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ORIGINAL: carmenelektra

so lets say such in such goes to my profile, looks at my pics, than messages me saying nobody wants to see my ass hanging out of my shorts, they tell me I will get my ass hauled to jail and bounced out of the bar, that no man will want me, that I will never be a woman and am a poor example of one.

they follow up with the reply that they have taken my pics and will post them to other sites, and everyone will know where to find me

so lets say there is a forum where I can quote my messages, and comment,

what if one hundred other users post the same thing

what if the administrators see this, look at the account and find they are simple a troll and determine they are against the rules?

where is the harm or damage in that.

Hell if its not allowed in the forums that rule should apply to messages as well. It does not as far as I can tell

sure someone can have multiple account but it will be easy to see the same style over and over,

and again, there is no need to ban the person, its just a place to comment and review, if the rule applies in the forum wtih tens of thousands of posts, it should apply for a few emails that are easily flagged

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ORIGINAL: TheLilSquaw

I speak my mind all the time.
So do many other posters here.

The honest truth can / is often an attack on the person.

I will use my example again. (again this is just an example I have never meet DS)

"Dark Steven and I meet and he was a total jerk and his feet smelled like he just walked through a warm cow pie."

That is a personal attack and based on MY personal opinion of not only his foot odor but his personality. So it totally biased.

Yes, someone else could post up a rebutal to my post.
But I could also make 100s of socks and post up negative reviews.

It happens ALL the time with online reviews.
Look how easily people make sock accounts and simply write negative reviews to make a person / business look bad.
Or vice versa, make sock accounts to make themselves look good.

AGAIN there are ways to discuss your personal experiences with individuals without violating the rules of the site.

I would also suggest, if you do nothing but post every negative interaction you have including names. People will simply not contact you period. They would be afraid that you MIGHT write something negative about them, even it is only a personal perception of the event(s).

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Oh for the love of pete YOU CAN NOT TATTLE teacher doesn't care who took your cookies & called you names!!
If you look in profiles & email there is an option to hide/block
THIS is how you fix the nasty emails

If you were foolish enough to give pictures especially naked ones to some random guy on the net, these are the consequences. Kink doesn't make men more honorable, more respectable...too many times its the opposite ESPECIALLY from those that demand pics & naked cam shows(which usually get recorded)

You should also be aware that forum posts are perminant, thus anyone looking to date you can pull up this thread at any time...think about that

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This issue comes up so often in posts by new members that we felt it necessary to make a special post about this one issue. To be sure, there are all kinds of people in the world and, given that we (like other public websites) don't have the ability to dictate who joins our website, you will meet all kinds of people here; some very nice (like yourself), some not so much. It is perhaps for this reason that new users are wont to post about their bad experiences with this or that person or even come up with the very original idea of making a list of all the "bad" users on the site. As has been recounted countless times, the fundamental flaw with this idea is not that it is ill intended, it is that there is not, nor can there be, any fact checking of such claims.

If you still believe that blacklists are a good idea then consider the following thought experiment. Suppose that someone made up a malicious and horrible lie about you and posted it to a blacklist on the forum. Would you want us to take it down after you informed us of your innocence or would you be fine with us leaving it up despite your most impassioned pleas that the facts alleged about you were false? It is a pretty safe bet that you would want those false claims removed in a hurry. Now let us suppose that true claims are posted about a real jerk attesting to what a jerk he is. Further suppose that this jerk approaches us with the same passion you did, demanding that the true assertions about him are false and must be remove immediately. Both you and the other user come to us claiming passionately to be innocent but which one are we to believe? When you know the answer to that question, you will know why blacklists are not permitted.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Oh for the love of pete YOU CAN NOT TATTLE teacher doesn't care who took your cookies & called you names!!
If you look in profiles & email there is an option to hide/block
THIS is how you fix the nasty emails

If you were foolish enough to give pictures especially naked ones to some random guy on the net, these are the consequences. Kink doesn't make men more honorable, more respectable...too many times its the opposite ESPECIALLY from those that demand pics & naked cam shows(which usually get recorded)

You should also be aware that forum posts are perminant, thus anyone looking to date you can pull up this thread at any time...think about that

Actually, it's permanent [:)]

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ORIGINAL: carmenelektra

thanks for the comments, its a bit clumsy finding ones way,

some points are real valid and on this page, they seem on point vs the first page where people seemed to think I want to block or ban other people.

I am not on www.myredbook.com but that is a site that has reviews that say anything and are not taken down, maybe some are but check out the forums, if I was to meet a person from myredbook, I would definitely read the forum before hooking up.

intelligent people can make intelligent choices,

as far as abuse, where is the thick skin I am told I am too have, seriously, some negative reviews will destroy a person, will destroy a hot dom or a very hot sub?

everybody will have negative reviews because they can not possibly meet everyone hence it will never work?

someone will get negative reviews based on an exact quote of what they say, I am not even speaking of my opinion of the person, of course I can say they are ugly, did not have a face book or clear photo on their profile, hence its ugly jealousy, and if the quote of their words agree with my opinion of said person, I am sure all you people will point out if I am right or wrong, as you have done in this thread.

do you see me getting huffy and puffy, no, the person does not bother me, not at all, sure he/she/it made me a bit pissed, I am human, we all are, but I am over it/she/he. But my anger would not define a peer review by all of you, all of you are obviously more intelligent than I, have more experience in this lifestyle, hence the intelligent review would be yours, not mine.

anyhow, I am new to this site but not to life, I carry myself well and am complimented where ever I go, and I do get jerks who make the rudest comments, dumb small people, who are really dumb, ,bigots really.

what do you people think of bigotry, I run across it all the time, and the bigots are not complimenting me, they are stereotyping me, they are insulting and ugly, bigots are the people who were the KKK, its human nature, bigots were the Nazis, human nature. Bigots exist in all people and I had a bigoted response in my message box.

I can not share that with anyone here, if there was a way, it would be the community that would identify the bigot.

So you have a bigot, which is a dangerous person, to themselves as well as to maybe a person they meet here, and nobody wants to know, nobody thinks bigots are actually a really threat?

I am new here but honestly I see a lot of users that are much newer than I at the experience of life.

yes, make up a scenario of "how would you like it", no need, I am on another site where the comments stand, I am more than articulate and intelligent enough to handle the negative comments, besides, I am an Angel, everyone can see that from my photos, and if I find a nice daddy dom to take control of me, he will take control of my profile as well and most likely comment on what a sweet, innocent, devilish, angel I am for my super hot daddy dom.

seriously, how would I like it, I would love it, it would be so fun to expose the bigots, its too easy for an intelligent person such as I, seems I should be the dom of all of you who are crying, "but what if they are mean a lot of times", "it would ruin me",

It can only ruin a weak, fake, not a peer community reviewed member in good standing.

so lets just let the bigots off the hook, me, I know they are out here and I know I must be protected from them.

guys meeting me meet me at a club, I will be in my 5" heels, a towering angel, all the cameras in the club will catch me, the bartenders know me, the bouncers know me, girls and guys at the club know me, I am protected from the bigot,

If mods read this and it makes sense for the business model of this site, they can add a peer reviewed forum, I can not see how it does not make complete sense.

But I guess some people can not stand on their own merit or are just too weak. Who knows.

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Oh for the love of pete YOU CAN NOT TATTLE teacher doesn't care who took your cookies & called you names!!
If you look in profiles & email there is an option to hide/block
THIS is how you fix the nasty emails

If you were foolish enough to give pictures especially naked ones to some random guy on the net, these are the consequences. Kink doesn't make men more honorable, more respectable...too many times its the opposite ESPECIALLY from those that demand pics & naked cam shows(which usually get recorded)

You should also be aware that forum posts are perminant, thus anyone looking to date you can pull up this thread at any time...think about that

Actually, it's permanent [:)]

Always there to help[:)]

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ORIGINAL: TheLilSquaw

Did you READ why the link explaining why they do not black list? That explains the site owners stance on this subject and why they take the stance they do.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1163969/tm.htm

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This issue comes up so often in posts by new members that we felt it necessary to make a special post about this one issue. To be sure, there are all kinds of people in the world and, given that we (like other public websites) don't have the ability to dictate who joins our website, you will meet all kinds of people here; some very nice (like yourself), some not so much. It is perhaps for this reason that new users are wont to post about their bad experiences with this or that person or even come up with the very original idea of making a list of all the "bad" users on the site. As has been recounted countless times, the fundamental flaw with this idea is not that it is ill intended, it is that there is not, nor can there be, any fact checking of such claims.

If you still believe that blacklists are a good idea then consider the following thought experiment. Suppose that someone made up a malicious and horrible lie about you and posted it to a blacklist on the forum. Would you want us to take it down after you informed us of your innocence or would you be fine with us leaving it up despite your most impassioned pleas that the facts alleged about you were false? It is a pretty safe bet that you would want those false claims removed in a hurry. Now let us suppose that true claims are posted about a real jerk attesting to what a jerk he is. Further suppose that this jerk approaches us with the same passion you did, demanding that the true assertions about him are false and must be remove immediately. Both you and the other user come to us claiming passionately to be innocent but which one are we to believe? When you know the answer to that question, you will know why blacklists are not permitted.

Did you READ anything anyone that other's wrote to you?
It's been explained to you a dozen different ways.



If you think NEGATIVE reviews don't hurt businesses or people, you are truly fooling yourself.
Online reviews destroy businesses every day.
And not because they can't stand on their own merit but because people see a negative review and RUN many times.
Regardless of if the review was truthful or not.


This site DOES protect you from bigots.
They gave you a block and delete button.
They also gave you a report button.

Use those tools or it on you.

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Oh for the love of pete YOU CAN NOT TATTLE teacher doesn't care who took your cookies & called you names!!
If you look in profiles & email there is an option to hide/block
THIS is how you fix the nasty emails

If you were foolish enough to give pictures especially naked ones to some random guy on the net, these are the consequences. Kink doesn't make men more honorable, more respectable...too many times its the opposite ESPECIALLY from those that demand pics & naked cam shows(which usually get recorded)

You should also be aware that forum posts are perminant, thus anyone looking to date you can pull up this thread at any time...think about that

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

That actually is seeming like you...the last word part. A lot of posters have given you great advice. None of which seems to satisfy you. Which is cool. Do you. But don't expect people to jump on your bandwagon.

As far as thinking your unsafe bc of what some one has said to you over the Internet, makes you sound like a drama queen, pardon the expression. Just hit ignore, the person will move on to someone else. Or he will make a new profile and continue to fuck with you. The great thing about that button is, there is no limit to how many times you hit it.

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ORIGINAL: carmenelektra


I am not talking about an online review of this "business" I am talking about a review of a bigot, do you believe a simple block or report button protects you and all is perfectly safe, if so your naive.

I posted my opinion, are you of such that you just have to have the last word.

be a bit open-minded, I am not attacking the "business", a simple review of a user, that is all.