. There aren't many woman "friends." There are even fewer who are not instantly disqualified by working in my office or in my field or in my sphere of influence. There aren't women in my life, unless I have a woman in my life. I am not going to hit on the barista, for certainty I become That Creeper. I am not cruising in the supermarket-- I am shopping for gorgonzola. When I am without woman, I go looking for woman. The Interwebs helps this effort immensely. Thank you, Interwebs.

littlewonder -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 9:30:05 AM)
There are people who live and work in large cities so for those people it's extremely easy to meet someone as a potential partner. Around here in Baltimore, there are a lot of social stuff, happy hours, all kinds of professional outings and being it's a large governmental career place, it means there is a lot of social mingling at workplaces. There are also a ton of colleges here where people hook up all the time. I guess if you live in a more rural area or travel far for work, work all the time, and don't really work with a lot of the opposite sex or co-mingle at work, I can see how the internet is easier to meet someone.

SinFix -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 9:46:56 AM)
^^This^^ I have to resort to most of my interactions and searches to the internet because I live in a rural area.. We don't even have a traditional bar, the only ones we have are the one in Ruby Tuesday and The Green Turtle.. add that we only have a few strip malls and the county is completely geared towards family, not singles.. yeah it is near impossible to meet someone.. Hell just the search functions on most dating sites expand my search for me because there is just not enough people on them in my area so it pushes it past the 25 miles that I set to 50 and above people..

aldorax -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:01:13 AM)
Yep - I expanded my CM search to 100 miles from DC as well just for more 'variety' so to speak. That said, it's nice to 'meet' a few MD folks here!

OsideGirl -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:08:31 AM)
When I lived in Orange County: First Wednesday was the LA social. During the summer months that social would be around 200 people. Second Wednesday was the Inland Empire social, I didn't attend that one. Third Wednesday was the San Diego social, I would attend that one every now and them because I had some friends in San Diego. Usually about 30-40 people. (It's down to about 20 now, the first Friday coffee social is the big one in SD) Fourth Wednesday was the OC social, usually about 50 people. On months where there was a 5th Wednesday, that social was held on the border of LA and Orange counties. Usually around 30 people. That's not counting any of the TNG socials, discussion groups, demos or play parties.

kalikshama -> RE: Is Collarme.com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:15:50 AM)
quote: I am not cruising in the supermarket-- I am shopping for gorgonzola. I've been picked up in the supermarket, but then, I was shopping for bananas.

OsideGirl -> RE: Is Collarme.com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:29:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I am not cruising in the supermarket-- I am shopping for gorgonzola. I've been picked up in the supermarket, but then, I was shopping for bananas. Flash back to Animal House: My cucumber. It's bigger. I think vegetables can be very sensuous, don't you?

aldorax -> RE: Is Collarme.com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:31:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl Flash back to Animal House: My cucumber. It's bigger. I think vegetables can be very sensuous, don't you? My ex from college (and still a close friend) did wonderful things with pickles at parties......or dinners......

littlewonder -> RE: Is Collarme.com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:45:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I am not cruising in the supermarket-- I am shopping for gorgonzola. I've been picked up in the supermarket, but then, I was shopping for bananas. When I first moved here to Baltimore and it was a hot, steamy evening, as I was walking to the grocery store it started pouring down rain. So I get to the grocery store, I'm soaked to the bone and dripping all over the place when some guy comes up to me and apologizes for bothering me but asked me if I knew how beautiful I am. I just laughed and asked him if he saw how much I looked like a drenched rat lol. That was all I said and as I'm walking away he says "I hope your boyfriend realizes what he has". I thought that was so sweet. I just smiled and said, "yes he does" and thanked him. He was a pretty good looking guy and not some creep or anything so I found it really flattering and sweet. Just goes to show that yes, you can hook up at a grocery store! Even looking like a drenched rat! [:D]

Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Is Collarme.com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 10:57:14 AM)
Aww that was sweet. This are is great, if you wanna meet a farmer or cattle rancher. :D Not much of a social scene since the only restaurant closes at 9. Well there is a bar here but plug your nose before going in. I have not gone in there buy when my best friend and I go for a walk we can get a whiff of the smell when we walk by.

ccc3333 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 11:57:30 AM)
Wow, probably the best post i have seen so far on here... I want to thank you Descrite seriously, awesome post. Ok me... OKC and POF- past 3 years 20 different girls, dated out of those 2 serious girlfriends Collar me- a bunch of potentials, never met anyone (only been 1 month though) 2 phone numbers, mostly girls who want to chat and be kinky and then dissapear. Fetlife- 1 serious potential close to meeting I'll take a closer look at fetlife.... And i completely agree that Kink is totally not a good idea to mix anywhere near you work Period! quote: ORIGINAL: descrite Ah. I was posting in the thread about the Decline of CollarMe entries that should be here. My (anecdotal) experience: Fetlife -- 2 years, dozens of potentials, about a dozen possibles, ten or so dates scheduled, two that were bombs (stood-up/freak), a couple that just didn't have chemistry, and a half-dozen successful play partners, one who ended up becoming my current sub/girlfriend. They were all in the 18-26 range; all were hot. One scam attempt. CM-- 6-8 months, a half-dozen prospects...leading to...nada. About a dozen scammers. OKC-- 5 years, several possibles, one date. No scam approaches. alt-- 5 years, one chat. Several scammers. This...this I just don't understand: quote: I'd find some woman in my life... maybe from here... maybe elsewhere... maybe kinky... maybe vanilla. She would almost certainly already be in my life... likely a friend. I am a professional. I work in an office, with people who are professionals. I am rarely client-facing, and when I am, they are professionals. I work. I get up, I go to work, I work, I come home. My house is a half-hour away from any social activities. I see about zero women during this time. There aren't many woman "friends." There are even fewer who are not instantly disqualified by working in my office or in my field or in my sphere of influence. There aren't women in my life, unless I have a woman in my life. I am not going to hit on the barista, for certainty I become That Creeper. I am not cruising in the supermarket-- I am shopping for gorgonzola. When I am without woman, I go looking for woman. The Interwebs helps this effort immensely. Thank you, Interwebs.

LadyPact -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 3:25:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Wow, probably the best post i have seen so far on here... I want to thank you Descrite seriously, awesome post. Ok me... OKC and POF- past 3 years 20 different girls, dated out of those 2 serious girlfriends Collar me- a bunch of potentials, never met anyone (only been 1 month though) 2 phone numbers, mostly girls who want to chat and be kinky and then dissapear. Fetlife- 1 serious potential close to meeting I'll take a closer look at fetlife.... And i completely agree that Kink is totally not a good idea to mix anywhere near you work Period! Let's give this another shot. OP, can we at least agree that women have an advantage on these type of sites? Whether it's for play, friendship, or anything else, is just plain easier for chicks because there are more guys than gals on both sides of the kneel. That post "men hunt, women weed" is very much what I'm referring to. If I actually put up how many people I've met, played with at least once, played with on a recurring basis, and/or had D/s dynamics with, you might be inclined to say that I was inflating the truth. I'm not. There are a number of people on these forums that can confirm that. Again, it's different because I don't "date". Also, just about anybody that contacts Me on sites like this basically gets told the same thing I've done for years. I'm willing to meet them if they want to do so at a kink event that I'm already planning on attending. Being female, that cuts out a lot of the bullshit for Me. I've had a lot of success on Alt, but I couldn't tell you the state of the site now. CM and Fet I've also had great success, but in different ways. CM has led to more private parties (meaning not munches or community sponsored events) and Fet has led to more kink community tied stuff. CM has the person to person search that some people prefer. Fet has the event type search that other people prefer.

littlewonder -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 3:42:17 PM)
I was sitting here trying to think of which site I met the most people from and it was none of them. I met almost all of them when I was on mIRC. There was never a shortage of men to meet.

Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 3:57:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I was sitting here trying to think of which site I met the most people from and it was none of them. I met almost all of them when I was on mIRC. There was never a shortage of men to meet. What is MIRC?

littlewonder -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 4:01:23 PM)
it was an internet relay chat software for windows. It was great! I haven't used though in about 8 years. I should go on and see if anyone still uses it or not or if I know anyone there anymore lol.

Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 4:15:02 PM)
Probably not. Oh I went to myspace to get some photos. My desktop unexpectadly crashed and now when it does boot up it crashes again. So I was going to see if I had any of my old photos. I do not think myspace will be around much longer. I did save some pictures though.

kalikshama -> RE: Is Collarme.com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/4/2013 4:56:26 PM)
Alt - 1, probably married or living with someone, hated the site layout, forwarded my profile to here Fet - 1, drinking problem OKC - 3, dated one for a few months, lived with one for a year CM - lots of dates when I lived in FL, had some great play partners but none that were relationship material until (fingers crossed) now I move a lot more slowly since I discovered BDSM. I used to hop right into bed with guys, but now I need to feel safe, yet he still needs to scare me a little. I like dominant guys who are not too pushy. I want a relationship minded guy who does not have any minor children. I got laid a lot more when I was at the ashram and my only criteria was "attractive and interested in me" lol.

ccc3333 -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/5/2013 12:29:07 AM)
Of course ladies have the advantage, i happen to be good friends with two extremely good looking model/strippers... oh the stories they tell me... the money they make... one of em put a pic up on POF, and got 1k messages in 3 hrs in LA area... of course women have the advantage, even below average women get hit up like it's the end of the world lol... and yes that hunter/hunted post was on point, i do agree. Of course your numbers are high.. u have no dick... and are descent looking IMO, therefore you could have 2-3 guys A DAY if you so desired. Just sayin. Chris not charles. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Wow, probably the best post i have seen so far on here... I want to thank you Descrite seriously, awesome post. Ok me... OKC and POF- past 3 years 20 different girls, dated out of those 2 serious girlfriends Collar me- a bunch of potentials, never met anyone (only been 1 month though) 2 phone numbers, mostly girls who want to chat and be kinky and then dissapear. Fetlife- 1 serious potential close to meeting I'll take a closer look at fetlife.... And i completely agree that Kink is totally not a good idea to mix anywhere near you work Period! Let's give this another shot. OP, can we at least agree that women have an advantage on these type of sites? Whether it's for play, friendship, or anything else, is just plain easier for chicks because there are more guys than gals on both sides of the kneel. That post "men hunt, women weed" is very much what I'm referring to. If I actually put up how many people I've met, played with at least once, played with on a recurring basis, and/or had D/s dynamics with, you might be inclined to say that I was inflating the truth. I'm not. There are a number of people on these forums that can confirm that. Again, it's different because I don't "date". Also, just about anybody that contacts Me on sites like this basically gets told the same thing I've done for years. I'm willing to meet them if they want to do so at a kink event that I'm already planning on attending. Being female, that cuts out a lot of the bullshit for Me. I've had a lot of success on Alt, but I couldn't tell you the state of the site now. CM and Fet I've also had great success, but in different ways. CM has led to more private parties (meaning not munches or community sponsored events) and Fet has led to more kink community tied stuff. CM has the person to person search that some people prefer. Fet has the event type search that other people prefer.

LadyPact -> RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slave in the US? Thoughs..? (1/5/2013 5:35:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ccc3333 Of course ladies have the advantage, i happen to be good friends with two extremely good looking model/strippers... oh the stories they tell me... the money they make... one of em put a pic up on POF, and got 1k messages in 3 hrs in LA area... of course women have the advantage, even below average women get hit up like it's the end of the world lol... and yes that hunter/hunted post was on point, i do agree. Of course your numbers are high.. u have no dick... and are descent looking IMO, therefore you could have 2-3 guys A DAY if you so desired. Just sayin. Chris not charles. I'm sorry for the wrong name. I'll try not to make that mistake again. Part of it I attribute to being female. Other parts are personality type, (I'm not shy by any means) I'm a pretty decent top in the S/m sense, and My reputation is good in the kink community. Those last two can work in a guy's favor, too. Online sites have come a long way. There's still a good deal of social networking in the kink community as well. You're in a great location for that.

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