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twicehappy -> Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:20:51 AM)
Dueling Doms, combative subs, tussling Dommes, flaming slaves, bashing switches and all the other argumentative folks here who come to spar by bandying words expressing your opinions and expounding your hypothesis I come to ask you why? Honestly now irregardless of the fact that we nitpick each other nigh to death, occasionally do our utmost to thwart our fellows whilst they attempt to foil us in return we return to the boards again and again; WHY? Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend? If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts? Subs/slaves do your owners moderate your posts or not? Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners? Masters and Mistresses, Doms and Dommes are you comfortable stating your credo here knowing it is being viewed by those you own or may potentially own, not to mention the reviews by your peers?

gooddogbenji -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:27:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy WHY? Cuz if I pee in my apartment I have to clean it up. Yours, benji

ScooterTrash -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:36:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy WHY? Cuz if I pee in my apartment I have to clean it up. Yours, benji Exactly benji, but you understand that if YOU are the one peeing, then you have to suffer the consequences. Certainly if someone responsible for you, saw that you did the deed and it felt it was justified, then you would still be left with defending the act for yourself. NOT, that would you would of course willingly pee anywhere (rolls eyes)...ha ha.

Sab -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:40:32 AM)
Communication, information, debate - and yes, the odd piss take and fun. I cannot fathom where you get all the fighting from, these are written words so they are, by default, up for mis-interpretation, reading is a very personal thing and in that we have to try to read a post/thread in the vain it was meant. But we are all human so we err - its life.

IronBear -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:40:34 AM)
Yess to all applicable to Dominants.... It is better than going to the pub and spending time with drunks or watching "Every One Loves raymond" or "The Simpsone"... And yes there are much loved friends, one or two who I love and when I can empty that faquing great duck pond will drive over and collar then bring home to HIB.. Of course there is always the chance I might learn something too (Happens often enough).... CM is where I relax and unwind and even at times practicise my attempts at eloquence....

RavenMuse -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:51:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy WHY? I enjoy the discussions and further, I enjoy some of the comeradery and humour. quote: Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? Nope. There are a few people I rarely get on with, but I certainly wouldn't miss them if they vanished! quote: Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend? I don't know anyone who needs much in the way of me 'rushing to defend' them, I do however have a reasonably large number of people if I notice they have posted to a thread will get me reading because they usualy have something informative, interesting and/or humourous to say. quote: If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts? The only change there has been since collaring helen is I've been on here a little less and refrencing a current situation rather than past ones in a few posts. quote: Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners? Such is the case for helen. quote: Masters and Mistresses, Doms and Dommes are you comfortable stating your credo here knowing it is being viewed by those you own or may potentially own, not to mention the reviews by your peers? Perfectly comfortable. What you see is what you get, I put on no airs and graces. What I talk the talk on here over, as helen found, I walk the walk on in real life. As for my peers, I state my opinion, they state theirs, we may agree or not it doesn't matter as it is simply for interest and food for thought but other than that it doesn't matter one bit. They are not IN my life nor I in theirs, we are, in most cases, nothing more than pixels on a screen to each other.

darkinshadows -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:52:12 AM)
quote: Subs/slaves do your owners moderate your posts or not? No. quote: Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners? If I didn't feel free, I wouldn't be here. quote: If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts? I don't look, but nonetheless - my posts wouldn't be coloured by that. If that was true, I would be lying to potentials. As I am in a relationship - posts still are not coloured or set to 'fit' others - else it would again be a lie. quote: Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend? Dear friends? - yes - look for? - No. and no. quote: Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? No. and no. There are posters I enjoy reading - but not because we do not agree but because they are interesting and have character. quote: Honestly now irregardless of the fact that we nitpick each other nigh to death, occasionally do our utmost to thwart our fellows whilst they attempt to foil us in return we return to the boards again and again; WHY? Why see it as thwart? We talk - we discuss - we debate. Is that what you do - try to twart and argue? Nit pick? Be precise when people do not follow your way of thinking? quote: Dueling Doms, combative subs, tussling Dommes, flaming slaves, bashing switches and all the other argumentative folks here who come to spar by bandying words expressing your opinions and expounding your hypothesis I come to ask you why I do not see dominants or slaves or submissive personalities or switches. I see people. You see arguments - I see debate and those I participate with discuss - if people argue I don't bother responding or even go back to the thread if the person or persons do not show any thought process. Arguing is non thinking, blind, one true wayism. Debate makes you think and consider other options. Those that look for arguments - see arguments. People who see beyond words - learn. Rumi Peace and Rapture

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:54:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy Masters and Mistresses, Doms and Dommes are you comfortable stating your credo here knowing it is being viewed by those you own or may potentially own, not to mention the reviews by your peers? I enjoy the discourse here. I enjoy discussing philosophies, and sharing my own. I also enjoy the opportunity to provide a bit of insight (whether it is used or not) for individuals who are struggling with one thing or another. Basically, I'm a lecturer and a pastoral care advocate -- I enjoy the lecturer/teacher aspects of being in a public venue, and the opportunities to learn about the challenges facing the community that I feel called to be an advocate -for-. I have no concerns about whether my posts here will be viewed by potential servants here -- in fact, I hope they -will- read them (and I hope that the more motivated ones will take the time to read th old posts as well). I think these give a good perspective, over a lot of situations, about how we think here, and how we handle ourselves and our servants in different situations. As far as my peers -- I respect that my opinions will differ from many, and be shared by others, and I'm happy to discuss why I've chosen a given path, and to listen to the insights of my peers about ways in which they handle situations similar to ours, or to ask advice about styles of management when there is a situation that isn't working well with our usual methods. I think these are valuable opportunities to explore these lifestyles in the breath of different countries, cultures, races, and philosophies. Lady Abbess ZWD

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:55:15 AM)
quote: Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? *Oh hell yeah!! Don't tell anyone but I do love to argue (read "debate") with Lam and CD... and of course there's LA.... As much as we tend to disagree I do love the intellectual discourse.* quote: Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend? *That I do... way to many to list and avoid offending someone (gotta keep that PC alive... lmao)* As far as my search having any affect on what I do or do not say? I've never really thought about it that way. But now that you mention it, there have been some that I have talked to and have recomended that they read our posts to grasp a better understanding of our thoughts and beliefs. I do use it as a tool to weed out potentials. Those that read what we have to say can generally find out whether or not we are the type of dominants they are looking for. So, no, it doesn't really effect how I write or what I say... to me, what I have to say on the forum boards is just another way to get to know my mindset... an extention of my profile... so to speak. *Jewel*

LaTigresse -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:57:25 AM)
Hello 2X!! Making me think on a Sunday afternoon after being out in the sun in the heat. Why am I here. Entertainment, gaining exposure to ideas I would not have avaliable to me easily otherwise, I learn alot...especially about myself, it's a great way to see things from other perspectives. I would say mostly its a learning experience in human nature. I find that the ones that bug me the most, teach me the most. I have only ever blocked one person simply because they were just so strongly set in their thought process and it was so personally and morally offensive to me I wanted to reach thru the monitor and strangle him. But from that I learned to block on threads![;)] I love that even with all the garbage that goes on we are able to communicate in ways that we may not if we met face to face. Quite often actually. There are pro's and con's to that. The con's are that because of the anonimity our manners tend to disappear. The pro's are that we don't let the things that some would stand in our way had we met face to face......appearance, social standing, etc. And for someone rather new to the lifestyle like myself, its a safe way to get to know people you may wish to meet face to face further on. I have a deepseated distrust of men in any arena that involves sex. For me to walk into a mixed gender gathering of people I do not know, a gathering that has such strong sexual power overtones as this lifestyle, I would never do it. BUT, now, if for instance I knew that you and Jewel and Scooter were going to be there, I would feel more comfortable because I have come to know a bit of who you are as people. Those are just the reasons I can think of right off the top of my overheated head.

Padriag -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 11:59:08 AM)
I came for the discussions. The forums were the reason I signed up at CM initially and for most of my time here have been the main reason I was a member. And while yes there are times when it seems like arguing is all anyone does, I also remember some great discussions. It comes in cycles I think. I've met people here I've gotten to be friends with. Do I rush to defend them, no, they can take care of themselves. Nor do I ask anyone to defend me, I'm quite capable of fighting my own battles (in a war of words, picking a fight with a writer is not the smartest move [;)]). Don't have any arch nemisis... frankly I don't take anything thrown at me in an online forum that serious. There have been a few that turned out to be complete flakes, one or two that started out as friends and well... its hard to say about some folks. But truthfully, while things here may be annoying for a moment, none of it is, will or can do me any harm. So I don't worry with it much. There are those those I may agree with on one issue, and disagree with on another. It isn't personal, just different perspectives. I have my beliefs and I try to back those up with reason and logic. I'd like to think that most of the time I make pretty good sense. But like anyone there are times I just completely miss the mark. It happens, and sometimes someone points out something I overlooked, a flaw in my logic, and I learn something. So why am I here... I enjoy the good stuff. The forums are, if nothing else, interesting to just watch sometimes. To observe human behavior in all its forms, quirks, strangeness, humor and tragedy. People fascinate me, always have. I don't really expect these forums to be anything other than what they are. People are going to argue, fight and defend their beliefs. At least here no one really gets hurt, its just words after all. Or as a friend of mine said about anything online,"dude, in the end its all still just 1's and 0's." Kind of puts it into perspective. But there's good things too, people sharing ideas, learning, sometimes encouraging one another, growing. It is what is... people. Why am I here... I came for all of you. Yeah, I know, I'm screwy that way. [;)]

twicehappy -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:02:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Hello 2X!! Making me think on a Sunday afternoon after being out in the sun in the heat. My apologies fair Lady, would a box of Godiva's sweeten the effort? quote: I love that even with all the garbage that goes on we are able to communicate in ways that we may not if we met face to face Me too! quote: now, if for instance I knew that you and Jewel and Scooter were going to be there, I would feel more comfortable because I have come to know a bit of who you are as people. We all thank you greatly for the compliment, you would always be safe with us. quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag .. I enjoy the good stuff. The forums are, if nothing else, interesting to just watch sometimes. To observe human behavior in all its forms, quirks, strangeness, humor and tragedy. People fascinate me, always have. I don't really expect these forums to be anything other than what they are. People are going to argue, fight and defend their beliefs. But there's good things too, people sharing ideas, learning, sometimes encouraging one another, growing. It is what is... people. Why am I here... I came for all of you. Yeah, I know, I'm screwy that way. [;)] Exactly and very well put, i enjoy it all, thank you also for this well written reply

kisshou -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:04:46 PM)
I come here and read the forums and post because it is fun. I have gotten to read viewpoints and learn from lots of knowledgable and cool people, your owners included!

juliaoceania -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:05:21 PM)
I am here to learn, discuss, and debate. I try very hard not to take things personally (sometimes very hard, but I do let things go rather easily if offended). I realize others may not be so forgiving of me, their choice. I try to stick to topic and not attack people, but challenge ideas. I am an Aries, I have a bit of the warrior in me, and I will always stick up for someone even when I probably shouldnt... and even that is impersonal to me. Why am I here? Well at first I got the link to this site because someone I met on another BDSM site recommended it to me. He thought that even if we did not end up together I would get better responses from available doms on this site rather than the one we met on. It ended up that I REALLY like him. I read his posts here, as many as I could dig up out of archives, and read them all. I liked him even more after that, and I started posting here myself. I stay posting for a few different reasons.. the most important is that it gives me ideas to discuss with the person I am seeing. He and I read this board together, and we are still learning about each other, and how many of our outlooks are very similar. This board has been a tool for me to get to know him, and how we view D/s very much the same. It has been a very valuable thing for us in addition to time we will spend in the real world getting to know each other. On Edit: Im not owned, but I do watch what I post because I would not want to shame him if people ever come to know that we are associated in some way. I do not have to monitor myself strictly, but I think twice before I post often because I know he will probably see it... being honest. He has told me that he loves to see me stick up for my ideas and that he feels I am very good at doing so, and I am a big enough person to admit when I am wrong,... which he seems to respect also.

littlelostbunny -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:16:26 PM)
I'm on the CM Boards because I wanted to learn more and to have like-minded people to talk to. I prefer forums/message boards because I can read discussions that catch my interest, and I don't get bombarded with private chat requests. I stay and keep posting because I'm used to the flames and the arguments that are often sparked in forums. I do my best to stay out of them or to avoid them being directed at me. So far, so good. [:)]

gooddogbenji -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:22:20 PM)
bunny, I just read your profile, and it has to be the cutest, most innocent profile ever, while still showing intelligence. Just thought I'd put you in the limelight for a minute. Now, back to reasons to be on here. Yours, benji

Bearlee -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:23:34 PM)
Cuz it’s too darn hot to be out in the yard just now! It’s gotta be 100 degrees out there!!! Okay…that AND the information, discussion, debate and out and out fun I have conversing with so many good people. There is a room on Alt where several many of us would chat real-time. As it turns out, several folks I know from munches in Colorado ‘visit’ this room. Unfortunately, the discussion there is generally not as ….complex? ...as here on Cm’s boards. That would be another reason I’m here. I’m fairly new on the Forums here though…and have yet to actually meet anybody face to face. Anybody going to Thunder in the Mountains next month? http://www.thunderinthemountains.com/

kyraofMists -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:25:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy Honestly now irregardless of the fact that we nitpick each other nigh to death, occasionally do our utmost to thwart our fellows whilst they attempt to foil us in return we return to the boards again and again; WHY? One of the big reasons I come here is to increase my knowledge and understanding of my Lord and alandra. I have learned a lot about him by reading his responses to threads. I gain a slightly different perspective watching his interactions with others as compared to his interactions with just me. I also enjoy the feeling of usefulness I get when a post I have written helps someone. quote: Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? No and No... I don't enjoy arguing at all. quote: Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend? There are certain posters, that I will read most of their stuff, but for the most part I don't defend anyone on here. The only ones I would defend are alandra and my Lord. They can both take care of themselves and I don't exercise the desire to defend with my Lord, but if someone were to take shots at alandra, the boards would see a different side of me ss quote: If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts? I give my own personal perspective of the life I lead and that includes the poly M/s relationship. quote: Subs/slaves do your owners moderate your posts or not? Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners? He rarely controls my posting. On a couple occasions he has told me to stay away from a thread or two and sometimes he will read something I want to post and help me clarify my thoughts. Otherwise, I am free to post whatever I wish. He knows my character so he feels no need to moderate me. Knight's kyra

LadySiraufgaube -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:26:45 PM)
I come here and read the posts daily. I don't post much usually because somone has already posted my point of view and there is no point in being redundant. I enoy the byplay between posters. There's intelligent advice given when asked for. Bullshit is quickly detected and dealt with. All in all it's an excellent forum. And I don't care what people think of my posts I call them as I see them I always have and I always will.

Littlepita -> RE: Why are we on the CM boards? (6/18/2006 12:35:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy Dueling Doms, combative subs, tussling Dommes, flaming slaves, bashing switches and all the other argumentative folks here who come to spar by bandying words expressing your opinions and expounding your hypothesis I come to ask you why? Honestly now irregardless of the fact that we nitpick each other nigh to death, occasionally do our utmost to thwart our fellows whilst they attempt to foil us in return we return to the boards again and again; WHY? I love message boards and I really like CM for it's openness and unabashed way the posters have of saying what they feel regardless of who might not like it. I also find, for the most part, the poster on CM respectful of each other's beliefs and opinions. It's the too sensitive ones that cry, "Not fair" in my opinoin. quote: Are there particular individuals you like to argue with? Beloved dire enemies you would sorely miss if they were gone? I don't much like arguing with anyone. There are those that I certainly like to watch do their stuff. It either inflames me or it entertains me. It's all good. [:)] quote: Do you have dear friends, fellow posters you always look for? That you rush to defend? I don't have dear friends here. I do have some people I really like and I make it a point to always read their post when I see them. I wouldn't rush to defend necessarily, but I would post my opinion if I felt I had something to add. Or if I just felt like it. quote: If in a relationship or looking for one I want to ask HOW? How and to what degree does that fact color your posts? I was in my relationship when I joined CM so it doesn't factor in at all, I think. quote: Subs/slaves do your owners moderate your posts or not? Do you feel free to come here and state your thoughts freely as long as you bring no dishonor to your owners? No he doesn't moderate my post. He completely trust me to say whatever I want and knows I will always respect him and our relationship. I do often send him links to the post I have posted on if I think he will be interested in them. He recently joined CM himself and has been posting too. I love having him here!

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