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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 3/19/2013 9:13:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

How interesting! I'd like to see the results of that - though, I have to admit to being pessimistic that it'll yield many sensible replies.


So far I have a 15% reply rate, with not all send mails being read yet.

I will post resulting stats, and some select answers, once done.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 3/19/2013 9:23:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

Men peacock their personalities because this is what attracts women ... in the outside world,


Men peacock their houses all the time.
Men peacock their red corvette all the time.
Men peacock their vacation home in Tahoe all the time.

Men peacock all the time. They just peacock different things here on CM.

But they're not used to this. In the real world, they're experienced at how to peacock for women.

Here, in sexland, they're actually very inexperienced at it. And it shows.


Please don't generalize. There are alphas here also. They understand having not just one card but a full hand to play.



Methinks someone doth protest too much.

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 3/22/2013 5:58:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your assumption is that the one in the profile had a choice in which pictures were going to be displayed. In my case, the pictures where chosen by my Owner, to show everyone i am Her property and how She desires to decorate my flesh as an expression of Her ownership.

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 3/22/2013 6:01:47 PM   
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Your assumption is that the one in the profile had a choice in which pictures were going to be displayed. In my case, the pictures where chosen by my Owner, to show everyone i am Her property and how She desires to decorate my flesh as an expression of Her ownership.

geo



Um, yes. The discussion is in reference to guys that are advertising themselves looking for women.

As for you, friend, good luck with your situation. I hope that all those tattoos and piercings prove to be worth it for you.

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 3/22/2013 6:26:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		cuz one ball is bigger than the other and offset to prevent collision,,, and there a lack of balance ,,, ta dah!

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 3/22/2013 6:30:59 PM   
geoOct1st


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Status: offline 		Ms. Baroana,

Thank You for Your words of luck, but i am not sure i will need luck as long as i continue to serve in the capacity Mistress Marielle requires.

Before i was owned, my profile picture was of myself, naked and kneeling, i was facing the camera, arms on the floor and my nose touching the carpet. The view You would see was the top of my head, my back/shoulders and derrière. Nothing i would have considered vulgar or distasteful.

But then, i was looking for a long term commitment, not a passing playmate and my focus was not that of sexual gratification, but of a service oriented D/s relationship.

When You look at my "Joined" date it reflects this profile Mistress Marielle required i open, not my original profile. New life, new profile....... i have been here for numerous years.....

geo

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 3/23/2013 12:02:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I occasionally post a cock shot. I'm new to this but I'm deeply drawn to this lifestyle, submission and themes involving being directed, controlled, humiliated. Yeah, it doesn't make logical or rational sense to me, and frankly I'm conflicted about all of this (i could go into Jungian analysis and talk about the discrete parts of personality and the un-owned self in the Shadow, but you get the idea).

So for me, posting a cock shock (although very foolishly one that also includes my face, my identity) is probably a form of yearning. I long to be heard, to be seen, to have someone witness my feelings. And yeah, the cock shot is probably lost on most or all women who may come across it. But for me it's a deep form of expression of arousal and of a profound desire for connection with another, that my feelings may be witnessed and that I may feel vulnerable and exposed to another. And perhaps accepted. But acceptance without risk of rejection is meaningless...

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 3/23/2013 6:42:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is such a biased post.Typical man hating women.Like most of you women aren't crazy yourself

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 4/2/2013 11:41:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I prefer people to represent themselves in a way they want to be seen it is pointless hiding behind a vale of decency particularly on a website like this.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/2/2013 1:22:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		1. I don't find many men with pictures of their penis.

2. I certainly don't want that on a profile picture. I want to see if I find his face even and his clothes look good and if he's fat - so not just the face but the body shape and just whether I fancy that look (never once found a man with facial hair attractive for example)

3. Some men know what attracts many women and others don't really know. I don't know why some do and some not (I just got in from seeing someone and so thinking about these things). I don't know why as I don't think it's very hard to get it right.

I certainly don't think men are less balanced than women. Many humans/people, both genders are not very successful, not good looking, over weight and the average IQ is only 100 so I don't think anyone can expect most people anywhere unless you choose your target group very carefully mostly to be much good.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/2/2013 4:42:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006
certainly don't think men are less balanced than women.


Just to reiterate ...

The "balance" and "imbalance" part was that the men, in normal life, do NOT (in general) walk around with primary & secondary sexual characteristics highlighted and nearly exposed - yet - on collarme - many men (not all but many) clearly expose themselves.

Yet, on the other hand ...

The women - clearly some women anyway - and certainly everyone on this forum will see a few in the next week - certainly DO highlight and nearly expose their primary and secondary sexual characteristic quite frequently in the 'real world' - and on this forum - at least in profile pictures - certainly they do so as frequently (but not necessarily more or less frequently).

Hence, in summary:
- Men don't in public - but (often) do here (on the net) ...
- While women do the same thing in both places.

Or so it seems.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/2/2013 10:15:32 PM   
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I've never ended up meeting someone online that resulted in a relationship when they had a cock shot in their profile (whether as their primary pic, or even a secondary one). In other words, I've corresponded and even had coffee with men who had - but ultimately those have never worked out. Fundamentally, I think the kind of man who would use a cock shot is just not that compatible with me as a human being. But I don't claim to represent all women on this issue. These men must be having some measure of success (or deriving some other benefit) to be putting these pics up. Otherwise I have to draw the conclusion that they are just plain stupid.
I don't tend to want men naked around me at all, unless I've removed his clothing, for playtime, or intimacy purposes. At a minimum, I like boxers on. Having said that, I've learned to not be offended by cock shots/naked butt/naked pictures at all. However, the men who think this way, offering naked photos that I never requested, usually possess a type of thinking, that eventually shows that we are incompatible.

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So, unless a man with a cock shot is complaining that he isn't meeting enough women on a site like this, I could care less what he is using as his pic. But if he is complaining, then he ought to take heed to the feedback that most women are giving, And if he's happy, let him use whatever pic he wants.
True enough. I don't strongly feel anything about the fact that it's being done, or even working for some of them, as long as they don't come around complaining about difficulty meeting a serious partner. Different strokes... M

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/5/2013 1:55:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think some women protest too much, since they're guilty of the showing-sex infraction day in and day out, almost every day of their lives - but - yet - they don't want to see the men do the same out here.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/5/2013 8:25:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subinsilicon

I think some women protest too much, since they're guilty of the showing-sex infraction day in and day out, almost every day of their lives - but - yet - they don't want to see the men do the same out here.

Hmm, well I don't show my vagina in the every day world public, nor do I show it here. And most men do not show their penises out there in the every day world public, but many DO show them here. That's the point of this thread, I believe.

However, women do show T&A here, and not so much in the general public. I think the only real difference is who is showing genitals. It seems more men show pics of penises than women show pics of vaginas. I think, in general, men are more visually stimulated so they like to show and see all. Women, through movies, media and culture, are taught that T&A is an acceptable form of exposure but the vag must be covered. It's a mindset, I think. You don't see penises and vaginas in your basic R rated movie (or on late night TV) but you do see T&A. So we're conditioned that T&A is sexy and the genital parts are not.

I'm guessing.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/5/2013 11:24:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
Women,... are taught that T&A is an acceptable form of exposure but the vag must be covered


This does seem to be a distinction.

WOMEN: T&A all day - but no kitty - either in R/L or in CM profiles
MEN: Nothing whatsoever in R/L - but half show brazen cock shots in CM profiles

It 'does' seem the women are more balanced than are the men.

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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 4/5/2013 6:07:33 PM   
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RE: Why is it that MEN are less balanced than women in ... - 4/5/2013 7:13:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mechdom1957

It appears that some of us males don't know when to stop talking and


That's hilarious!

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/5/2013 7:18:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Pyramus

QUESTION:
Why do some men appear to utterly lose their sense of decorum in this fetish forum when those very same men clearly dress almost always without offending women in the real world. (And why are women more balanced in this regard.)



I've never lost my sense of decorum.

My car....many times...my keys...more times than I should have....

My decorum.....

Never.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/7/2013 8:59:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not sure I follow the OPs initial point.

In what part of the real world do women routinely display their "primary" and "secondary" genitalia?

Not even sure I know what secondary genitalia are, but, aside from either your penis or vagina, I can't logic it out. So what circumstances exist in the real world where people would expose themselves or be naked? I mean there's strip clubs and strippers, but there are also male strippers. Granted clubs showcasing women's bodies are probably more prevalent, but anything regarding the sex industry isn't the real world.

As far as why men... on an alt website, might be more inclined to wag out the dog. Meh, men like showing off. Also there is something juvenile and fun about exposing yourself. Issues of manners, ettitquette, or when/how you should show someone your cock, are another matter if we're merely talking about people that put a dick pick front and center as a primary profile image.

I'd also say, simple stupidity explains a lot of it. People think this site is private, or exclusive. They're wrong. People often times do things they normally wouldn't do, when they think no one will ever "see" them.

As far as why men do this more than women? I have no answer for that, I'd honestly say... there might be some merit to the idea that the impulse is not restricted to men. That maybe, women just get shamed more, and are repressed, and there for there is so much intrensic baggage associated with nudity, that they feel compelled not to reveal themselves out of some semblance of "fear"/decorum.

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RE: Why are MEN far less BALANCED than women ... when i... - 4/7/2013 11:44:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: veritas723
In what part of the real world do women routinely display their "primary" and "secondary" genitalia?


Primary and secondary sexual characteristics are just what you'd think they are.
Primary ones you're born with, and secondary ones develop later.
However, people don't hold to those so closely as the simple T&A being considered secondary by most, while kitty is primary.
For men, while pubic hair, for example, is a secondary sexual characteristic ... from a practical sense ... there are no male secondary characteristics for the purpose of this thread ... simply because men are different than women in this way.

Disclaimer: This isn't a technical explanation; just a pragmatic one.

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So what circumstances exist in the real world where people would expose themselves or be naked?


You've never seen nearly exposed T&A in the USA and elsewhere?

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I mean there's strip clubs and strippers, but there are also male strippers.


OK. I see where you're coming from. You're taking this way too literally.
What is meant by showing secondary characteristics is wearing a low-cut blouse. A short tight skirt. A tight pair of pants. A see-through top. A thong bathing suit. That kind of stuff.

Men just don't do that, for the most part, in the real world ... while women do it all the time (not all women, mind you, but enough that you can't possibly say you haven't seen it within the last week). If you have not seen overexposed T&A within the past week, then you've been living in a cave - or maybe California is just different than from where you hail.

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As far as why men do this more than women?

I think the point wasn't that men do it more or less - but that men just don't do it in the real world and women do - yet - in the CM world, men do it while women still do. We were merely discussing how this behavioral observation appeared imbalanced, to some.

REAL WORLD MEN: Don't strut their stuff (generally)
CM WORLD MEN: Some strut their stuff (painfully obviously)
.....
REAL WORLD WOMEN: If they have it, they flaunt it (frequently)
CM WORLD WOMEN: If they have it, they flaunt it (same as in the real world)

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PS: Did you go to Harvard?


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