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RumpusParable -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 7:10:30 PM)

Yeah, I don't see where "con artist" comes in unless she's trying to get you to do things on cam or send money or something else out of not sending you a pic... if she's willing to meet you in person what's the problem? Where's the con?

If she refused a picture, refused the phone, refused to meet ever, etc and wanted you to send her money to escape the evil dom currently locking her in his basement with no explanation as to how she's on the internet during this (not joking here, we've actually been told that story more than once on these boards), THEN considering a con would be reasonable.

But someone saying, "I'll meet you at Starbucks Tuesday, but I'm not okay sending any kind of picture over the internet at all" doesn't, at least IMO.



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 7:49:04 PM)

Sigh~Rate from 1-10 how important this is in the scheme of things?Do you enjoy conversations? Do you mesh in some way mentally? emotionally? I would be more worried of scam if I were sent an appealing photo.If she has refused to send due to privacy, why can you not respect this?Unless you are somewhat shallow and appearance is EVERYTHING.I have often found that some people that are not necessarily physically appealing are soo scrumptious in other ways..ie: confidence,wonderful mental acuity,soo funny, shall I go on with this list?



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 8:13:20 PM)

Why get worked up about it? Yes, she could be Amish and not believe in photos, she could be so drop dead gorgeous that she has been used for her looks before, she could be a ghost...doesn't matter WHY she won't because, obviously, it is a personal limit for her and your choice is accept it & meet her or say sorry & move on.



tidbit5021 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 8:22:48 PM)

Some people are shy. Some people are private. You may or may not be able to tell if you will be attracted to someone from a photo.

Either meet her, or don't and move on.



ccc3333 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 8:23:50 PM)

LOL... i don't send cock pics on this site...and no thats not an offer i barter... ever.
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ORIGINAL: KidnapPrincess


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ORIGINAL: ccc3333

It could even be a pic, of just the body ya know? "...



I mean, it's not like her personality alone would interest you so much that you'd meet her, right?

Let me guess, you offered her a photo of your cock in return, so she could see if you were compatible with her.




AllisonWilder -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 8:24:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Why get worked up about it? Yes, she could be Amish and not believe in photos, she could be so drop dead gorgeous that she has been used for her looks before, she could be a ghost...doesn't matter WHY she won't because, obviously, it is a personal limit for her and your choice is accept it & meet her or say sorry & move on.


If she was Amish, would she be on the internet?



ccc3333 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 8:25:35 PM)

LOL now i really want to meet her... and... of course i blew it... lol...:). It happens! :)



DesFIP -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 8:47:32 PM)

The Man and I didn't exchange photos. We knew we liked each other as friends at least. We met to see if online chemistry translated into real life chemistry. And a photo won't tell you that.

What giving out a photo will do is destroy your privacy forever. Once it's up on the net, it can always be found. She didn't know you so she didn't trust you with her picture. Sounds sensible to me.

Meeting for coffee in Starbucks is safer in my opinion. If after a real life meet you then want to exchange real names. drivers licenses, phone numbers etc great. But if you meet and decide you never want to see them again, then there's no reason for them to have all your id, including pictures which can be searched for giving out home addresses etc.



ccc3333 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 9:30:10 PM)

I suppose i didn't really take into account how much more risky this site is compared tosay match.com.....

Good point, i'll adapt accordingly.
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The Man and I didn't exchange photos. We knew we liked each other as friends at least. We met to see if online chemistry translated into real life chemistry. And a photo won't tell you that.

What giving out a photo will do is destroy your privacy forever. Once it's up on the net, it can always be found. She didn't know you so she didn't trust you with her picture. Sounds sensible to me.

Meeting for coffee in Starbucks is safer in my opinion. If after a real life meet you then want to exchange real names. drivers licenses, phone numbers etc great. But if you meet and decide you never want to see them again, then there's no reason for them to have all your id, including pictures which can be searched for giving out home addresses etc.




anaturalsubmiss -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 9:45:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ccc3333
I could care less if we are compatible...


You could care less or you couldn't care less?

Which is it?



ccc3333 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 10:05:21 PM)

In this particular case this was taken out of context, i wanted to know the "why".

Meaning i wanted to know why she refused any picture despite sending messages indicating big interest.

At this point in the thread i know why, she is a professional, or she is being cautious, and actually i changed my profile because of this thread. I'm glad i posted here, taught me some lessons, recieved some great criticism, enjoyed myself.


At this point im now more curious than ever, but i don't want to flood her inbox lol... perhaps in a week i'll send her an apology and explanation.
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ORIGINAL: ccc3333
I could care less if we are compatible...


You could care less or you couldn't care less?

Which is it?





littlewonder -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 10:10:59 PM)

You might wanna send her an email and direct her to this thread to show her you now understand and you apologize for the misunderstanding.



Blankpain -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 11:14:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SinFix
You want a pic and she doesn't want to send you one... move on


Talk to her on the phone.
Take her to lunch or dinner.

What's the big deal about a picture?



myotherself -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/30/2012 11:43:30 PM)

~FR~

I met several guys whose photos I'd seen.

One had a stern, unsmiling pic. Turns out the reason for that was green teeth. Seriously. Green. And furry. *retches*

Another looked really nice, but smelled like a rancid polecat's arse after a bout of dysentry.

Another said he was 5'10" but was actually the same height as me, 5'4".

Another showed a good looking man in his 40s, but the reality was a raddled, drink-sodden wreck of a man in his 60s (or so it appeared).

And on, and on, and...

So I stopped trusting in photographs.

I don't send mine out because I have a career I could lose if it became known of my kinky life. And also, I don't photograph well. Every time I sent a photo out and then met the person, they said, sounding massively relieved, "you look so much better than your picture!"

With Master, we talked for several months online as friends. Neither had pics. We decided to meet for coffee. He described himself (in somewhat disparaging terms, lol) and I described myself (in much the same way [:)])...and the rest was history.

Neither of us is gorgeous. We're never going to stop traffic (unless we happen to be run over by a bus at rush hour), but there was an instant chemistry between us.

You can't photograph that.



ccc3333 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/31/2012 1:36:56 AM)

i will..give it time.. then ill update :)
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

You might wanna send her an email and direct her to this thread to show her you now understand and you apologize for the misunderstanding.





crazyml -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/31/2012 1:46:03 AM)

Meh. It's a personal preference thing.

I think it also has to do with what you're actually intending... if you're already projecting lots and lots of rampant sex, dressing her in latex etc etc then sure a picture would be mighty handy.

Now, without wishing to accuse you of being emotionally immature, I think that you should challenge yourself to meet someone who you've not seen a picture of. It's a pretty different experience.

I don't think it's an obvious "con artist" flag... there are plenty of fake pictures that someone could use.



ccc3333 -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/31/2012 2:21:02 AM)

I've already met someone before who didn't look like their pic, it was a tough experience... i have met probably in my life off of the net a solid 100 people. I have pretty good insincts at this point, it's peculiar on this site because what if... you get catfished? Put in 3 months of hard dialogue, you love the person, but then u have no physical attraction... some may be able to overcome it, others don't wish to deal with it... it's a long complex issue imo.


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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Meh. It's a personal preference thing.

I think it also has to do with what you're actually intending... if you're already projecting lots and lots of rampant sex, dressing her in latex etc etc then sure a picture would be mighty handy.

Now, without wishing to accuse you of being emotionally immature, I think that you should challenge yourself to meet someone who you've not seen a picture of. It's a pretty different experience.

I don't think it's an obvious "con artist" flag... there are plenty of fake pictures that someone could use.





AthenaSurrenders -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/31/2012 3:33:07 AM)

If this is a worry for you, don't let it happen.

Insist on a meeting within a month to see if there is chemistry. Keep chatting casual and light until you have met in person. You could exchange lighthearted emails for three months without falling in love, surely?

I agree that some level of physical attraction is important. How important depends on the people involved. If you are worried that you might fall head over heels in love online and then not find them attractive, be responsible for yourself and don't let it happen.

Oh and do not spend lots of time in sexy conversations. That makes the tingly-gential syndrome kick in and people mistake lust for love. Don't get into Dom/sub stuff until you have met and know you are interested in going further - it only complicates things if one day you're doing assignments and the next you're not interested.



alildifferent -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/31/2012 4:11:19 AM)

I'll give you 3 reasons to hate giving out pics that have nothing to do with looks. 1) Guys use them for jerk material then don't even bother to say hi. Great for them. Not so great for the person they are jerking off too left horny and with no remedy. 2) There are stalking creeps out there. Leaving pics hanging in the wind is a good way to get kidnapped, murdered, or raped. You talked about naked non face photos. But what if this person has identifiable tatoos in multiple places or more than one birth mark that could give them away? (I'm a transexual for gosh sakes and I've been stalked!). 3) Amateur porn sites are popping up all over. Some of them using pics without permission. Good luck tracking down the original culprit who used your pic in their porn site then sent it on to hundreds of others.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show her picture... (12/31/2012 5:13:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ccc3333

Prior to meeting... she says she never ever gives out her picture ever prior to meeting.... for "identity reasons"

this sounds like a conartist.

***** is the screen name



Nope doesn't make her a con artist.
The reality is if you are going to send out pictures or go on webcam you might as well post a picture because just because YOU think its private doesn't mean it will stay private. Pictures that are emailed personally can and are posted and people do record webcams and post them.

If you are so interested in what she looks like, ask her to meet ya at StarBucks. She knows what you look like.




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