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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/17/2013 7:57:34 PM

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When you sub what is your motivation for what you do, in that are you there for the sexual gratification or other ?

For me, it's not about sex either. I submit because I genuinely enjoy pleasing other people, and seeing that satisfied look on her face is all I ask for. Different people have different fetishes, and I'm always curious to experience whatever it is that a particular domme loves to do.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/22/2013 1:49:22 AM

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I'm not a sub. I'm a bottom. Also known as, a 'do me' sub. Because I'm not a sub. Slap me around just to slap me around and I'll knock you on your ass.

Without a trace of embarrassment.

So, what's wrong with that?

Oh! You want me to wash dishes. I do that. And you want me to do laundry. I do that. And you want me to vacuum. I do that. And you want me to mow the lawn. I do that. And you want me to wash the car. I do that. And you want me to go get groceries. I do that. And you want me to cook. I do that, tho not so well. And you want me to tackle the various bits of home maintenance as they pop up. I do that, very well. There is nothing this side of the sidewalk I can't handle.

There is probably two or three more that belong in that list. Like, swapping the motor. And what do you suppose happens if some idiot threatens my Lady?

A relationship is by nature one of 'service'. If you don't support your S.O. you lose 'em. But service is not more to me than what it takes to maintain. It is not exciting, at all. It's just household chores. Work, if you will pardon my French. I'm not on this site hoping to meet someone to wash dishes for. I'm hoping to meet someone compatible and kinky.

And for the best of all possible reasons. A relationship without kink is not kinky. And one with kink IS. Do you see the difference?

Now. Shall we guess what is missing in my life?

Kinky sex.

I washed dishes just a few hours ago.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/25/2013 8:38:25 PM

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When I first discovered BDSM, D/s, etc it was in magazines at the newsstand long ago. So yeah, at that point for a horny young guy, it was a sexual thing that attracted me. But sex by itself is ultimately a hollow experience without something behind it. Ok, I'll say it, LOVE. For me that has to be in it. With it, I will happily do things for her just receiving a smile as reward. Without it, what IS the point? This past weekend I was at The Woodshed for the Sensual Domination class after the Orlando Munch. A Domme sat down beside me to watch as well. When the chair in front of her was filled blocking her view I offered to switch chairs so she could see. I had an unobstructed view. She accepted with a thank you and a beautiful smile. That made my day. I was able to be of service in a small way and got to see a dream woman smile at me. No, she doesn't love me. She doesn't even know me but there was a kind spirt behind those eyes to which I could fall for deeply.

The harsh, mean and uncaring types may appeal to some for some reason but I'll avoid that abuse to my spirit.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/25/2013 9:12:50 PM

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Just a curious question that just struck me.

Would you do the same for someone who did not smile at you or thank you? Would you be helpful or do something for someone even though they never gave you some kind of appreciation in the end?

Like I said, just a curious question. I'm just wondering because it struck me that the reason I do things for others is a little different and so I was just wondering how others are.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/26/2013 9:31:54 AM

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I hold doors for people all the time not expecting anything. It gives me a smile when I can help a parent with stroller get through the door or elderly or handicapped. I have had other situations where, when all was said and done, I felt a bit like a used tissue afterward. Would I do the same again? Yes. There is joy in the act of service but, for me, some pain without even an simple acknowledgement.

I was overjoyed that i was acknowledged by that Mistress. Perhaps that's a failing of mine but i will hold it as special just the same.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/26/2013 9:36:01 AM

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That doesn't sound like a failing at all to me, OddBall.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/26/2013 10:16:21 AM

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Thank you for your answer. Like I said, I was just curious is all since I do many things for many people and I never worry about an acknowledgment and I actually find them to be weird for me. For example, I do lots of things for Master just because they need to be done, not because it was required of him or he asked me or anything else...it just needed done. Afterwards, he will usually tell me how happy he is with me or say thank you or something similar. My response is usually something along the lines of why. To me it was just normal. I'm not saying it doesn't feel good to hear those words from him but at the same time it's just strange to me.

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/26/2013 5:23:11 PM

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I've thought a bit more about this and here's something else to consider.

I tend to work odd hours, there's no real fixed pattern, but often nights are spent working or finishing paperwork. That means often when I do consider popping to a munch in the area it's not really possible because it ends up as a last minute thought and not a pre-booked appointment.

So I end up meeting most people just out there in the world...through friends, through work, heck even through a hobby or two. It's been my experience in the past that if you tell someone that you like bondage their immediate reaction is to think of being hand-cuffed to a headboard. I've had a few partners in the past confused about the idea that I like to be placed in bondage. More recently my play partner has been re-introducing me to submission and the more service focused aspect of that.

My point...which I guess I made in a long rambling way is that maybe some 'kinks & fetishes' become sexualised because that is how people are first introduced to it.

That said I could be talking complete rubbish here and I suspect that I'm off the mark. I'm just trying to air out a thought that's been rattling around I guess...I'll head back to my hole and tie my hands safely away from the keyboard for a while!

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/26/2013 9:23:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

One other thought -- and I kinda alluded to this with my "undercurrent" comment.

The OP references both "sexual gratification" and "it being (or not being) all about sex". I'm not saying that he is contradicting himself, but there is an important (IMHO) distinction to be made here.

In my experience, a given activity can produce sexual gratification without being about sex. For instance, just for the heck of it, I once bought a Mistress an inexpensive* dress. Now I had no expectation of any sexual favors being done as a "thank you" or even having things turned up a notch or two on sexual stuff that would occur anyway. And yet, I had a raging hard-on while buying that dress.

* (It wasn't inexpensive because I'm cheap. Rather, if she didn't like it, I was just going to eat the cost as returns are a bitch.)

Now was that sexual gratification? Yeah, I think so. Your honor, if it please the court, we'd like to present this erection as Exhibit A. Now it's possible that Exhibit A occurred because the large component of our relationship was of a sexual nature (hence my "undercurrent" comment before).

But was it "about sex"? No, I don't think so. I was buying a regular dress (heck, it wasn't even cut low) with no expectation of anything sexual in return.

I totally get and agree with what you're saying here, wannapleeze. When I have the pleasure of pleasing someone, it is a turn on, especially if it involves a male with a good domly nature (whether I'm involved with them or not). I get all warm, tingly and wet in my girly parts. So much fun!

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/27/2013 3:09:36 AM

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Thank you MsGypsey

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RE: Calling Male subs.... - 2/28/2013 4:53:07 PM

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I love this question. I call myself Her slave because She likes hearing it. Id let Her call me whatever She wants. Shes my wife, My Goddess and She loves what I love most doing. I am a certified, dedicated, lifelong addict to white womens feet. Is it sexual....lmfbao....is the Pope catholic? Hell I could give a fuck less about tit size, plump or skinny asses,height, weight, hair, eyes, faces....ah you get my point I think. I have in the past while in the Navy paid hookers to let me sniff and lick their. They mostly did it for the money. I knew they were not really into it. Paying always proved less than satisfying. I thought joining some bdsm sites would lead me to foot fullfillment. NOT! Oh reading past profiles, tons of them DEMANDING tribute, meaning cash, well I quickly ignore them. You see, for me, its not about women having me feed their superioty egos. No no friends, homey dontplay that! All my life ive been rideculed, laughed at and called vile names because of my foot fetish. Yet its ok to be gay, lesbo, eat poop, ssuck on used condoms.... But to love sniffing female feet, warm and sweaty from a long jog, of fresh from being squished in heels 8 hours, golly only some sicko hoof and mouth idiot would do that. Granted only about 1 out of 150 women actually ENJOY having their feet worshipped. Now im no PhD or blue blood ivy league educated so my numbers arent written in stone. I am not the best speller here either nor do I possess above average command of the English language, yet I do speak from my heart. Im not disrespecting none of yalls lifestyles. If your happy doing what you do, you sure as Hell dont need approval from me, nor I anyone elses. It did take me a long time to find a woman who actually enjoys having me enjoy her feet. I dont have to ask her permission, beg her, PAY her, I am free to kiss lick tounge bathe her feet at anytime, and I do. Some women in the past liked it at first. Something new, never had her feet kissed before, ect, ect, ect. The thrill soon wore off though. Many simply say, "i hate my feet touched", "youre a sick freak", or my favorite, "touch my feet and I will kick you in you face!" Lol, yup, heard that alot. Is O/our marriage give and take? Yessiree!! She loves being eaten out. Not one of my personal favorites, yet it pleases Her so I do it with gusto. Also, gulp, she is an ass freak. Well..... do I give up da booty? Well yeah. Do I like it? Fuck no!!! Hell even though she does have tiny hands THEY HURTWHEN SHOVED IN ME. Call me a cry baby if you must. Im trying to "relax" like She says but dayyammn. Shes talking about fisting me!! She says after a while Shes buying strap ons. Gulp!! Yet She enjoys me at her feet, which IS my thing. I submit to being Her bitchboy and take my fucking as best I can. She also permits me play time on collar me. I am allowed to seek Dommes, hell women in general who enjoy being verbally worshipped on line. I have found two who I am proudly serving. Thank You collar me owners for affording me such a wonderful site. And thanks for allowing me to express myself freely. I wish Y/you A/all good health, long lives, and grand success in Y/your endeavors.

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