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RE: Lengths gone to in the name of safety? - 6/20/2006 7:03:26 AM

crouchingtigress

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yeah...i just go on my intuition, its not for everybody, but for me I can usually tell who a person is by their energy with in seconds of meeting them.

I think we all have this ability, I am surprised more of us dont cultivate it...i have only been harmed 3 times in my life, all three were when I went against my gut, and i have never been harmed when trusting it.

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RE: Lengths gone to in the name of safety? - 6/20/2006 8:31:40 AM

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yeah...i just go on my intuition, its not for everybody, but for me I can usually tell who a person is by their energy with in seconds of meeting them.

I think we all have this ability, I am surprised more of us dont cultivate it...i have only been harmed 3 times in my life, all three were when I went against my gut, and i have never been harmed when trusting it.

You're right, I think we do all have this ability, it's just a matter of tuning in to it and learning to listen to it and trust in it. I can't count the number of times that I have given that advice to others.....listen to that inner voice.

Like you, the times in my life that I have been hurt were the times that I ignored that voice. There has only been one time that I have ever been hurt when I listened to it and I am sure that listening to it saved me from a worse fate than what ultimately happened.

I met a Dominant who I had been speaking with for some time in a public place. There were no clues or red flags from our conversations but the very instant that my butt hit the seat in the restaurant and I looked in that man's eyes I knew. I have a gift when it comes to reading people and it only took one glance in his eyes to tell me that he was not anyone that I wanted any type of interaction with. I explained that I didn't think we were a match and politely thanked him for his time. As I stood to leave he grabbed my forearm....hard enough to make bruises. He let me go when I explained to him in no uncertain terms that it would be in his best interest to do so. When I got in my car I was shaking. I left and got about 10 blocks and was sitting at a stop sign when he rear ended me at about 45 miles an hour. I spent the next month off of work recovering from my injuries.....but I am certain that had I not listened to that voice and actually gone with that man I would have been at risk for something much more serious.

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RE: Lengths gone to in the name of safety? - 6/20/2006 9:08:05 AM

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Mistoferin, There is an easy way to meet people and have a little more trust. Ask for a picture copy of their drivers license before meeting them. Especially if your female and your the submissive, and they are male, or a couple. If they refuse then maybe you do not have the trust you thought you did to go and meet. This is especially true if your travelling to someplace thats more than 4 hrs away from you.
Even if they give you a fake one, or someone elses. It can really help the police track someone down.

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RE: Lengths gone to in the name of safety? - 6/20/2006 9:09:34 AM

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Mistoferin, There is an easy way to meet people and have a little more trust. Ask for a picture copy of their drivers license before meeting them. Especially if your female and your the submissive, and they are male, or a couple. If they refuse then maybe you do not have the trust you thought you did to go and meet. This is especially true if your travelling to someplace thats more than 4 hrs away from you.
Even if they give you a fake one, or someone elses. It can really help the police track someone down.

I'm with Owned and Crappy on this.

If I THINK I'm going to need the police later, I simply won't meet.

If I think there's a risk, I won't take it.

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RE: Lengths gone to in the name of safety? - 6/20/2006 9:35:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lafiel
Mistoferin, There is an easy way to meet people and have a little more trust. Ask for a picture copy of their drivers license before meeting them. Especially if your female and your the submissive, and they are male, or a couple. If they refuse then maybe you do not have the trust you thought you did to go and meet. This is especially true if your travelling to someplace thats more than 4 hrs away from you.
Even if they give you a fake one, or someone elses. It can really help the police track someone down.

I disagree. Having his driver's license wouldn't have made a hill of beans difference....and besides...the police got a copy of it at the accident scene anyhow

. But it wouldn't have changed my decision to meet him or not. Having a photo of someone and some identifying numbers is not a failsafe. It may help point the authorities in the right direction after the fact....but it does nothing to change the factor of safety or lack thereof of meeting someone.

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