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Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles & sent in CMail?


I am a GUY: I WANT to see naked pictures in the profiles!
  37% (60)
I am a GUY: I do NOT want to see naked pictures in the profiles.
  9% (15)
I am a GAL: I WANT to see naked pictures in the profiles!
  9% (15)
I am a GAL: I do NOT want to see naked pictures in the profiles.
  43% (68)


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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/1/2013 7:35:29 AM   
Pyramus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Comparing a low cut evening gown to somebody's naked ass or a cock shot? Damn! That's just plain out funny.


I agree the graphic is different - but consider this dichotomy, by sitting at a bench in a typical shopping mall (warm clime such as where I live):
a) The men will invariably be casually dressed in jeans or slacks, t-shirts or button-downs or polos, i.e., no skin to speak of will be showing
b) The women will vary hugely, however quite a few will have as much thigh showing as they can possibly show, and as much breast as possible without getting arrested. Certainly you'll see plenty of skin.

The amount of skin shown will likely be inversely proportional to maturity, but even the more mature women may add a slit to the longer hemlines so as to show a sliver of skin upon each step (which, I admit, keeps a man's attention upon her merely for the chance of "more skin").

All this is healthy advertising. Women do it from the time they enter high school to when it no longer works for them (or they no longer need it ... I don't actually know 'what' stops them). But trust me, we men notice you women, and we certainly notice a plunging neckline and a woman sitting down who is forced to cross her legs to keep our prying eyes away from where she hides the jewels.

So, what strikes me is the striking inconsistency of women not wanting to see male genitalia in a fetish forum or elsewhere (which we can presume is a given at this point of this thread), yet, with very many women teasing we clearly gullible men with myriad purposeful hints of their genitalia all the time, both in day to day life (where we men do not stoop to that level) and in the fetish forums (where we men apparently overdo it, in spades).

I wish I had a better vocabulary which could define this strikingly obvious conundrum better.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
We're not stimulated visually to the degree that you are.


This is likely to be the crux of the matter.
Men, in general, do not promote (or falsely enhance) their genitalia for women to plainly see (e.g., I pick a mall as a common example above) while women, clearly do hint (and enhance) their genitalia just so men can see it (I don't believe for a second that 'women-do-it-for-the-women' ... but that could be the topic of a different thread).

And this male restraint clearly transcends my mall example.
a. At work, you rarely see man skin (and where women are more restrained themselves from offering their genitalia to purview)
b. At school, you'll not often see man skin (here is where women are vastly less restrained, freely offering their skin for all to enjoy)
c. College wrestlers don't even show off a lot of man skin (whereas that's all cheerleaders really do)

So where is all this un-restraint by males happening?

It's here on the forum.
Why?

More specifically, since males show extreme restraint in almost all aspects of their lives in NOT showing their genitalia (as compared to women, see above argument), why, then does all that respectful restraint suddenly disappear the moment some males get onto a fetish web site?

That's a question worth pondering (versus the medical school conundrum)!

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/1/2013 7:40:46 AM   
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Perhaps part of the lack of male restraint here is "I'm opening up myself in ways I can't in the vanilla world, by admitting my needs", so they also extend that new found freedom to the physical.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/1/2013 9:22:55 AM   
ladysekhmetka


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I need to clarify my reasoning. I don't want the first pic I see to be a cock shot or something like it. Your main profile pic, in my humble opinion, should be clothed, even if it's a risque set of clothing. If I want to see nekkid pics, I can go sorting through your other pics on your profile

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/1/2013 9:16:13 PM   
LadyPact


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I apologize for not quoting but I think I can address some points without the need.

Pyramus, thank you for admitting that men notice women. While I appreciate your intent, this is nothing that we women don't know. I've said it for years. I don't need to be the youngest, prettiest, most scantily clad chick out there. A woman with confidence and style can turn heads anywhere.

Do I wear clothes that accentuate My figure? Yes. I *like* jeans that form to My hips. I wear shoes that tone My calves. I'm a button down shirt kind of gal and it's not closed to My throat. Audrie Hepburn was completely right in saying that every woman should own that little black dress. Best fashion advice that anyone can ever have.

You asked why this is different between the genders. I'll tell you why. Not only is it the way that the genders differentiate is how our sex appeal works. Most men honestly don't know what it is like to be sexually appealing from a glance. To us women, it's as common place as saying we are thirsty and going to the tap for water. For most men, the well is dry all of their lives. You just don't have the same experiences that we do in this area. Oh, many men want it. In fact, they crave it. You may spend years trying to find it. It happens to Me when I make a run to the grocery store.

On a past post somewhere, there is an excellent article that goes into this in detail. If you will remind Me tomorrow, I will be happy to look for it.

In the meantime, there are two males under My roof who know what it is like to enjoy being sexually devoured. I believe I'll be distracted this evening.


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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/2/2013 5:25:13 AM   
Cilicia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Most men honestly don't know what it is like to be sexually appealing from a glance. To us women, it's as common place as saying we are thirsty and going to the tap for water. For most men, the well is dry all of their lives. You just don't have the same experiences that we do in this area. Oh, many men want it. In fact, they crave it. You may spend years trying to find it. It happens to Me when I make a run to the grocery store.


This is revealingly true. We men don't even know what the experience is - and - even though we may crave the attention - we'd fail to obtain it - no matter what we tried (unless, of course, we were professional athletes or senators).

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/2/2013 5:33:51 AM   
usemetopleaseyou


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I think everyone took my concise summary too directly.
Softened and weakened, the difference is:
Women are advertising their bodies all the time.
Men are only advertising their bodies here.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/2/2013 6:01:54 PM   
littlewonder


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and you'd be wrong.

Ever see a man who knows how to work a suit? Who works out at the gym? Who takes care of himself? Knows how to use body products to make himself look nice?

You don't think those men only show their bodies here? I can tell you that the men I am attracted to know exactly what they are doing in the real world with their bodies and the clothing they are wearing or not wearing.

Imo, the men who need to show off their nude bodies here or anyone for that fact, says that they are probably socially inept and that the only thing they are interested in is getting laid.


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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/2/2013 7:13:28 PM   
DesFIP


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It's 21 degrees out and snowing. We just went to the hardware store and the grocery store. I'm in sweat pants, heavy wool socks and two shirts plus a sweater. Hat, gloves and zippered coat with hood up.

I can't imagine what this picture would be used to advertise except a trip to Florida.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/3/2013 7:08:33 AM   
LaTigresse


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That sounds like my weekend attire of late.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/3/2013 5:20:28 PM   
littlewonder


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Same here except the one weird day last week when it was 75 degrees and then the very next night it snowed. WTF???


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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/3/2013 10:16:38 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Level
Just say no to (black) crack!
Wait just a minute!!! I resemble that remark.



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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/4/2013 3:52:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level
Just say no to (black) crack!
Wait just a minute!!! I resemble that remark.




There are always exceptions to the rule :-)

Long time no see!

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/4/2013 5:51:16 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Yes hello. It has been a long time. M

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/5/2013 8:33:35 PM   
Nelee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: usemetopleaseyou

I think everyone took my concise summary too directly.
Softened and weakened, the difference is:
Women are advertising their bodies all the time.
Men are only advertising their bodies here.


Women aren't necessarily advertising their bodies all the time as much as men are noticing their bodies all the time.

But that was just a response to your original statement. In general, the above could be said for both genders and/or sexes.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/5/2013 10:24:00 PM   
mons


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usemetopleaseyou

What is the "old joke about black people we are to remember?

Tell me this one, and what does it have to do with this subject of this post?

Oh it is the one about (how black men are large in that area, it is not true all of the time, but I may be wrong
is it that joke???????

It is insensitive to to even write something like that!!!!! Did you know this?

Mons (or did I miss the punch line )

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/6/2013 11:58:57 AM   
Subano


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mons
What is the "old joke about black people we are to remember?


I think it's the fact they all look the same if you don't care to get to know them.

Women treat cock the same way, I think was the point.

However, if we're all really thinking, then let's think about this.

Women (for the most part) say they care about the PERSON and not the body part.

Yet ... ask this question of those very same women?

Do you date short guys?

I can tell you what the answer will be - and it will NOT (for the most part) be what they said in this thread.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/6/2013 12:14:28 PM   
littlewonder


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I care about body parts. I won't date a short man. I won't date a heavy man. I won't date a man with missing limbs. That's just me. But when it comes to sexual organs, I don't want to see it until we have sex. If during sex I find it repulsive then I will have to ask myself just how much I like this person and can I overlook it. Most times I'm not going to overlook it and I will move on. Have I done that in the past? Yup, I have.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/6/2013 12:51:21 PM   
usemetopleaseyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nelee
Women aren't necessarily advertising their bodies all the time as much as men are noticing their bodies all the time.


This is very true, for when women aren't advertising their bodies, such as when they're just going out for a stroll or dropping the kids off at school.
Men are always on the hunt, at all times of the day or night - noticing such women at the supermarket or even driving next to them in a tall truck.

However ... women DO advertise their bodies way way way way way way way more than men ever do.

Just stand in a mall and look around you - or worse yet - go to a dance club. Or, even worse - teach at a high school.

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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/6/2013 12:53:43 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nelee
Women aren't necessarily advertising their bodies all the time as much as men are noticing their bodies all the time.

Excellent point.



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RE: Do you WANT to see NEKKED pictures in the profiles ... - 2/6/2013 2:23:06 PM   
pompeii


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I definitely notice women, and SOME of them are definitely advertising.

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