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sexyred1 -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 1:42:45 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kdsub

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ORIGINAL: Level

This site is seen by many, if not most, as sexual in nature. Many males thus think the women here won't mind, or want to "share" the male's sexuality.



Level I'm a glutton for punishment but... this is so true and it's amazing that many, otherwise intelligent, women here on CM can't at least understand this and be tolerant. Just as we as men are expected to decipher the minds of women on this site so should women make the same effort. Instead they spend an inordinate amount of time complaining as if this will change the nature of men.

All and all I believe men try far harder to please women on this site then women men. We are different creatures with different needs and we feel the world with different emotions.

Lets just check back on these kinds of threads…who is bitching over and over…bitch bitch bitch. The only choice for women is learn to understand us and help us understand you or spend useless lives waiting for the perfect man that dresses as they like….watches the correct television programming…enjoys chick flicks…and never looks at porn.

Butch


Very interesting comments.

I will explain, for me, how this works:

I am one of the intelligent women you mention. I perfectly understand why men persist in posting cock shots. I really do understand. Do I need to be "tolerant" as you stated? Not really. Why? Well, for one thing, I would never report a guy who sends a cock shot. Second, I have preferences to the type of man I am seeking and one of those preferences is that he understands that not all women care to see a disembodied cock before even saying hello.

I only complain about this when I reply to threads, so I don't see it as inordinately complaining, nor do I start threads about this topic. I find it is mostly men who start threads about why they cannot meet a woman and invariably, you find cock shots in the profile.

Next, you say that men are expected to "decipher the minds of women on this site". I don't expect men, in general to do anything other than be civil, interesting, and smart. If someone approaches me, I don't expect him to make any generalizations about me as a woman; if he is indeed interested, I will let him know about how MY mind works; he does not have to be responsible for knowing how ALL women's minds on a site works.

You are being somewhat vague in stating that you are different creatures than women and you feel the world through different emotions. Uh, we all see the world differently. I do not believe that any woman expects to meet a "perfect man" and vice versa; otherwise you are bound to fail. No one is perfect.

You said the only choice left to women is to understand men and help men understand us.

Fine, but that will never get accomplished on a macro basis; it can only be accomplished, one on one through communication.


And to me, any type of meaningful communication is truncated if someone sends a cock shot.




TAFKAA -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 2:00:25 PM)

Too long - you're guilty of overanalysing.

Men peacock their personalities because this is what attracts women and while they're looking in the outside world, they'll do so with the possibility of having her as a regular fuck-buddy, a friend, a girlfriend or even a serious relationship.

Online, when a man shows his cock, it's because he wants to attract a dirty slut he can fuck and forget about. You can sure as shit bet he's not looking for a girl he can take home to meet mama.



thishereboi -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 2:04:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: usemetopleaseyou

It's simple.
Women are whores all the time.
Men are only whores here.


That's amazingly offensive.



I wonder if he realizes that a lot of potential dommes will read his forum posts before considering him.



thishereboi -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 2:13:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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There is no question that such a pic likely reduces their probability of finding a match - but it doesn't reduce it to zero.


Their chances could have been zero to start with. I think an element of certain men's thinking, that people sometimes ignore on this subject, is that of 'What have I got to lose? To hell with it, I might just as well do what turns *me* on.'


I often do think there is a huge exhibitionist quality to those pics that has much more to do with making themselves happy through self-expression than it does with trying to attract anyone. (maybe this is why - men feel too restricted in real life to let it all hang out so they overindulge in online cock shots??)

Oh, and p.s. while I really don't find cock shots attractive, it simply must be said that chest shots of men are an entirely different thing. Yes, indeed.






I think you might be right on the exhibitionist part at least for a lot of them.

Obviously as a lesbian I don't find cock shots attractive, but I also don't like seeing a vagina wide open on my screen either. I would rather get to know the person before I see them nude. There was one domme who had as her main profile pic a shot of her ass as she pegged some guy from the rear. I had to block her because it was down right nauseating.  



evesgrden -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 2:18:13 PM)

"Women are whores all the time"

Do you know how many guys there are who wish you were right about that?


"Men are only whores here"

and...

Do you know how many women there are who wish you were right about THAT?.


Now run along little boy. You're out of your league.




SomethingCatchy -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 2:23:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

Too long - you're guilty of overanalysing.

Men peacock their personalities because this is what attracts women and while they're looking in the outside world, they'll do so with the possibility of having her as a regular fuck-buddy, a friend, a girlfriend or even a serious relationship.

Online, when a man shows his cock, it's because he wants to attract a dirty slut he can fuck and forget about. You can sure as shit bet he's not looking for a girl he can take home to meet mama.

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online


This is what I thought because this has been my experience. If someone feels that the can express themselves freely online, I don't care, but it's clear that when someone puts up a picture of their penis or vagina or a gaping anus that their 'expression' is 'I want to get laid. Please, I'm desperate.'



OsideGirl -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 2:27:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Second, I have preferences to the type of man I am seeking and one of those preferences is that he understands that not all women care to see a disembodied cock before even saying hello.


Exactly. The same goes for vaginas or tits in my inbox. I view those people as socially inept, and therefore, I'm not interested in dealing with them



thracia -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 2:50:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

I think the crux of the issue is still why heterosexual men use their genitalia to attempt to attract women when most women find genital pics distasteful


I think the crux of the issue is this but I do not have the answer to the question:

I think the crux of the issue is still why heterosexual men use their genitalia to attempt to attract women when those very same heterosexual men don't lead with their genitalia in real life?



subinsilicon -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 2:58:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I think an element of certain men's thinking, that people sometimes ignore on this subject, is that of 'What have I got to lose?


It's the same reason a bunch of construction workers whistle at a short skirt skipping by.

They've nothing to lose - and maybe - just maybe - a teeny tiny chance she'll respond positively - and they'll get a date.

Just like shooting into a flock of birds when they're startled and about to get away en masse - man is ALWAYS a hunter who uses his tool to obtain his prey!



asiansubmissie -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 3:03:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
I think a lot of people on the site, both male and female, feel desexualized in real life, and hope that CM will provide them an avenue where they are seen as a sexual being. ... this means that the men who have the least game in day-to-day life, are often the ones who are the most penis-in-your-face on CM.


Hear hear!



littlewonder -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 3:06:01 PM)

women aren't more balanced. Obviously you haven't looked around collarme very long have ya?

As for why people do it....simple. Anonymity.

Oh, and I complain alllllll the time about how both men and women dress in real life. It seems to me most people in general don't have a clue on how to wear clothes that are stylish or even fit correctly or even clean. Unfortunately it seems to be getting worse over the years. I've lived all over the place and the only place I've ever been where I saw both men and women dressing nicely and decently was in NYC and one of the reasons why I LOVED going there.



Etruscano -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 3:09:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Servant4Queen
cock shots are not popular , but many men show it because its the only opportunity to show our "private" parts EVER.


I think that's it.

Men rarely get experience leading with their privates, while women do it starting at puberty, so the women are experts at it while the men are kludges.

Just like Spirit Day at high school, here's what I propose to solve the problem:

Once a month, we have Penis Day. Men get to dress for success in corporate life and casual attire the world 'round, by leading with their cocks.

That would give them the experience to handle collarme the way the lady folk do!



FelineFae -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 3:09:53 PM)


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ORIGINAL: asiansubmissie


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
I think a lot of people on the site, both male and female, feel desexualized in real life, and hope that CM will provide them an avenue where they are seen as a sexual being. ... this means that the men who have the least game in day-to-day life, are often the ones who are the most penis-in-your-face on CM.


Hear hear!


i think there are a great many people that are upset that even after a hard day's work, they can't be nude in their own homes because of room-mates or such.

Websites like CM allow folks to be as they desire.



littlewonder -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 3:14:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

Too long - you're guilty of overanalysing.

Men peacock their personalities because this is what attracts women and while they're looking in the outside world, they'll do so with the possibility of having her as a regular fuck-buddy, a friend, a girlfriend or even a serious relationship.

Online, when a man shows his cock, it's because he wants to attract a dirty slut he can fuck and forget about. You can sure as shit bet he's not looking for a girl he can take home to meet mama.


This. Absolutely this.



Blankpain -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 3:19:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

Men peacock their personalities because this is what attracts women ... in the outside world,


Men peacock their houses all the time.
Men peacock their red corvette all the time.
Men peacock their vacation home in Tahoe all the time.

Men peacock all the time. They just peacock different things here on CM.

But they're not used to this. In the real world, they're experienced at how to peacock for women.

Here, in sexland, they're actually very inexperienced at it. And it shows.



Snitch -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 3:26:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

women aren't more balanced. Obviously you haven't looked around collarme very long have ya?



I think what was meant wasn't mental balance but that their actions in real life were similar to their action in fet life while the man's action in fet life wasn't at all balanced with his actions in real life.

As to why? I'm guessing it is that they're just inexperienced at it as someone said prior.

Women are more experienced, hence more balanced.



littlewonder -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 3:35:15 PM)

and again not true.

Women don't run around with their boobs hanging out and showing their cunts openly in public.

But come on here and you will see it just as often as you see men's cocks hanging out.

It's no different whatsoever.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/1/2013 3:47:05 PM)

Who the HELL says that men are far less balanced than women????

You smoking crack?



stephINca -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 4:02:42 PM)

Cocks are just not pretty don't care how you doll em up. I don't mind looking at the ones in creative bondage. Free ideas are always welcome [:D]



kdsub -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/1/2013 5:01:14 PM)

Very well said sexyred and yes you are one of the intelligent women. And I believe you do understand and I am not suggesting you do not have the right to not like cock shots for instance.

My point is we, meaning men in general, are different in some basic ways when it comes to sex and life in general and visual stimulation in particular.

I was addressing my comments to the women that just can't do as you do and ignore posts of that type or tell the sender your views on his subject. The women i am talking about just can't shut up about men’s nature and do it in a way that shows the faults of women in men’s eyes.

Lets face it...most men, at least those I have met and most I see on line, think women talk to damn much...drama everywhere and it takes an hour to say what men say in seconds...and most of all bitch bitch bitch. This is what men say to each other when we talk of women...being general here of course.

We generally say the above when we can’t get our way or right after arguments with our significant others.

The descriptions in my last few posts describing men and women and their differences are really not true but we as a particular sex do keep the stereotype going. Thus showing our true differences.

Butch



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