RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L?

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JeffBC -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 12:50:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Unfortunately, guys, you can't argue Des' point. Even if we are tolerant as you would like, it's not going to improve our impression of you. We know you are reaching to be appreciated visually as a sexual being but our instincts don't work that way. The sight of you becomes a lot more enticing after we have gotten to know more than the physical. It reminds me of a woman who wants to show how competent and capable she is by "being one of the boys". I can be very tolerant of such behavior. But the rub is that when I'm looking for a partner, I'm not looking for a boy. I'm looking for a girl. So "one of the boy" type behaviors are tolerated but that woman isn't going to be going out to dinner with me.

Level -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 1:32:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Level The desire to be one's self, to be chosen for it, is stronger than the desire to "sell" themselves, for some. Even if that means being a dick, or waving it around like a lasso. It's a situation of either accepting the situation you've created or changing your approach to appeal to the "buyer". Agreed.

LaTigresse -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/2/2013 1:41:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kdsub quote: ORIGINAL: Level This site is seen by many, if not most, as sexual in nature. Many males thus think the women here won't mind, or want to "share" the male's sexuality. Level I'm a glutton for punishment but... this is so true and it's amazing that many, otherwise intelligent, women here on CM can't at least understand this and be tolerant. Just as we as men are expected to decipher the minds of women on this site so should women make the same effort. Instead they spend an inordinate amount of time complaining as if this will change the nature of men. All and all I believe men try far harder to please women on this site then women men. We are different creatures with different needs and we feel the world with different emotions. Lets just check back on these kinds of threads…who is bitching over and over…bitch bitch bitch. The only choice for women is learn to understand us and help us understand you or spend useless lives waiting for the perfect man that dresses as they like….watches the correct television programming…enjoys chick flicks…and never looks at porn. Butch I think you are looking at the issue from a very lopsided perspective. I find naked bits displayed in any sort of public manner to be crass, and often times disgusting. I also have the ability to mostly, ignore it. Personally, if a guy wants to show a photo of his dick......well.....yay. The problem is that, there is an exponentially higher number of men whining about their inability to find their female S.O. than women. It's as though they want to behave like morons but be treated as though they were fucking geniuses, then whine when they are patting on the head and told to go back to elementary school and learn something. So yeah, you (general) guys wanna behave like crass little toads, have a party. But don't whine when the princesses don't give you kisses to turn you into their own special princes. Keep spinning in your tracks and getting no where. It really makes no never mind to the women, as far as I can tell. They will call the guys out on their crass little ways.......which in my mind has nothing at all to do with bitching.....and move on to another guy they find more appealing. All while laughing at the guys they view as crass toads. Especially when the toads start whining about never finding anyone. Everyone is fake. All the dominant women want their money.....yada yada yada. Cuz yeah, you want the good seafood baby, you gotta use better bait and tackle. In this pond, toads are the bottom feeders that will get left behind.

egern -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 2:50:59 PM)
quote: QUESTION: Why is it that a decent number men are clearly more unbalanced than the women - while the women as a whole, are clearly more balanced, yet less restrained, than the men? I believe there is a lot to be said for the showing yourself theory. At a camp I was on, a lot of men loved to walk around naked, often shaving themselves for an unimpeded look. They claimed the right to be seen as sex objects, and simply loved to be looked at. I was in a position to acommodate them, as I like men's genitial and find them lovely, and a proud penis in the air is simply so life-confirming :-) But I do not like penis shots, because there isn't a person attached, and because it isn't the first or most important thing I want to know about a person.

nighthawk3569 -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 5:34:52 PM)
quote: most heterosexual men are attracted to a woman's body, period, whether clothed or not. That's just a fact of life. It's what sells a lot of men's magazines and what drives part of the porn industry - scantily clad and/or naked women Not just 'men's magazines and porn'. Sex(i.e. scantily clad[or naked]women)sells anything and everything. 'hawk

littlewonder -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 5:38:55 PM)
imo, if you are a man and the only thing about a woman you seem to notice are the photos of the women who are scantily clad, it says to me that they are the only women you are interested in. You definitely are not interested in a woman for their mind or interests or anything else or otherwise every single post of yours would not be about the way women display themselves. You know, I don't really ever notice all the photos of cocks on here or online because why would I? I'm not interested in them and I tend to just shrug my shoulders and move onto the next profile, if I was still looking.

KidCongo -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 6:04:39 PM)
Can I just quickly point out not all men are trying to attract a woman.There were some other sexual orientations I remember hearing about... If we accept for the moment the supposition that those who put photos of their todgers on display have no intention of actually finding a woman for the purposes of real life interaction,then what can we infer from those that put NO pictures on the site? As we all here know,or suspect,men,being the less complicated,(or sophisticated)gender that we are,we tend to respond in large part to visual cues ,does this mean a similar thing?Or will the xx chromosomaly equipped counter that they are weeding out those men who are not capable of, or inclined to seek the more cerebral elements in a companion?Lets watch and see...

LadyPact -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/2/2013 7:34:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KidCongo Can I just quickly point out not all men are trying to attract a woman.There were some other sexual orientations I remember hearing about... If we accept for the moment the supposition that those who put photos of their todgers on display have no intention of actually finding a woman for the purposes of real life interaction,then what can we infer from those that put NO pictures on the site? As we all here know,or suspect,men,being the less complicated,(or sophisticated)gender that we are,we tend to respond in large part to visual cues ,does this mean a similar thing?Or will the xx chromosomaly equipped counter that they are weeding out those men who are not capable of, or inclined to seek the more cerebral elements in a companion?Lets watch and see... Nobody is contesting that point. If you are a guy, looking for a guy, knowing that your target audience IS visually stimulated just by the naked form, those cock shots and ass shots are probably working for you. Have you ever seen any of the comments from those asking, "why are all these gay guys viewing" when the subject is straight? Well, it's because you are putting up shots that attract gay men, rather than women. What can we infer when someone does not have a photo of themselves for public viewing? That not all people can be "out" as far as a kinky lifestyle goes. They have jobs they can't afford to lose or family that they are afraid might come across it. We can't always believe that no photo means a nefarious purpose. Even I'm not jaded enough for that.

mnottertail -> RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when it comes to peacocking genitalia R/T vs O/L? (2/4/2013 6:55:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subinsilicon How could a mare NOT see a horse cock? She is usually looking the other way when the big dirty is about to be consummated, it is a physical thing....

kdsub -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 8:40:13 AM)
quote: I think you are looking at the issue from a very lopsided perspective I am a bit lopsided some would say...But I think you missed my point... I am not saying you should not react to cock shots in any manner you want...Only that it is typical, as this site and others reinforce, that men will display cocks and there is no sense bitching about it...It gets JUST as tiresome hearing women complain about cocks as you receiving them. And on top of it all men must endure…lol… just as many sagging tits and gaping pussies as you cocks and you don’t hear us complaining. Butch

LadyPact -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 9:47:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kdsub I am a bit lopsided some would say...But I think you missed my point... I am not saying you should not react to cock shots in any manner you want...Only that it is typical, as this site and others reinforce, that men will display cocks and there is no sense bitching about it...It gets JUST as tiresome hearing women complain about cocks as you receiving them. And on top of it all men must endure…lol… just as many sagging tits and gaping pussies as you cocks and you don’t hear us complaining. Butch Out of curiosity, Butch, I wanted to ask about this. Granted, I'm not one to cruise women's profiles. Most of the time, if I notice somebody has a cock shot as a primary photo, it's because I see the avatar on the forums or because somebody has crossed My 'who's viewing' page with the swinging Richard in plain view. I just don't see the gaping pussy shots nearly as often or even that many crotch shots covered by panties as forum avatars. Do you really think genital shots are posted as frequently by women as men?

kdsub -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 9:59:55 AM)
quote: I just don't see the gaping pussy shots nearly as often or even that many crotch shots covered by panties as forum avatars. Do you really think genital shots are posted as frequently by women as men? Perhaps more LadyPact...again we men are different and when bored I from time to time avail myself of the browse photos link... Try it and just count the various bits of women to men... Or when signing on before logging in to Collarme check the photos there at the bottom of the page... I am sure that the powers that be know there are more men than women on the site so perhaps they pick women for those photos. And yes often there are more naked women with full frontals or bent over butts with you know what showing than cocks. Just hit any key in the sign in box below then Enter and check a few profiles there. I would love to do a few " print screens " for you but i don't need to be moderated. Butch

LadyPact -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 10:12:43 AM)
Thank you for taking the time to explain that. I think I have this on another thread. I actually don't go looking. I figure anything I see on the second photo and beyond is My own fault for seeking it out. That's why My perception revolves around avatars/primary photos that I see show up. I do think you are right about another point. I don't see people speak negatively about the gash shots anywhere near as often as the cock shots.

mnottertail -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 10:26:32 AM)
Double standard, even girls want to look at girlseseses moving parts......

absolutchocolat -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 12:30:43 PM)
FR I made a journal entry when I first joined CM about this very thing, but I think my stance has changed slightly. I enjoy flipping through profiles and looking at beautiful faces, clothing and bodies. It's the brown-eye-to-the-sky pose that irks my nerves. I'm sorry, none of you would look good to me bent over with your cheeks spread. Yuck. Also, I like the cock shots, because it tells me don't bother to read the profile. I don't hide them either. They serve as a reminder of what kind of man I don't want -- a dick, a prick, a jerk-off and someone who thinks with the little head instead of the big one. Darwinism at work, as far as I am concerned.

Pyramus -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 1:51:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Double standard, even girls want to look at girlseseses moving parts...... This, I'm told, is true. Certainly I, for one, do NOT wish to look at mens' body parts - but - on the other hand, any women wishing to send me pictures of their body, as close and up front personal as you can get, are ALWAYS welcome! :) "course, I don't 'spect any ... but the point is that mens' parts aren't anything like women's parts. Witness the superbowl, for example.

mnottertail -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 1:54:05 PM)
Yeah, but girls look at girls for different reasons than we do, they treat other girls like REAL objects and are lookin at their shit to see how they compare..........We are lookin to fantasize stuffin some shit into their shit.

cordeliasub -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 2:27:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Yeah, but girls look at girls for different reasons than we do, they treat other girls like REAL objects and are lookin at their shit to see how they compare..........We are lookin to fantasize stuffin some shit into their shit. I see this in a Hallmark card for next Valentine's Day lol [:D] I wonder if the reason women don't seem to be as appreciative of "gratuitous nekkidness" as men do is the same reason that women tend to use porn in the form of novels and men tend to use porn in the form of photographs or poorly made amateur videos (lol). Notice I said "tend to". Yes, some women really get off on Johnny and Suzy humping in the dorm room and some men really like......Nora Roberts. But I think typically it is the other way around. I don't pay much attention to a man's genitals if he has a picture of them, except in those cases where it looks like a giant 18 inch piece of PVC pipe and I therefore KNOW some sort of medical enhancement is going on......Smilin' Bob is not my thing. ;)

Level -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 4:43:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Thank you for taking the time to explain that. I think I have this on another thread. I actually don't go looking. I figure anything I see on the second photo and beyond is My own fault for seeking it out. That's why My perception revolves around avatars/primary photos that I see show up. I do think you are right about another point. I don't see people speak negatively about the gash shots anywhere near as often as the cock shots. There are a fair numberof women showing it all, and I would imagine this emboldens some men to do the same, taking it as a sign that there are women with similar likes.

littlewonder -> RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in "genitalia" profiles? (2/4/2013 5:11:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Double standard, even girls want to look at girlseseses moving parts...... I'll be one of those girlseseses who is not interested in other girlseseses moving parts. I just find them just as rude as male parts. And I also have no attraction to women whatsoever so I don't go seeking them out. If I see anything it's either because Master is looking at something or because they happen to be on my log in page.

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