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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 12:05:02 PM

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For some, it might be to help the sub get through the pain by giving them something to focus on. Especially if there is a set number to be doled out, so the sub knows how much more is to come.

Counting works especially well with caning. I take take more pain when I know the end point.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 12:08:47 PM

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Master uses it as an excuse to start over when I inevitably fuck up the count.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 6:25:58 PM

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According to a Russian study on breaking addiction using corporeal punishment, the endorphins kick in right about 40 strokes with a cane.

On a side note, it turned out to be fairly effective in breaking addictions - problem was, the subjects became addicted to caning.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 8:53:12 PM

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For findommes, it's for tax purposes.

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I second this ^^^

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 9:09:53 PM

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There are a number of reasons, so if you want the sub to count or you want to be made to count, pick one that fits you!

As mentioned, it can be a way to keep the sub focused and not allow floating into subspace, because if the dominant is paying attention (which they ought to be doing) it is easy to recognize the sub losing focus as they lose the count.

If you make them count strokes without telling them how many there will be, you can watch the sub anticipating a stop as one approaches 10's, 20's, 50's, etc. Then they may despair a little when it does not stop. A sadist may enjoy this. It works quite well when the sub is blindfolded and can not anticipate which stroke will be hard and heavy, which stingy, which soft and silky.

Mindfuckery can be fun to give and to get.

If you tell them 10 strokes, but neglect to tell them 10 with each toy I choose to use, the sub may get angry and struggle.

If the sub is a heavy masochist, he or she may push into the last few numbered strokes with a toy t5o get the most out of it.

And of course making them count is another way of making them obey.

There are LOTS of other reasons we could use.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 9:25:05 PM

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According to a Russian study on breaking addiction using corporeal punishment, the endorphins kick in right about 40 strokes with a cane.

On a side note, it turned out to be fairly effective in breaking addictions - problem was, the subjects became addicted to caning.

If it is so - then why is it not used more???

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/12/2013 9:55:23 PM

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Personally, I dislike the count protocol as it impacts my enjoyment of the scene as well. She may go into subspace, I may go into a Domspace version as well.
Practicing the protocol keeps me in a stronger mental control of the event as I am required to focus more. Others have stated several good reasons for the procedure.

Doing it is common by many in the group play parties that I participate in. I do agree that doing something to make the target loose count can be part of a fun game.
I have not observed this in most of the porn that I watch that flogs or spanks.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 4:40:00 AM

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Master uses it as an excuse to start over when I inevitably fuck up the count.

This.
And I like to have her say something like, "Thank you Sir, may this slut please have another?"
Which I simply adore.
Why?
Because I like making her ask to be harmed, even though she hates it. I like the littlegirl tone of voice she gets, the way she whines and begs and moans. I like the power it gives, watching her wrestle between her hatred for taking pain (Especially with canes and belts)and her desire to please, her need for absolution. I like setting her at war with herself, trapping her between the nonmaso who loathes hurting and the slave who craves/ needs/wants/desires, to be taken to places she wouldn't go alone, that she would never willingly undertake. I like the ownership involved in that. I like the inherent contradictions, the dualities. I like watching her inner sluttiness, her need to be taken, overcome her physicality and give way to the counting, the asking.
Yeah-that shit turns me on. Hard n lots.
Makes me want to hit her harder the next time, do something that's gonna leave marks for weeks, that's gonna make her hate me, make her wrestle that much harder, succumb to her slutslaveself.
Of course, I would never taunt her throughout her selfconflict. I would never ever pile on, push those hot buttons, do those things that set her off.
Nono.
Not me.
Not our innocent little Kana.

I like hurting her.
She hates it. But she needs it.
And this one little comment, it cuts to the heart of everything. Slavery itself.

So yeah, I like it.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 8:27:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: ViborgHerre

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According to a Russian study on breaking addiction using corporeal punishment, the endorphins kick in right about 40 strokes with a cane.

On a side note, it turned out to be fairly effective in breaking addictions - problem was, the subjects became addicted to caning.

If it is so - then why is it not used more???

I ran across it fairly recently, it was a study, not a mainstream therapy, nor will it likely ever become one here, since it's not in the form of pharmaceutical among other things.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 8:29:18 AM

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http://www.news-medical.net/news/2005/03/29/8788.aspx

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 9:06:57 AM

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And I like to have her say something like, "Thank you Sir, may this slut please have another?"
Which I simply adore.
Why?
Because I like making her ask to be harmed, even though she hates it. I like the littlegirl tone of voice she gets, the way she whines and begs and moans. I like the power it gives, watching her wrestle between her hatred for taking pain (Especially with canes and belts)and her desire to please, her need for absolution. I like setting her at war with herself, trapping her between the nonmaso who loathes hurting and the slave who craves/ needs/wants/desires, to be taken to places she wouldn't go alone, that she would never willingly undertake. I like the ownership involved in that. I like the inherent contradictions, the dualities. I like watching her inner sluttiness, her need to be taken, overcome her physicality and give way to the counting, the asking.
Yeah-that shit turns me on. Hard n lots.
Makes me want to hit her harder the next time, do something that's gonna leave marks for weeks, that's gonna make her hate me, make her wrestle that much harder, succumb to her slutslaveself.
Of course, I would never taunt her throughout her selfconflict. I would never ever pile on, push those hot buttons, do those things that set her off.
Nono.
Not me.
Not our innocent little Kana.

I like hurting her.
She hates it. But she needs it.
And this one little comment, it cuts to the heart of everything. Slavery itself.

So yeah, I like it.

This is not only awesomely fap-worthy, but it sums up exactly my relationship with Master (although I am a maso, unlike LW)

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 9:08:37 AM

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According to a Russian study on breaking addiction using corporeal punishment, the endorphins kick in right about 40 strokes with a cane.

On a side note, it turned out to be fairly effective in breaking addictions - problem was, the subjects became addicted to caning.

40? I'm lucky if I can get past 5 of Master's hits.

I am soooo a wimp anymore. When I was young I could take 40 and more. So wish I was young again.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 10:20:17 AM

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According to a Russian study on breaking addiction using corporeal punishment, the endorphins kick in right about 40 strokes with a cane.

On a side note, it turned out to be fairly effective in breaking addictions - problem was, the subjects became addicted to caning.

40? I'm lucky if I can get past 5 of Master's hits. I am soooo a wimp anymore. When I was young I could take 40 and more. So wish I was young again.

In fairness though, I hit real hard.
As in break the skin, make it bleed sorta.
And that's the warmup. What comes after...

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 10:21:03 AM

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 11:09:04 AM

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oh. my.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 3:36:49 PM

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When I slap her tits, I make her count by twos!

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 4:54:44 PM

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40? I'm lucky if I can get past 5 of Master's hits. I am soooo a wimp anymore. When I was young I could take 40 and more. So wish I was young again.

Owe. I always say I am a wimp but then my husband reminds me that I walked around for a day and a half with a ruptured colon then peritonitis. Well in my defense it hurt like hell but I thought it was a bladder infection and I wanted to wait for the doctors office to open. Only when I spiked a 106 fever did I start to wonder if it was more then a simple bladder infection. I still say I am a wimp. I whine over a paper cut.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 5:50:08 PM

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Hysterical, counting boobs as two LOL but that's milking it, Agent.

And so well thought-out . ahh . too.

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/13/2013 7:24:19 PM

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I just hate that I haven't always been a wimp. I was as masochistic as they probably come when I was in my late 20's to mid 30's. After not playing for so many years after breaking up with my ex Dom, I just stopped playing altogether since I was in fix-up mode and wanting a real committed loving relationship.

Now I'm starting out from scratch and in my 40's. It sucks. The body just ain't as tough at this age!

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RE: Why is it so common to have the spankee count out t... - 1/14/2013 5:09:03 AM

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I just hate that I haven't always been a wimp. I was as masochistic as they probably come when I was in my late 20's to mid 30's. After not playing for so many years after breaking up with my ex Dom, I just stopped playing altogether since I was in fix-up mode and wanting a real committed loving relationship.

Now I'm starting out from scratch and in my 40's. It sucks. The body just ain't as tough at this age!

Oh I hear you. There was a time I was tough as nails and hardly anything phased me. I am only in my late 30's and not only am I a wimp but I get all weepy over things I never used to before. I hate crying. I used to be able to hold my breath to fight off pain or getting all weepy. It doesn't work anymore. >.<

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