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ORIGINAL: sskitten

I came looking for insight and community.  I have learned a lot from reading here.  I do not like to argue but I like to speak up about issues I care about, and any issue worth caring about will have more than one perspective worth defending, of course, so there is inevitably going to be some clashing of strong-minded folks here.  I don't mind that at all when ideas are shared respectfully.
 
I feel free to come here and state my thoughts, but I am not as free as some of you.  My Dom asked me to stop posting on a thread I started (except for signing off).  He made that decision before visiting the thread, based on my reactions to it.  He is here to protect me even when I take risks.
 
Frankly, I do not feel comfortable posting here any more and will probably do so only rarely. 

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Dueling Doms, combative subs, tussling Dommes, flaming slaves, bashing switches and all the other argumentative folks here who come to spar by bandying words expressing your opinions and expounding your hypothesis I come to ask you why?

I came upon CM when I ended a relationship which I thought would last longer than the 2 and a half years it did. I was I think 44 and I was seriously looking at why, even though the last two relationships I was in were somewhat long term still ended.
In short, I discovered what my relationships had in common was that I was always attracted to and involved with  Dominant women, it wasn't an overt talked about dynamic because I wasn't aware of WIITWD as I am today. Anyway I googled "Dominant" for the hell of it because I was aware of that being a piece that I enjoyed in my partners.
Somehow along the way of exploring I got connected to CM.

Honestly now irregardless of the fact that we nitpick each other nigh to death, occasionally do our utmost to thwart our fellows whilst they attempt to foil us in return we return to the boards again and again; WHY?

I lurked and read for a time and realized I connected to what people were sharing and started to understand that this was what was missing from my intimate relationships. That I desired a power dynamic all along. Not only that but the base of honesty, trust, communication, respect, loyalty.  I began to learn a lot about myself and WIITWD. I began a relationship with a Domina while still quite a novice. Although we did not meet here CM forums helped me enrich and be more successful in that relationship. Learning complete open and honest communication about my needs as a submissive and to be involved with Dominant partner. I was so excited it was out here and I finally found it!  I kept and I keep coming back because I almost always learn something new and/or can share the insights I have from my experience, and of course because I love knowledge and a good debate, reading other's perspectives, being involved in serious discussions and laughing my ass off when humor abounds! 

Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone?

No I don't "enjoy" arguing with any particular individuals but I do enjoy a place where everyone can come and reasonably share, debate, and voice how they envision and experience the lifestyle, the world, personal thoughts and opinions with out much site interference.  I don't think I have any dire enemies but there are a few posters I would not miserably miss if they left.

Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend?

I admire some of my fellow posters. Butt heads with a few, but can totally agree with them in another thread-different issue. Some poster's I enjoy reading their wisdom, some I appreciate their written communication style, while others just crack me the phuck up.
 
I don't feel a need to rush and defend anyone here, I find people take pretty good care of themselves. I like that even though we can temporarily find agreement or temporarily separate in disagreement I find most of us can detach the issue from the individual and still have a form and sense of comraderie. I do find myself fond of almost everyone thats participates here regularly in some form or another. Yes, there are some who grow on me even though I may find them a pain in the ass sometimes.

If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts?

One has nothing to do with the other. I really, kind of, don't expect to meet someone from CM, well at least I am not actively looking for someone here at CM to begin an intimate relationship with. If that were to happen it would be a pleasant surprise, but that is not the main reason I am here.

Subs/slaves do your owners moderate your posts or not? Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners?

When I was with my Domina she respected CM as my space and did not monitor me or my posts. She trusted my integrity.
Although I do admit to being moderated by the CM mods once.

*Brightspot

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Awww, you made my little heart go pit-a-patter.

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Don't tell anyone but I do love to argue (read "debate") with Lam and CD...

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

  And I'm here for lively conversation that isn't rose-tinted, touchy-feely, PC bullshit.  I don't however, see the "constant bickering" some people claim to see here.  I see strong opinions, and the occasional disagreement, but these are not always bad things.  Conflict is not always negative.  I'm afraid there are many people who need to learn this.

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix


I don’t really see myself as a person who does a lot of flaming and bashing online. Although I’m sure I sometimes come across that way to others.

I’ll offer a viewpoint that I know the general public doesn’t agree with.
I’ll remove the veils and masks that people wrap up their questions in so I can get to the root of what they’re really asking.
I also don’t hesitate to step up to the plate to defend the underdog, and sometimes that means knocking the bully down a few notches.
And I often state the blatant truth without sugarcoating it.
But rarely do I just insult for the sake of bashing someone. If that was my goal, I have a few people in my life who crave humiliation. 

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ORIGINAL: badpaliden

Us! flame,bitch.disagree?!!! NO say it aint so!   LOL ..

Hmm well  the smart ass answer would be  that I have a bit of a masochistic  streak..  but  thats  not it. I think its because its being able to be with a sort of family,  that I'm able to sit down  and converse/express my self  and be able to see something simular come back at me.

as to the flaming  and bitching.. hell.. We are a group of people , who have acknowlaged that we have deep passions ..deep passions oft breed strong opinions..

Well any ways  just remember what Pogo said.. We's met the enemy and he's us!
so  keep  that in mind  next  time you see a flame thrower coming your way!  LOL

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Awww, you made my little heart go pit-a-patter.

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Don't tell anyone but I do love to argue (read "debate") with Lam and CD...

They have medication for that Lam... lol

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Dueling Doms, combative subs, tussling Dommes, flaming slaves, bashing switches and all the other argumentative folks here who come to spar by bandying words expressing your opinions and expounding your hypothesis I come to ask you why?

Honestly now irregardless of the fact that we nitpick each other nigh to death, occasionally do our utmost to thwart our fellows whilst they attempt to foil us in return we return to the boards again and again; WHY?

I enjoy the intelligent conversation, and the wonderful humor (some of it unintentional) you find here

Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone?

No, though there are rigid-minded folks here, and frauds, I don't consider them my enemies. I might not stop to pick them up off the side of the road if I saw them, but I wouldn't run them over, either lol.

Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend?

There are people I like and care for here. There are a number whose posts I always read, and enjoy. I may "defend" some, but I'm sure they don't need such.

If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts?

I try to be honest, and be myself, so when I start looking again, people will know me a bit, and hopefully that will lead to finding the right lady.


Masters and Mistresses, Doms and Dommes are you comfortable stating your credo here knowing it is being viewed by those you own or may potentially own, not to mention the reviews by your peers?  

Yep.

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Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? 

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Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend?

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Subs/slaves do your owners moderate your posts or not? Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners?

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy
Absolutely; I love arguing (debating) with quite a few, LA comes to mind immediately. She will go back and forth with me while we pick each others statements apart and present each other with our opposing views, great fun. Not because i love to fight, but the debate is one of mankind’s greatest skills. Are we enemies, no, i have defended her and she has defended me, i find her to be quick witted and intelligent. We were going to meet her for dinner on our trip to Baltimore that got canceled due to illness.